Why do men hit on girls when they can see that they are having a good time without them?

Question

Friday nights we have a girls night out, and there are many of us, so why do some men try to get at us,

WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

I think for guys, the idea of a Girls’ Night is kind of foreign to us. Like we have Boys’ Nights, of course, but that usually involves just hanging out at someone’s house eating unhealthy foods and crushing beers, watching a game or playing cards, all that. We’re not putting on our best outfits and going out and dancing with each other. When we put on our best outfits and go out dancing, it’s not Boys’ Night, it’s Try To Get Laid By An Actual Female Human Night, lmfao. I’m not there for fun, or to drink booze, I’m there to hopefully find a woman to either take home or at least put the wheels in motion to pull her at a later date. Otherwise, men would have absolutely no reason to even go to these venues. We’re only there because the ladies are there, that’s the driving attraction, there’s no other sideshow. And we don’t dance with each other as guys the way girls do, there’s absolutely nothing at the club for us BUT the women. That’s it, that’s the whole thing, there’s no other “fun”
that happens for us, we’re out there in full hunting mode. And I think most guys just see a group of women at a club, and we assume our mentalities are the same. We’re here to hook up, like why else would you even come here, as we see it. The concept of just dancing in a group with my male buddies is the opposite of a good time to me, that would be so fucking weird of us to do. It’s just different for gals, I don’t get it, but it just is.

So…on our end, of course if you tell us it’s Girls’ Night and you don’t want to dance, that’s on us to respect it and back off. But again, remember, to men, the club might as well just be the “Sex With Women store”, that’s 100% of the reason we showed up there, whether we’re looking for a hook-up or a long-term girlfriend. So we’re just like “oh, well, naturally, since we think this way, the women must also think they’re coming to the “Sex With Men store”, hoping like us to not go home empty-handed. To us, why in the world would you even come here if you weren’t looking for that? Like I said, we don’t dress up for each other or dance with each other the way women do, and I think most people just assume everyone else is just thinking how they think, but apparently, there’s a HUGE disconnect in this regard.

So I guess what I’m saying is, you can’t expect guys to just see a group of girls together and assume they’re having a Girls’ Night, we need to be told that you’re closed for business, because we walk into the club assuming everyone who showed up is open for business otherwise they wouldn’t bother coming in the first place. If it’s not respected from there, you have every right to be annoyed. But just know that your very presence at the club, to most men, signals interest in being approached.

Iron_Man · Accepted Answer

Desperate thirsty people I never bother girls when they’re with their friends

Gwenhwyfar · Accepted Answer

Cause they’re horny and they’re hoping you are too (and knowing you girl once in a while they’re right 😊. Just not on Girls Night.)

dustybiker · Accepted Answer

People are attracted to shiny things. They want some too.

Finchie40 · Answer

Cuz they want to get laid , That’s why most guys in relationships get upset about their girls going out for Girl’s night cuz Guys know what other guys are thinking , most girls get upset with their men cuz they think he is being insecure and doesn’t trust me , it has a little to do with that , but it mainly comes down to respect for each other , One thing I witnessed was Girl’s night is a lot crazier than guys night , Most guys will go to a friends house and drink beer and talk about guy things , where most Girls get dressed up and go to clubs or bars where there are a bunch of thirsty men looking to get laid , it’s not that her man doesn’t trust her , but he might not trust her if things have been bad in the relationship, but mainly he doesn’t trust the men that she will be hanging around , and he feels he isn’t there to protect her if some random guy comes up to her and starts flirting with her , Most girl’s will say oh I can protect myself and sadly she can’t , if she is tipsy and the alcohol is taking over her , I worked as a bouncer at a bar and sadly I have witnessed more girls’ cheating on their men , To the point it was sad to see , I would have husbands and boyfriends come up to me and ask if I have seen his wife or girlfriend and show me a picture of her , the fucked up thing was yes I did see her , but I wasn’t allowed to tell him , because we knew a fight would break out , so once he walked away , we would go track the girl down and let her know that she had to leave and kick her out the back door ,90 percent of the time she was in another guys arms when we would find her a few times we find the girl getting screwed in the bathroom , crazy shit but , Not once , while I was working there did a girl come to me looking for her man , So when people ask the question on who cheats more? I always say Girls do , just based off of my experiences and what I have witnessed. Why it’s best to not go to places like that when you are in a relationship , unless you go with your partner , it comes down to respect for each other , if you truly love each other , you wouldn’t need those places in your life and put yourself in those situations, respect your partner and think how would you feel if they were doing that to you? One thing I learned in life is your friends come and go , but your partner will be by your side til the end if you respect each other , you should never prioritize friends over your partner , your partner should be your best friend no matter what a real friend respects your relationship a toxic friend will try to pull you away from your relationship , if you can’t do that for each other be prepared to be single again. For love to grow we have to remove selfishness and sacrifice for our partners the same way they need to do for us , if you can’t do that for
Your partner don’t be surprised if they end up in someone else’s arms.

Diodoro · Answer

This is something you never see hot girls complaining about. It's the girls the guys don't talk to that have this concern because their idea of a good night is getting all the attention from her friends because the men won't give her attention.

And if the guys do come they'll talk to her friends, taking away from her attention... girl groups where all the girls are pretty cute all have an understanding that if their girl meets a cool guy she likes that they want her to have a good thing

I've never seen it not be like that unless it's the ugly friend who isn't getting male attention. Like sure, Maybe keep guys off your friend if she's too drunk to stand but that's not what you or I'm talking about. Just generally speaking

This is a DUFF concern

globetrotter22 · Answer

Often the guy just doesn’t know any better. Men aren’t mind readers. Also there is a lot of pressure on us to approach women and if we we will stay alone. If a woman sees an attractive guy more of then not she WANTS him to approach her more then vice versa.

