The idea crossed my mind. An adult man I sometimes worked with told me one day he had been aggressed and raped by a little gang of younger boys one late evening in the street. This was probably a gay hater action (!). Rather odd me seems considering they raped a man for being gay, and to rape, I guess they used their penis !
Which brings me back to something I've been thinking of since many years about people prone to condemn fanatically while having themselves a personal problem with what they're condemning so fiercely. Rape of men seem also to be common in prisons by men wanting to prove who's the boss there. Some basic primitive animal instinct of domination. No offense meant, but still stating.
Usually it’s a different sort stabbing.
There is a lot of male rape that goes on and is not reported.
If I remember correctly it’s between 9,000 and 12,000 reported rapes per year.
Under reporting is worse than for women, as a guy does not want to admit another guy has raped him.
it often comes out a good few years later during counselling.
it does happen, I’ve talk to guys it’s happened to, however it’s not something guys think about.
on a night out, I am invariably alert for trouble from pissed up lads, potential for someone getting knifed, however that’s it.
While living near Birmingham, I would walk through Birmingham city centre at say 2am or later without any problems, whereas it would be very risky for a girl to do it.
It happens, but not something hardly any guy thinks about.
I’ve always wondered this! I feel so terrified walking alone at night and I live in a really safe area so I can’t imagine how bad it would be in a more dangerous place. I worry about rape in a lot more scenarios than just walking at night too
So a guy just walking the same direction would make you paranoid?
Yeah pretty much
What if it is someone you are familiar with?
@Tstrbrainer If it’s someone I know really well like my boyfriend or dad then I wouldn’t be scared, but if it was an acquaintance or anyone else I would still be worried and on edge
I"ve never once thought about being rape I also am curious about how often random rape happens my hypothesis is that date rape is overwhelming the most common form.
Okay
isn't that ironic though because you are overwhelmingly more likely to be raped by your dad or boyfriend than a random stranger
@Vegasrunner in terms of overall statistics yes that is true but in my individual case I know my boyfriend and my dad well and know they won’t rape me? Whereas I’ve had experience with rape and sexual assault with people who I don’t know and acquaintances
I mean overall I dont deal w/ individual cases because that's not reflective of reality.
@Vegasrunner That’s fine but you replied to my comment saying that it’s ironic so I was just letting you know why I am not scared of my dad or boyfriend raping me and why I am more scared of walking alone at night
That's what irony is. Statistically you should be more scared of them.
@Vegasrunner Yeah, but I’m not so it’s all good
Yes for you maybe, but not for most women. If you were a "good person" you would think about what all women have to endure not just you. It's unfortnate that you're only able to think of yourself, especially since the conversation had nothing to do w/ you and was about Men's fears in general.
@Vegasrunner What? Obviously I do think about what other women have to endure, and I feel so horrible for all the women who have experienced sexual assault from anyone including their partner or family members, that’s why I do lots of work locally to raise awareness! I was speaking about my own experience as people replied to my comment asking me about my own personal fears, not the general population’s. Also, I commented on here just saying I’m glad the question was asked because I always wonder what men’s experience is and would like to know more, and also how it compares to women’s experience/feelings. Why are you so hostile/trying to start an argument?
I think mostly they do if they are in jail.
Is that a pregnant dude?
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No I don´t think so that we have a fear of rape because it´s less likely to happen.
But that doesn´t mean that we don´t fear anything it just doesn´t have that special sexual connotation.
We are more likely to fear being beaten down and being robbed or fear physical agression towards.
The only time it even crosses my mind is getting locked up. It gets a little dicey in prison. Walking down the street? Never once have I feared of getting raped. I have a lot of sympathy towards women for having to fear that. It really should not be something you should ever have to fear.
The only reason you'd find more men willing to risk going out alone or at night is because they more likely to accept the risk of something happening to them or are confident in their ability to defend themselves.
Of rape specifically? I don't know but even I wouldn't feel safe walking in a dark alleyway. I think if a man would be afraid of anything it would be violence in general.
I'm all for the second amendment and stuff like that but I don't think we as a society are ready for something like that unless we get rid of the rape hysteria. I think a lot of rape stats are extremely misleading and manipulative to make it seem as rampant and asymmetrical as possible. If we allowed people, especially women who fall for them, to carry firearms, they may use it on any man they see no matter the intention the man in question has.
Not really, unless they are locked in prison with rapists. Outside of prison they are more likely to worry about being physically assaulted. Women seem to forget that men are more often the target of violence than women are the target of rape. In addition, we also get sexually assaulted by men and women but it's not a fear in our daily life. This is why no men sympathize with women who claim that we just don't know what it's like.
The fear is real if you go to prison. Some Rousey style chick coming after me on the streets? Hmmm, I'd be loaded to the teeth. It'd be fun to see if she rapes my limp cock, or tries to do some alien probing to my ass vs whether or not she'd get a led bullet up her cooch, before I send a bullet in her brain.
What all these other dags are not accounting for is being raped by males. Same thing applies, they come after my backdoor, I'll make sure they are dead or wearing a colostomy bag the rest of their life.
