Why would a guy physically turn his back every time he sees me?

[Anonymous]

I go to a coffee shop every morning and I see this guy everyday. Many times I caught him checking me out, we make eye contact and we’ve exchanged smiles a few times (very few times). I noticed when we make eye contact he would become extremely serious, pretend like I’m not there and turn his back on me and start talking to other people and ignore me. Why guys? Why guys do this?

[Anonymous]

I have NO idea I can't read his mind. Maybe he gets nervous or maybe he has a girlfriend, wife, etc. He might not be ready for a relationship right now. Maybe he was just smiling at you to be friendly and there are other reasons that I look at people.

Personally I like to keep track of everyone around me what they are doing and I always observe people. I like being situationally aware. I am not staring people down but I do give them at least a quick glance. I sometimes when looking at a person to see if they have a weapon (nothing against someone carrying a weapon, I like to have something myself)

You see all the bad stuff going on and I like to try and keep a eye out for a predator as well as people who seem more vulnerable among other things.

There are LOTS of reasons someone will look at you.

If you like this guy then go up and ask him to have coffee with you some day and see if he will give you his number. If he rejects you then you done your part and know that he either is not interested in you or whatever reason he did not want to.

Sometimes it can be awkward when you are looking at people and you make eye contact so I try and smile so that things aren't awkward or creepy or anything like that.

I mean I pay attention it is crazy how people pay no attention ever. I like looking for if the place was to be robbed, if the place was to be shot up, etc. How can I defend myself, how can I defend others, how can I escape, places to hide. What if there was a fire. A tornado. The list goes on and on and on.

Hey many times nothing ever happens though I do see people stealing shit all the time and I see crazy shit on a regular basis that most people never notice but that is besides the point.

Looking if someone is going to assaults me. The list goes on. It is just who I am.

[TheSpaceGnome]

He wants to talk to you but is so nervous about screwing up and having you dislike him, that he has a mini panic attack, and copes with that by deviating away from you and forcing a distraction.

Walk up to him and sound interested, or just ignore it and move on.

[HoraceB]

This is almost definitely the right answer.

[Anonymous]

I would say he is either:
1) In a committed relationship he has no intention of ending, let alone jeopardizing.
2) If not, something about you (or something he's heard about you) has turner him off.

Either way, he's trying to get the point across that he's not interested romanticslly anymore. Just trying to be candid with ya, babe. It's happened to most of us at one point or another, so don't take it personally. 🙂 Just move on!

[WhitneySnow]

He’s super shy. Try talking to him (although the really shy ones won’t talk back even if you talk to them first which is like really annoying).

[Jamie05rhs]

You have to have a purpose in your conversation. Give them a legitimate reason to talk to you.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Possibly, he doesn't know your end game. And he's afraid to make a move, for fear of being made a fool of.

In my younger years, I feared to make a move. The second I showed interest, girls often immediately got nasty.

Some of them didn't turn out well. God shared my contempt for their rotten attitudes, and saw to it they ruined their own lives.

Even now, I hesitate to make a move. I had a crush last year. She vanished without explanation. Everyone's been telling me since that she's a basket case, fit for Baker Acting, and I lost nothing. If that's true, I at least hope she found the help she needed.

[CaptainOverthink]

He probably likes you but either he's embarrased (hides it) or he already has someone (don't want to be distracted).

It's about trying to control ones thoughts and/or bodily reactions.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

He probably doesn't mean to make eye contact or stare, and quickly looks away or wants to show he's very clearly not staring at you.

I don't think he's interested or anything, just doing his thing.

[dynamicyandere]

It depends. Either he’s likes you and he’s shy. Or, he’s not interested but he smiles to be friendly since it’s his job to be welcoming to customers. I think it’s him either feeling shy or avoiding awkwardness.

[WindAtMyBack]

I think he's created an awkward situation for himself and doesn't know how to deal with it. So he simply turns away.

He's also an employee. He might simply be trying to be professional.

[nitsuj86]

Could be attracted to you, and have a girlfriend. Out of sight, out of mind. Maybe he realizes that you are also interested in him, and so he is trying to keep you two from interacting.

[Kreneman]

It sounds like he might be nervous, shy, fear, cat got his tung, and more. If you see him again, just say hello and if can't talk to you, it's not your fault because sometimes men have these issues when they see an attractive woman like yourself.

[lightbulb27]

Attraction but has girlfriend. Or too insecure or just broke up and doesn’t want start again.

[SeekingVirginWife]

I turn my back to non-virgins, every time. Never worth my time for marriage due to baggage and past relationships.

