I was talking to a guy I met online that I really liked I sent him nudes videos with my face and everything and he sent me too and then he ghosted?

[Anonymous]

Ik i shouldn't have sent but am hot so 🤷🏻‍♀️, before he ghosted i told him all the best and asked him not to leak my nudes he said he won't relax, but am a bit worried he might. What do you think he'll do and what should i do

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What i am doing is am trying to kill him with kindness, and am just being really sweet so he'll feel petty or sympathetic at least and not leak it

[Cynicaldreamer]

... and your face was showing in said nudes? Really anon? 🤦

This is why you don't send nudes to people: or if you do, at least make sure your face isn't showing! Even if he says he won't share your images, there is ALWAYS that "what if" or worse, they can blackmail you down the road.

As to why he ghosted you? Honestly we'll probably never know-
He either wasn't that attracted to you, or he might have thought less of you for sending him nudes (especially if he didn't ask for them from you). I just hope you learned a lesson from that incident. I highly suggest you block/delete him.
Make sure you didn't give him anything else personal of yours: like address, phone number, real life name... that can be traced.

[Asker]

He has my phone number and knows my name and he did ask for nudes specifically with my face

[SometimesASiren]

Honestly, take this as a lesson and move on. I used to send nudes, but learned it's better to steer clear after some of mine got leaked along the literal Mexican border when I was 17. No bueno.

Worse that happens is a small group of idiots get off on the nudes or scrutinize you. What matters more, though, is that you devalue yourself in the eyes of the man you care about. And that sucks. It sucks even more if he's not on the same page, you know.

I say send nudes once you get a ring... 😉 💍 Don't do wife stuff for a man when you aren't even his girlfriend yet.

[herebesteve]

I've done this before (what the guy did) It was more for fun and he liked it, but I don't think he wants it to go further than that. I'm not glorifying this either. I never used the nudes against them and I would either delete them or just forget about the pictures.

[BarryLiverstone]

He might leak them, if he ghosted you wouldn’t know. Are you worried tho?

[Asker]

Yes i am worried but i have his too, should i text him and ask to delete? He won't reply since he ghosted and he won't probably delete i guess

[BarryLiverstone]

Give it a shot., this is why I delete nudes after I get them. You should ask him to delete and also delete his

[BarryLiverstone]

Any reason why he ghosted tho?

[Asker]

We were spoke for 37 days i was saying i deleted his nudes just so that he will delete mine, i deactivated my ig he said he got scared that i blocked him, he mightve thought am losing interest, and he used to constantly say am gonna ghost him and all everyday even though i was reassuring him i won't, and after 37 days i think he went to a party/ concert and made out with someone or not but he lost interest stopped asking for nudes and my pics stopped texting or talking and then we were set to meet but he said he was tripping for 3 days and he couldnt come cause he had no money after i sent a text saying am worried cause he dint reply for days and then he just stopped being active on social media thaat much and stopped replying all at once but he is active but not as active as before I don't know if its because of me or something else

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s a long time to talk and plan to meet only to ghost. You must have been excited to see him. Maybe he did make out sign someone else and thought you would be jelly or that you would judge him. What do you think you could have done for him not to come? It’s more likely tbh he never intended to meet you.

[BarryLiverstone]

Him mentioning ghosting everyday was a big red flag

[Asker]

Why is that a red flag? I kinda feel manipulated into not ghosting

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s a red flag cuz a guy wouldn’t constantly ask if you will ghost him, like everyday it’s almost like he felt guilty knowing he would never meet you. But if you deleted your ig he may have felt rejected. Trying to help but I’m sure there is more to the story

[Asker]

Yeah at last he was the one who suddenly lost interest and ghosted

[BarryLiverstone]

Did you face time with him? Phone calls

[Asker]

Yeah we used to facetime a lot but i dint strip and all, he liked taking screenshots of me, not just nudes but of me too, all my pics he took screenshots

[BarryLiverstone]

That seems odd he kept taking screenshots. Like he can see you and FaceTime and talk to you the next day. Why all the screenshots? You were ok with this tho

[Asker]

I thought he was just obsessed with me and i took screenshots too i wanted his pics so i can see it whenever i want

[BarryLiverstone]

Maybe it’s the opposite and you are obsessed with him. If he ghosted you then clearly he had a plan going into it because he decided to cut you out of his life. I’m wondering tho if this is the first time or if it’s a pattern with you and guys?

[Asker]

Yeah its pattern I don't know i just keep choosing the guys who get obsessed with me for a month and love bomb me and the leave and ghost me

[Daniela1982]

Stop trolling about your nonexistent sexcapades. What idiot sends anything sexual with their face so that it can be spread around like Covid?

[qwert1234]

You already sent it.
What he does, is up to him. There are some places this is considered a crime, some places only consider it a crime if blackmail is involved...

So, I would say not to worry - because technically now, nothing you can do about it.
Just brace for the worse, which hopefully does not come, and learn your lesson.

[WhitneySnow]

Theoretically you can notify the police if he leaks your nudes (it’s a crime in some states). I don't know if it’ll do any good for real.

[WhitneySnow]

You didn’t send nudes with your face in them, did you?

[Asker]

I did

[WhitneySnow]

I’m sorry. That’s awful. Never do that again.

[spartan55]

Too late now dumb dumb. So your rationalization was that since you are hot it was acceptable? Wow...

[Asker]

Since am hot i like taking nudes and sending it to the guys that i fantasize about and guys i like and really want

[spartan55]

Yeah well that's not very smart. If you don't have anything else to offer except your body then you won't attract quality guys.

[Asker]

Thats true

[Asker]

But it seems like thats all guys care about in this gen, doesn't matter how sweet and caring intelligent smart creative and hard working you are

[spartan55]

You are going after the wrong guys.

[Asker]

That is also true am start therapy 2 days ago

[AimeeKyle]

If he is a respectable guy he will keep them to himself.

[Anonymous]

nothing you can do you're screwed now