No idea about other men, but I definitely never even think about it personally. I'm very confident in my ability to protect myself though. Perhaps more feminine guys? There's also just a smaller set of people to fear being raped by. It would have to be someone stronger, that is interested in my body. I'm stronger than any woman and finding a gay rapist that goes after 2m tall dudes seems pretty unlikely.
No. I dont really even see how its possible. As long as you're fighting back its extremely difficult to actually complete the act. Trust me I've done rape play with my girlfriend and until i basically force her to stop fighting its quite hard to do it.
It's not a huge concern for men because it's extremely rare. Plus i have keys with me. They can do a lot of damage if you know what you're doing, so on the small chance a rapist is hiding in my park (which considering the tree cover would be hard) I could fight him or her off.
I doubt if any woman would try to rape you but you can dream.
Not generally in everyday life, maybe I'd consider it a threat if in prison, but not walking around in normal everyday settings.
Getting stabbed or shot is a more likely threat.
Nah, you're projecting.
Rape is not something anyone fears instinctually. Mainly as the probabilities of it are low, unless you're living in a "hotspot"
now that there are more homosexuals in the world yes... this is why i always keep a gun close by so i can shoot them dead.
Dude the fuck?
For men, I believe it’s more assault from other guys, women, etc… it’s in the same context of violence but unless you are a gay man that is willing to take any guy they see.
It doesn’t hit the same for men as it does women.
for me personally i dont fear rape but when i hear of it happening it makes me angry and want to commit acts of violence upon the rapist.
As a man i want to say that it is one of our worst fears to be raped physically or mentally but as you said it is rare so it does not haunt me on a daily basis at least for me personally
I don't ever think about it because I'm not in prison or planning to go. There's not roaming bands of ass bandits around, either. Basically it's not going to happen.
No. I am aware of my surroundings and will not take unneeded risks but I don’t fear getting attacked as you described.
Can you describe the fear you feel?
It’s like a certain paranoia in your mind. Making you anxious and tense especially if you are alone at night. Shadows feel ominous, you’re more aware of your surroundings and there is a desperate need to get home as soon as possible.
You also draw yourself instinctually to well lit areas and avoid dark secluded places at all costs.
That sounds so scary. Is this one reason girls like to go out at night in groups and not leave the group to go home?
Safety in numbers. Another reason why I and my friends always go to the bathroom together. Incase a guy with less then steller thoughts tries to catch one of us alone.
And I thought it was to gossip about guys or to share make up :p Yes I agree that safety is a huge hurdle to get over and there is far too much violence in our world. Do you feel safe in a group of guys you trust?
No I worry more about a car driving slow pulling up on me
No.
For us it's an instinctual fear of losing our place in the social hierarchy and getting killed by other men as a result.
No. The fear is mostly getting robbed or killed by idiots. We fear more our wives cheating or losing a job, not growing and being successful.
I was raped by two girls but not in the sense you are talking about here. I never worry about being raped when walking at night or something like that but I never allow myself to get really drunk like that again.
I’ve never worried about it and don’t know any men who have mentioned worrying about it.
No. For men it isn't as traumatising an event, it is more along the lines of 'Threaten me with a good time.'
I'm going to disagree with this one. Although I don't live in fear of being raped, I do understand that rape doesn't have to be committed from the opposite sex. My fear would come from the same sex doing the raping. And for that reason my attitude would not be anywhere close to "threaten me with a good time".
scenario. @KennethNoisewater
I hadn't considered that scenario.
Arguably yes, we are afraid of being sent to prison and being enslaved by another inmate or guard and forced to suck his cock.
No; we don't. This is one instance in which I truly feel sorry for women. I'm sorry that you have to live in fear all of the time.
Rape? No. Violent attack? Yes. Men are much more likely to be attacked by strangers, say walking alone at night, than women are.
Violence maybe, like if walking in a sketchy neighborhood, but not rape. Nobody wants to have sex with me in general, never mind want to rape me! lol
I had fear of getting kidnapped and killed by stranger when I was little. But not rape.
Rape, no. Getting mugged or beat up - but you've got to be stupid to put yourself in that situation.
Interestingly enough many women also Sexually Fantasize about it. No, I've never had that fear of being raped. I would be concerned about getting shot or stabbed if nobody is around since somebody could do it and possibly get away with it.
I feel some of us do specially if a girl wants to hand cuff a guy
Not worried about rape at all. More worried that I might meet a gang on the street.
No, we don't, but we do have a fear of being attacked and beaten up.
Idts. I think of rape as more of a domination thing for male on male personally.
I don’t even think about it, and am sure most men feel the same way.
I think men are equally concerned about everything and prepare for it or make choices to navigate around it.
Only if i was in prison would that ever come across my mind
No that’s fairly a woman’s fear. We do have rape fears for the women in our lives. Does that help?
most men in older age carry a weapon on them
gonna be real
we are more worried about having to kill some one
No. Not by a woman at least. Perhaps a buff tranny.
Fear of assault is much more prominent.
I believe men do as well
I don't even think about it, I can handle myself.
What? Seriously? No. Of course not.
don't think so. we don't value our bodies that way
No, because we don't think it will ever happen.
I Never Have An Never Will.
Rape may be not as much other things yes
Lol no.
What a strange question.
Not at all.
I never have.
Yeah
Uh yeahhh
yes they do
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