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Simple: dump him.
Why stay with someone that you know is taking you for granted and doesn't appreciate you?
... and before anyone says, "But I love him!"
That might be the case, but if he cared for you back, do you really think he would be taking advantage of you? He knows he can get away with it because you allow him.
You -can- call him out on it, and ask him if he can try and be more considerate of you and your needs. But usually people like that know what they're doing and only respond to you treating them how they treat you (give him a taste of his own medicine basically), or you leave him- which honestly, the latter is just easier.20 Reply
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Figure out what would make you feel more appreciated and rely that into actionable requests or 'calls to chivalry' and see what he does.
To start, tell him that you want him to plan a date once a week outside the house.
If he pouts about how expensive it is, tell him the goal isn't about money but spending time together. Tell him to get off his high horse and use the internet to Google free date ideas (trust me there are plenty).
Typically after a few weeks of dates, he should start to be reprogrammed into the habit of taking you out regularly. He'll probably appreciate you more because he enjoys the time spent, he was just not prioritizing it. Usually that's what most guys need, just a small reminder to get back on track.
If he can't or won't spend intentional time with you once a week doing the small stuff, then yes, dump him.
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communicate... that means both express in a positive way and listen and then make adjustments. Have to be conscious how your frustration comes out because it can come out accusatory rather than lovingly when you are feeling hurt by this. He may not recognize it.
I think it's the nature of humans to get comfortable, settled, and then fall into this state. you (both) have to work to stay appreciative, keep things fresh and new, surprise, fun, loving, etc.. That sometimes takes awareness and small changes, good changes. You also have to work to handle stresses and balance life and it's not easy sometimes when both are under load. Then lower expectations but maybe plan something so have something to look forward to.
Failure to respond to your needs is lack of maturity and becomes a problem... can break relationship.10 Reply
1.6K opinions shared on Relationships topic. A. Ask him what's going on. Then verify that what he said is true & reasonable.
B. Be a better girlfriend.
C. Leave.
D. Set boundaries & clearly spell out what you want. Then see what happens.
E. Consider why he's doing it. If it's because he has to work 70 hours/week it's not the same as if he's in Vegas with hookers every weekend. Also depends on what long term plans you have together. If you're both seriously talking about the long term it's different than if you never talked about anything beyond next weekend.00 Reply
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How about you say hey dude I'm tired of you taking me for granted? There's a novel idea. Or you could stop doing whatever he's taking you granted for. Like if you're preparing dinner every night, stop doing that and when he asks where's dinner say I'm not your personal chef. Maybe you could pitch in occasionally or maybe you could cook the whole thing
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Pretty much everyone is in agreement. Dump them.
Maybe they are preoccupied and dont know so try to communicate with them and let them know how you feel, but if they refuse or continue to take you for granted then its best to end the relationship10 Reply 988 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Why do people see that as a bad thing? Gaining the trust and reliant that a person will be there for you is the greatest praise. You have to judge each situation by context and if they really know you, you shouldn't be disappointed in this state. You reached a solid ground for a family to be secure in.
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step 1) communicate
step 2 ) wait
step 3 ) end or continue the relationship depending to if it has no hope.10 Reply - +1 y
Kick him to the curb. This is almost followed by either cheating or abuse.
20 Reply Blame myself for some reason and start thinking something is wrong with me and secretly want to stop doing things for him then feel bad if i dont so the cycle continues
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Talk to him. Literally just do any nice gesture and have a calm conversation about how you feel.
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that was a hard one for me bacause whenever i wanted to talk semsibke to my ex about what he was doing wrong he bever listend he always said sorry he would stop but never did or when i started getting the feelingvhe was cheating he would never speak about it to me just go angry and start his shit then it was my fault he obv didn't want to dace facts that he was doing something wrong he couldnt face them and cause he didn't want to feel guilty for cheatingvon me it was difficult to get a sensible convo from my ex very badly difficult
604 opinions shared on Relationships topic. talk to him about it.
if after a couple conversations nothing long lasting is happening, find a dude who doesn't take you for granted00 Replyif it's i've often, then I will leave it without telling him, like lost without news like being swallowed by a shark
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The spark is gone. What is there to stick around for?
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What do YOU do for your boyfriend? Men get really tired if doing all the work and the woman just shows up.
00 Reply 605 opinions shared on Relationships topic. When they drift away, let them.
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Always go and cry about it to random strangers than talking about it head on.
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I start packing my stuff!
10 Reply Find another boyfriend
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Withold sex and masturbate in front of him.
00 Reply 2.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic. You shut up and give him head.
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Now that's a righteous answer!
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wrong answer big time thats just showing u will give in to easy nd he wontvlearn his lesson or change his filthy granted ways
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So you should say to bye
10 Reply don't be granted
00 Replycheat on him
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wrong answer well i wouldn't i would just say to him iam leaving him and find someone I've been cheated on or been takin for granted guy i just ledt cause he cheated on me for two years of our relashionship and i was with him for 3 this mute sound silly but I've had it done to many times i would do it to them cause its not nice i would rather just be truthful and say goodbye
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Leave him
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