I had sex with a guy and now ghosted?

[Anonymous]

I had sex with a guy on 2/14. I went over to his house and at first he could not get his penis up. He was really embarrassed so we stopped trying and he started telling me that his dad passed away on Christmas and how hard it was taking care of him and I told him that my mom passed away two years ago. I just feel like we connected on an emotional level and I didn’t even care that he couldn’t get his penis up. Eventually we had sex after I gave him oral. He kept raving about how my vagina felt and that he couldn’t wait to see me again. Plus I kept sending him videos and pictures. We were planning on having sex again on 2/21 but he told me he was sick. I kept checking in after and he was still sick. The last time I heard from him was a couple days ago after I asked him why he deleted his bumble. The next day I asked him if he was feeling better because I wanted to know when we could have sex again which he did not respond. The following day I texted him and still no response. I really don’t understand why I was ghosted especially after we had great sex and it seemed like he wanted to see me again…

[SteveSmith1985]

I'm really sorry this happened to you. Especially if you felt that you connected emotionally and both talked about personal things. There is no excuse for him ghosting you like that. He's an asshole.

The problem is, that there really is no possible way for anyone to guess why he ghosted you. It's almost worse than useless to try and guess. You're so likely to be wrong.

Something changed for him between when you saw each other, and a week later. But WHAT changed for him is 100% impossible to know. Something happened in his head, or in his life that you are not aware of. There's a missing piece here. And it's the piece that explains his reasons.

He certainly didn't have any good reasons. I don't care what happened on his end. He owed it to you to not ghost you. If he no longer wanted to see you, he had a duty to be up-front about that. You guys shared a more-than-typical connection for getting together once. And you had specific plans to see him again.

There is no excuse for him ghosting you. But I'm sorry, but you're never going to know why. Only he knows. You end up just blindly guessing. But... what are the odds you (anyone) could possibly guess. There's not enough information to. I'm sorry.

[MarkHrdman]

Thats what you're problem is because you claim you're interest is an emotional level & claim that you dont care about his cock but you use the word penis as if its an apendig which is getting in the way of you 2 girls but his not a female but currently at this stage you dont know that because you dont know why he doesn't want to share an emotional interest with you about dead people.

It couldnt be further from a turn on & for you to simple have abosolutely no interest in sex, explains your own answer and at this point, questions if youse even had sex at all, until you mentioned giving him oral.

As if it was a bad thing but for you to send him videos and pics, you're a good girl and its not suprising for him to have helped himself prior to your meet up to avoid you. Especially with limiting it to only the following week, which goes to show as if you shouldn't be interested in him anymore and have moved on already.

Its odd for you to even use the words great sex after such a terrible view of him as a human species.

My suggestion is to move on because it seems like there is obviously no point for him to try to satisfy you because you have perpetually persuide him without giving him the chance to recover meaning there is very little room for him to have a possible relationship with you & little is the key here with your description of his appendig with the clinical term penis.

Tell him you're going to a sexual health clinic to orgasm into a cup and ask for him to join you.

[FilmGuy93]

People are weird sometimes. They get cold feet. Sometimes they just randomly change their minds. Sometimes they connected or reconnected with someone else out-of-the-blue.

The shitty thing about ghosting is that you never get any explanation for what went wrong. If he ghosted you though, your best bet is to just assume that the problem was him and go on with your day.

[Anonymous]

The sex wasn't that great, but he told you it was to make you feel good about yourself.
He wasn't having erectile problems because of his dad lol

[SnowedIn]

Just call it a one night stand and move on.

[Anonymous]

You knew too much. You had to go! 😆😆😆

[Wise4myage]

He did you a favor.

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[Wise4myage]

He sounds like a flake

[MarkHrdman]

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