I’m thinking of sending the guy who was really rude to me a pic of his book (which I tore apart) which he had gifted me. Do it or no?

[Anonymous]

Guy first hit on me gifted me a book and dropped his glasses in my bag. He even said we should go on holidays together. However he subsequently changed and constantly accusing me of things I didn’t do causing us to have a fall out. Instead of talking to me about it he lashed out at me a month later. I’m still a bit mad. Would it be to childish to send him a pic of his belongings in trash since it is not likely we will meet again anyways. (I know he deleted my contacts) I just want to release that last fuse of anger as petty as that sounds.

[WonderBell99]

It is immature. If I were you, I would not do that. You do not want to stoop down to his level now, do you?

You have to introspect why there was a sudden change in his behavior. He was outspoken about his intentions from the start.. why the sudden change? Maybe that will give you a clue about his erratic behavior. Give yourself some space and rant to someone or try to manage your anger better. Communication is key. Did you do something that causes him to tick off? He seems childish as well.. If he was a mature man, he would have talked to you about it instead of lashing out on you and keeping you in the dark. This could potentially become an abusive relationship if he continues to do this

My advice to you is to cut off contact with this immature gentleman and find some other healthy way to release your anger. However, you are an adult who is free to make her own choices. Do what you feel is best, but this is my 2 cents.

[Asker]

No I think I will no go through with the message. He’s going to think I care way too much about him if I message him again. Also because he deleted my contact which I thought was very rude. I don’t even know if he liked me or not. He never made that part clear either. I noticed he only kept me on Snapchat so I deleted him there at least. As for contact I do not think he will contact me unless he actually decides to mature

[WonderBell99]

If he wants to contact you, he will.. if he cares about you, he will talk to you about what happened.

[Asker]

To be real, I do not see him regretful. It has been 2 weeks and he hasn’t tried to apologize or anything. Seems like he only cares about himself. Or he lost interest and this is his way of expressing it

[WonderBell99]

I think it’s best that you move on from him. You need someone who is straightforward about their feelings.

[Asker]

I’m trying yes. He’s an asshole who tried to make me feel sorry for himself.

[WonderBell99]

That sounds like manipulative behavior on his part. You’ll get through this. Stay strong ❤️

[Asker]

Thank you. It also sucks because it feels like I’m the only girl who deals with situations like these 😢

[WonderBell99]

You’re not alone.. I’ve been there and it sucks. If you need to talk about heartbreaks I’m your gal. Currently getting over a breakup myself.

The key is to set clear boundaries and place clear emphasis on open communication. Allow each other to talk. Active listening instead of passive hearing. For example - Manny and Dani are a couple. Dani suspects that Manny cheated on her. After he comes home she says “I know what you did, Manny! You cheated on me!” Instead of accusing him, she could have said “Did you do this, Manny? Please do not lie to me. I expect only the truth which I deserve” When you get confrontational, people get defensive

It’s best to have a discussion instead of an argument, right? What the guy did was he lashed out on you without knowing the whole story when he could have given you room to talk.

[Asker]

Yeah lol he was so rude bringing up something I said a month ago and then complaining that I was not understanding that he was busy not to text me for a month? When he himself was nagging that I wasn’t reading his message even though I was online. You know he deleted me right after asking to hang out? How much more psychotic can one get. 😃

[UniquelyBasic]

Of course its childish but do what you want.

[Asker]

I don't know we haven’t talked in 12. days but I’m still tempted

[Anonymous]

What is the book?