[Asker]

I wonder how can you tell if a woman is a virgin or not. I hope you talk to women to them decide to act that way. It must be tedious asking every time 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣

[SeekingVirginWife]

Not a problem hit them with the bible verse.

Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. Hebrews 13:4

[Asker]

What if they are virgins but not religious?

[joanne0199]

Well are you a virgin or do you think it doesn't matter if you are or not?

[girlwalltheqs]

Everyone sins, whether it be sexual or non-sexual. Heck, even thinking lustfully about someone is a sin.. masturbation is a sin if you have lustful thoughts... If you meet the right person who may have had sex in the past but is not a "slut" by any means and a lovely person, and you're willing to discard them because they aren't a virgin, this seems immature to me. If God can forgive his children for sinning sexually, why wouldn't you be able to look past it as well? This gives me the objectification vibes.

[Slartybartfast]

You caught him doing something unacceptable to many women (checking you out, you know the dreaded male gaze) now he's in panic mode and is probably thinking should he stop going to that coffee shop.

[CubsterShura]

Someone probably stuck a piece of paper with something funny written on your back and men turn around to read that 🤭🤭

[TommyMountainFigure]

Weird.. It' almost as if you disgust him! What could you have possibly done to warrant that kind of behaviour?

[HateyouxD]

I had the same thing happen to me. I think he's being an ass and not trying to seem too interested I don't know

[Anonymous]

Probably because women start complaining about being sexualized and how they hate for guys to stare or talk to them and just want to be left alone.

He’s being respectful of women. And ignoring you.

[Asker]

I would agree with you if I was that type of woman, but I’ve tried nothing more than being friendly and nice to him.

[LindsayR07]

Could be shyness

[Guy__]

Both things mentioned here.

[Marshymallow]

Or maybe he doesn't even give a f about you and does it unintentionally?

[jshm2]

Probably gay, or doesn't want to give you the impression he's interested.

[Andres77]

He's got a boner and is afraid he'll be accused of sexual assault.

[LigmaBallsack]

He’s probably nervous, might be shy. If you want to talk to him, then shoot your shot, but if he doesn’t reciprocate, oh well, his loss.

[Adivabbaby]

I would think maybe he’s attracted to
you but he has a girlfriend and doesn’t want to get into any trouble LOL

[cth96190]

Perhaps he does not want to be #MeToo’ed or Title IX’ed.

[one1wild00]

He is probably shy if you want to know for sure, try going up and engaging him in convo.

[Jltakk]

Maybe its just my fearful-avoidance, but I always avoid eye contact and sometimes physically turn away from others

[Jamie05rhs]

Same here, dawg.

[Nbchn]

Because it’s not considered good to check girls out. It makes them feel uncomfortable and is considered bad. It’s hard to show interest in women these days without being considered bad

[Brandi555]

Probably either doesn’t like you or really likes you.

[Waldoe]

you make him "Horny" and he doesn't want you to know

[guywholovesVSthongs]

He get nervous, you caught him and wants to pretend like he wasn't checking you out

[Okaydtguug]

I’m not sure but I would assume he is not interested in you

[tbradley]

maybe he likes you and just to scared to so it or is really really shy

[DermalPunch]

Is he Muslim looking?

[Asker]

No, he is Scottish.

[DermalPunch]

Ok then maybe he's in a relationship and doesn't want to cheat. I wouldn't do anything about it.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Don't make something out of nothing

[hellomellow7]

He’s probably just shy but likes you a lot

[Rebecka33]

Guys do this to em a lot in person.

[Rebecka33]

The ones that don't know me so wha Tapout my looks make them turn their backs on me?

[Rebecka33]

Pisses Mr of because to me they're assholes who deserve to be punched whe. They ydo it.

[Rebecka33]

Punched I n the face they deserve.

[EnglishEuropean]

Embarassing erection.

[Uptowngirl88]

Bc he's tired of you staring at him

[Babygirl_S]

He does not like you at all.

[Iron_Man]

He’s mad or afraid of you crush style

[I_am_Dor]

Because you women are scary.

[Aditiiiiii20]

He's shy probably

[flirtatiousgirl]

İ think he isn't like you

[Anonymous]

He hates you obviously

[RuthlessAggression]

Sounds like he's shy

[Sorbay]

Boner

[Jamie05rhs]

He's shy! Duh!!

[athlete_for_lyf]

Shy to talk to you

[Anonymous]

Hiding an erection?

[Aliismyusername]

😂😂😂😂

[james117111]

Shy perhaps?