Anyway I know you might get annoyed but please use your best judgment in these scenarios. If you go to clubs and bars there will ALWAYS be guys looking to approach you. Always. That’s the ñame of the game.

If he’s polite and friendly just politely tell him you are not interested. If he’s rude and aggressive tell him to f*ck off. More often than not he just doesn’t know what’s going on.

Rupp87 · Answer

Speaking as a member of the male gender the term "get at us " is lost on me personally I've never got at anybody but i am aware of the type i only ask not to judge us all by guys that are A. Perverts. B. creeps C. Guys that can't hold their alcohol i can say honestly some guys just go out to have guys night out too and there's some ladies that try to "Get at us" but we take it differently usually unfortunately its apart of going out and having fun some people ruin it for others.

IMuser · Answer

It would be helpful if you can have an accessory which says "i am with my girls tonight and not for men"

As an answer here stated, men have nothing to do at a club except to approach a woman

If a man wants to get a drink, he will go to a bar and have a drink peacefully.

rabbitzzz · Answer

Man sees sad girl, hits her up
Man sees happy girl, hits her up
Man sees immature girl, hits her up
Man sees mature girl, hits her up
Man sees girl having bad time, hits her up
Man sees girl having good time, hits her up
Man sees poor girl, hits her up
Man sees rich girl, hits her up

Quigly · Answer

They don't realize you are a homosexual. They think the other girls you are with are just friends and nothing more.

Seriously, if you hate men and want to stay single for the rest of your life just wear a wedding ring. These are not difficult problems to solve.

dontknocmebumpy · Answer

because girls want to be avoided and dont want guys to do the approaching, you want to do the approaching all yourselfs, male should not be the one who approach right? wrong? oh really, make your fucking minds up, ok nevermind we will jus sit back and do nothing let you girls do the approaching since u hate getting hit on so much, jus dont complain about it, this is the choice u have stuck with,

Raaj4you · Answer

You girls / women preen for men. You want attention from boys / men. Your subconscious mind wants to find a boy/ man for sex. Both men and women crave for sex equally even if both gender don't admit it. You girls after enjoying consensual sex, play victim card and say boy / man used me.

dolemite89 · Answer

that’s a weird way of looking at it, why should men be expected to take into account your bitchy little girls night out bubble? r u one of those mother hens that’s like we all came together we’re all leaving together to your girlfriends at the bar? it’s always a fat girl with a very clean car that’s jealous her friends are getting flirted with and she’s not 🤣🤣

Anonymous · Answer

Probably for same reason women hit on guys when they can see they're having a good time without them. For some reason at least every other time I'm at a concert or music festival. I'll be dancing, drinking, and having a good time. And some woman that I not only never even looked at but never even knew was there will walk up to me and start hitting on me.

Anonymous · Answer

Why would they not? Plenty of those women would appreciate the attention from the right guy. The issue is that YOU did not appreciate the attention from the men who gave it to you.

But because you women won't approach men, you leave it to us to do it and to try to guess which of you are open to attention and whether or not we are someone you would be interested in.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

Well, maybe it’s not quite obvious you’re having a good time without them. A lot of women can make a group of men want to initiate something more than likely.

Guy13 · Answer

Perhaps, you should go to a Lesbian bar? Cause we want some of that good time. And want to know what you are consuming to be having such a good time

Dragonstarterplus · Answer

Because they shooting their shot and they may get a bite

Lonewulf57 · Answer

So... men should hit on women when they are down, and depressed?

Anonymous · Answer

Because she’d be having more fun w me. As for yourself, we’ll I wouldn’t be hitting on a 50 year old unless she was seriously hot, like Salma Hayek.

jshm2 · Answer

The same reason some Bi and Lesbians, will. They want some of that good times.

Anonymous · Answer

Because fuck you, I'm lonely and trying to do with it. If you don't like it reject me, don't be a cunt about it.

Anonymous · Answer

They don’t realize that is why you are there, they just see women at a club and figure they have a chance, I figured that out years ago and that’s why I don’t waste my time at clubs to pick up anyone since women don’t go there to meet guys

SHB84 · Answer

Because thats how you meet people. There was a time when women didn't act like assaulted victims when a guy would speak to them.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Because men go out looking for women. Women go out looking for attention.

MrtoddsWildRide · Answer

Do you find men more attractive if they look happy or if they look miserable?

Anonymous · Answer

Lady you’re 50. You stopped being a “girl” a long, long time ago.

AndrésC64 · Answer

Maybe they think you look like fun girls. Maybe they think that you could have fun with them.

Surely · Answer

Because just maybe he can split one off from the herd!

Wise4myage · Answer

Some guys just refuse to give up and ego has a lot to do with it.

Anonymous · Answer

Who knows  I view this could be solved with seperating the genders for a few decades maybe half a century even

cummer6972 · Answer

It's a numbers game. The more you play the better the chance you will get laid

Chthou95 · Answer

Are you seriously complaining about this? Why am i not that surprised

Anonymous · Answer

Why do our girlfriends/wives bother us when we are just trying to be with our friends?

exitseven · Answer

They complain but they really love the attention.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Cause they wanna empty their ballsacks in them

jasco · Answer

Because we want sex and why not

Andres77 · Answer

They think you're cougars?

Anonymous · Answer

Some men can not understand what ‘’no’’ means

LegendaryIcon · Answer

get off your high horse hun

CubaPirate · Answer

It's just the nature of the beast lol 😆

Ryfyle · Answer

At 50? I think you might need some meds.

Waldoe · Answer

Needy baby, Greedy baby...

My-lover · Answer

Maybe you are beautiful and wild

Anonymous · Answer

deal with it lol  women man

24_7_Amazing · Answer

I've never done that

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