Guys, Why do guys like spending time alone?

[England4eva]

I’ve noticed a large group of men love and cherish their me-time.

What does it mean to you, to be able to shut off from the rest of the world?

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Thanks everyone for all the masculine input lol. Have a great day 👍

[MrOracle]

It's how we recharge, and how we problem-solve.

Women recharge by SHARING - by talking about their problems and every single one of their individual feelings with someone else. I've been in a room where two women were talking about their own, different issues with the other, and while they took turns, I'm virtually positive neither was actually listening to the other beyond waiting for a pause in the conversation to jump in again, but they both seemed to feel better after "sharing."

"Sharing" does nothing for men. Men don't worry about how they FEEL about a problem - we want to SOLVE the problem, knowing that, if the problem is SOLVED, then we don't have to feel ANYTHING about it anymore. We are SOLUTION-based, not FEELINGS-based. And so we need time to think.

Some of us do this thinking best when we are distracted by something - working on a car, fishing, home projects, video games, reading a book, or just sitting in a chair with the TV on, barely aware of what's playing on it. That's how we're able to finally relax, get away from our problems, and let our brain process on the big problem of the day, so that it hopefully comes up with a solution.

NOTE: our need to spend time alone has NOTHING to do whatsoever with how we feel about our girl. We're not mad at you, you didn't do anything wrong, but you also can't really help us solve this problem that only alone time can solve. If we need your help - if we think you might be able to lead us in the right direction of a solution - we'll ask you, and listen to you - but in most cases, alone time is the only answer for us. Don't take it personally - this is just how men work.

Think of us as a Tesla car, with a proprietary Tesla plug. No other plug will fit, and it doesn't matter how nice your Chevy or Ford or VW or Porsche charger is, or how cheap the electricity is that comes out of it - only plugging in a Tesla charger is even possible - nothing else will work.

[England4eva]

Men are Tesla’s.. got it 💪👍

[TheSpaceGnome]

This ignores any guy who wants to do the things you mentioned (video games, etc) with his girlfriend, because co-op and vs is more fun than solo play because AIs are dumb and predictable and having someone there to shake things up negates that.

I recharge with company, but its not from "sharing", its from having fun. Alone time just stresses me out, bores me, and makes me sleepy, My energy expending time is my recharge time, like one of those bikes you have to ride in order to power a generator.

[MrOracle]

@TheSpaceGnome Fair enough. You're an exception to the rule, and I think this rule has more exceptions than most.

[Fireguy17]

It can kind of depend on what he does, esp for work.
Is he surounded by other people all day, what kind of demands are placed on him at work, does he work retail?
Sometimes you just need quiet to unwind and gather your thoughts.
I know when we have a bad call my wife can tell and doesn't ask about it and gives me some space.
I can still put on a happy face when the time comes, but it took her a while to understand.
I would tell her that I can tell you, but then I can't untell you, so I am trying to protect you from what I see and deal with.
We talk to each other at the station a lot, have some very sick humor, gallows humor, but that is a survival mode.
Maybe he has always been a quiet person, some people don't like crowds, strangers, so they need to be alone for awhile.
Have you tried talking to him about it, just to help you know if he is just shutting out the world, or you.

[Lliam]

It's true that I do enjoy some alone time to just relax and contemplate. I might read a book, go on-line, or simply ponder any number of things without distractions. It gives me time to pursue my interests, learn things, think deeply, and also calm my mind. I don't want constant stimulation.

I love talking to my wife and doing things together. But we are not joined at the hip. It would be a drag if we were constantly intruding into each other's space.

[Adronicus]

Processing emotions, I also sometimes think I'm a negative empath, too long around crowds & I have to be alone a bit. I also spend a lot of time in the garage working on vehicles.

I got a van jacked up in the garage with the engine dropped on a jack, water pump removed & two snapped bolts:/ I don't know a single woman that wants to help with that but love to meet one:)

[MrCommodore]

Yeah I love alone time, just peace and quiet to relax and gather my thoughts, refocus.

[HighValue]

To relax my mind and not get stressed out from dealing with other people too much.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't. I prefer spending all my time with a girlfriend, and half of that time with maybe 1 or 2 added friends if gaming. Being by myself is boring, even if I have fun stuff to do.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I don't speak for everyone, but I have a very busy working environment. I need time to unwind

[jamesgoldman]

It gives me the time to think about well anything really

[Johnnyroyyall]

I don't know about for other guys but I know that it keeps my head on straight and always get those little projects done..

[TonyMetal___86]

Shut off on my own but with the giant next to me 😁

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Personally for me is how I regain my energy. I don't like people speaking to me much.

[dolemite89]

i don’t think you realize how annoying most people are especially girls. Silence heals our brains lol

[Intothevoid666]

Men are more introverted than women on average so yes I’d say

[Jmmmfi4]

With me i just literally have no friends and don't give a fuck about anyone else.

[jasco]

I can be me all damn day

[Ihatethewill]

It's how I recharge my social batteries.

[TrillXHippy]

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