Guys: do you get offended if a woman asks if you’re gay? (Page 2)
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I don’t know how men feel about that. As a straight girl I have always been assumed straight. I mean I get asked about my love life a lot and people are like “sooo do you have a boyfriend?” I think people just calculate on their gaydar. Some people probably just come across queer.
I wouldn't be offended (plus many guys act jokingly flirty with their guy friends). Being gay doesn't mean you're feminine or anything. But I'll propose a more productive way to ask:
"What's your sexual orientation?"
Works better than "are you gay?", because if you tell a straight man you assumed he's gay, he might feel the need to act differently to appear straight
Not at all as it suggests she knows of at least one girl who wants to know if I fuck girls. I wouldn't expect she would tell me who, unfortunately - she might not even know, depending on how the topic came up in her social circles - but it's still a better situation than I was in before she asked.
Nobody has ever asked me that.
The reason he got offended is because gays are not as accepted as some people think. It's a grave insult to be accused of being gay. To ask if someone is gay is like saying you think they act gay.
There are a lot of people who say they think it's OK to be gay, but they don't really believe it. They are being politically correct, when inside they don't really think it's OK.
Nope, being gay or homosexual is a sexual preference. Would you get offended if someone said do you like to shower in the morning or evening. I have known many homosexual men in my field (high tension electrical maintenance) they were hardcore and I'd put my life in their hands.
No, not offended.
That happens to me, from time to yime, because I do not deliver the required response to sexual signals sent by women.
If I want to shock the woman, I will tell her that I was castrated to remove my desire for women.
That causes wide eyes, rapid blinking and a ‘does not compete’ look on her face. 🤣
If you want to curse her interest on you, you just say that 😁
Because men are held to different and more exacting sexual standards than women. Calling a straight man gay is an insult, where I’ve heard straight women joke that one of the group is “such a lesbian” and nobody cared or gave it a second thought. Asking the question is a linguistic trick/work around for stating the insult. Based on the reaction however, I wonder if he is just not out yet and publicly asking him forced a confrontation that he did not want.
Sort of, because it’s only ever happened to me as a result of me rejecting a woman. So it’s clearly meant as an insult. I don’t pass for gay, or even curious i think. I’ve been in gay bars and never was approached. If you can’t handle rejection, don’t risk it. That goes for men and women both.
I wouldn't be offended. Women think gay guys are good-looking, so I'd thank her for the compliment, saying, "No, I'm not... thanks for the compliment."
Back in my single days I would then ask her if she would like to join me for coffee.
Yeah, it's usually women that are mad a man isn't interested in them that do this.
It's a social attack, a way to control, it's says "I can stop you from having a relationship with other women by a false accusation of homosexuality "
The best response is to ask if she's fully transitioned or still has a peni**..
Never thought of that but you're right
I've been called gay and felt like the girl was just trying to make other girls disinterested
I think most straight guys don't want to be asked that bc they'll feel like people think they're girly or weak ( not that gays are but often they are portrayed that way)
I don't like personal questions to begin with. There are a lot of questions people just shouldn't ask. My mom is 75 and asked a lady at a restaurant last week what her ethnicity was, the lady was rightfully taken aback. To me the gay question falls in the same boat. If a women likes a guy she'd be better off asking him out than asking him if he's gay.
Eh, it's probably just the shock factor. If it's the first time he's even been asked, he's likely to get a little offended.
Personally, I'm used to it, since I've been waiting to have sex until marriage. So I've gotten that a lot. People get confused easily when they see a guy who isn't sexually active, so they wonder why.
They think their natural masculinity would answer the question for them.
Some guys are very much in denial about their ability to talk to women. He might think he is suave charming and a ladies man. So he gets offended if that was not immediately obvious...
Personally I would not get offended id asked that question, but for some guys it would be the biggest insult you could possibly give them.
If your 'friend' wanted to ask that question why did she not do it privately?
If she had any thoughts about a positive relationship of any kind she just killed that stone dead,
I wouldn’t get angry, but I would be offended. If I had any attraction to the woman it would be gone after that interaction.
No it probably wouldn't offend me, when you asked I would probably be staring at your boobs, it might take me a little while to respond with hilarious laughter
😂 awesomeness
I got asked once but wasn't offended but can understand the premise of being offended by the question. It's like why should it matter if he is or not.
It's like asking a woman if she's a lesbian, bi, they would get offended because they think he's a perv for asking
How about misgendering someone? then all hell breaks loose
Don't get me started, that utter BS they do with that
depends on the guy , but this guy you said he is shy with women maybe he can't deal with female specially if he likes her , let your friend go to him again and tell him she was joking just to open a different subject with him and let her invite him for a coffee
Because he would take it as his actions have led you to believe he is gay