A guy randomly dmed me on Instagram asking to speak to me about a concern he had. We’re just acquaintances and had little interactions in person, so I didn’t feel comfortable meeting up. He then offered to email me about his concern. I was curious as to what it was, so I obliged. However, now, I think I might know what he’s going to talk about. According to our mutual friend, he struggles a lot with lust/purity, and constantly hyper-fixates on girls. I was one of those girls in the past apparently, as my friend revealed he had a crush on me in the past. He dmed me a few seconds after I posted a picture of myself in a tennis skirt and a long sleeves cropped sweater with a tiny bit of my midriff showing. Overall, the outfit and the wait I was posing seemed innocent enough (I wasn’t showing anything but the tiny bit of midriff because the majority of my legs were cropped in the picture, though there’s not much to see anyway because I’m short lol). The post was also not out of the ordinary for my Instagram or my overall style. Anyway, the guy said that the concerned email he would be sending me would be biblical. This leads me to believe he will be commenting about my sense of modesty, and possibly the topic of lust. If this is true, I feel very uncomfortable receiving this feedback from him. Personally, I do believe I have a sense of modesty. I think modesty can be relative to the place you’re in. If I’m on a beach in California, I think it’s ok to wear a two-piece bathing suit (wishing reason), but if I’m in a town/country where the women all wear long skirts, I’ll do the same. I believe it’s about respect. I also know I can’t please everyone, because what’s ok/modest to one person may not be to another. Personally, I think most people would not have thought twice about the outfit I wore in that post. But for him, I understand he struggles a bit more that most. So, my question is, should I cater to his needs or would it be ok if I suggested he just unfollow me?
Should I change my post, or can I ask him to unfollow me?
