I started talking to this older man. He is in his 30s and I’m 24. He is established and well off in his profession and I admitted that he was somewhat intimidating to talk to. But once we talked he was really funny, polite, honest, and most of all he was inspiring. And not just inspiring in the sense that I admired how well off he was from owning multiple businesses. Its actually was something he said that just shocked me. He told me he believed in me and that I had a lot of potential. He knows I work a regular 9-5 and that I’m not someone who can relate to his lifestyle yet he never rubbed any of that in. He wasn’t condescending and had nothing to really gain from telling me that I could do big things in life if I wanted to. He was really busy and had jet lag but still took the time to give me advice and tips on how to open a business, how to be successful and encouraged me to believe in myself. I’m not accusing him of trying to manipulate me but I understand that some of what he was saying was a bit over the top, but yet it felt so well intentioned because he couldn’t receive anything from simply telling me I was good enough. And I didn’t realize until he said it how often I felt otherwise, how many people showed me that I wasn’t good enough or made me feel like I had to change myself or be ashamed of what I didn’t have or what I wasn’t doing right. Him simply telling me that I was good enough was like the most encouraging and kindhearted thing anybody has done in years. My major doubts come from my first relationship making me believe I didn’t matter, and I wondered if this new man was love bombing me. But the thing is, his encouragement was unprovoked. He started the conversation off fueling me with encouragement that I had been desperately needing to hear. Whether his ultimate goal with me is good or bad, he might not know it but his words of encouragement started to make me notice the beauty in life lately when before it had been starting to look pretty gray.
Why would a man randomly give a girl words of encouragement?
