Your 25 years old this guys sounds so highschool, move on.
So always say every opportunity in dating is a chance to learn something about yourself, gain experience in order to make any changes you feel you need to make in order to become the best version of yourself possible.
Now in saying that I am not saying you did anything wrong, far from it. But you got to take some responsibility here, so you don't make the same mistakes. First off you should never have to ask a guy if he's interested or if he cares. If he does not make his intentions clear from the start and takes some imitative then you should move on. Now there is nothing wrong with a women approaching a guy, but once you get past the initial met and greet type thing the guys should be doing the right things as well.
Secondly, never agree to go on a date with him and his buddies. Shows a lack of emotional maturity. So as a guy I know my friends very well, last thing I want to do is introduce my friends to hot sexy girl that I want to date, and why would I intentionally bring a 3rd and 4th wheel along on a date with a girl? S
So up front there were some serious Red Flags that you missed or ignored, so you got take some responsibility here so you don't make the same mistakes again.
So why are guys like this?
Well most real men are not, first off. But who flipping knows why this insecure, emotionally immature, limp dick loser is an insecure, emotionally immature lip dick loser. Maybe his mother locked him in closet when he was young, maybe he had his balls severed off in some child hood trauma. Or maybe he is just a nut less wonder that acts like an asshole because he as zero real game or ability with women.
At the end of the day you did the right thing, made the best of bad situation and moved on. Was any of his friends cute?
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A better question would be is why did you stick around so long for a guy who clearly wasn't interested? When you ask someone flat out "do you care about me at all?" most people aren't going to say 'no' because then they're forced to feel bad when YOU couldn't take a hint.
Instead of blaming your dating failures on men not doing what YOU want, why not entertain the couple dozen guys who you ghosted to go out with this guy- many of whom clearly were more interested in you?
We already know the answer to this: because none of them were up to the standard that you think you command on the dating market. It doesn't matter how many 5/10 guys are after a 5/10 girl, i. e. you (let's be honest here), when she's shooting for an 8/10+ guy.
Lol I had a conversation with some male friends about this a few months ago.
They said that guys get CONFUSED easily. See, when I shut down like that, it's an intentional push away, but they insisted that it's more like his mind switched tabs, or he got emotionally invested and panicked.
My advice? Ask him directly, or ride it out and see if it becomes a consistent pattern.
Because women keep screwing the wrongs guys and creating more of them. Dude was being so disrespectful towards you, I'm sorry.
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I’ve enough girl mates who walk in to pub and throw themselves on to sofa and have a rant about some guy, often similar to this, or only want that closeness when alone etc.
also have guy mates that almost mirror image it and have a rant.
my personal belief is what people like the idea of relationships, but then when in one do not have a clue what to do.
it’s like “John you need to date someone”
John says “okay dating, now what”
silence.. l.. l
for me it’s a bit meh, as I’m Demisexual, meaning I need that emotional connection, which without it dating is just sitting in a restaurant with some one. It’s worse for women Demis.Sounds like you fell for the asshole type. Probably one who has many women to choose from. Check your friendzone, you'll find the decent guys in there. Men aren't like that, the men YOU are attracted to are like that. You're a 25 year old woman. Don't tell me you haven't had a guy be nice to you and go out of his way to do things for you. Did you give him a chance? Probably not.
Whatever he did, he is an asshole and is unacceptable. Not only did he lead you on, but he also doesn't have the decency to introduce you to his buddies when you're with him. But then again, what did you see in this guy? Or did you fall for the fact he is "mysterious" and "hard to get"?I think the problem is that many guys don't fall quickly for a girl we don't straight away if we love or like her. Some guys might fall quickly but others don't, he wanted to take things because he didn't know what he felt for you because just realising that you're nice to talk to, an open and creative person is not always enough to fall for a woman enough to have a relationship.
Maybe he's really shy and inexperienced so he had a hard time figuring out his feelings.A girl once asked me why her guy introduced her as his bit of fluff to his friends. I suppose the good side of your experience is he didn't introduce you as his bit of fluff to his two friends.
That is where the upside stops. Ditch. Delete his nbr from your phone before his very eyes!I don't know why he would take someone with him if he intended to ignore you. That doesn't even make sense to me. And in my opinion it seems like a bad idea to bring other people along on a date especially when things are new and you are getting to know each other. Just find someone else. It doesn't sound like he has serious intentions. He was probably just hoping for a hook up or something. Not relationship material in my opinion.
Men are not all like this. Your man is like that. So bizzare. If I was his friend I'd be like why didn't you introduce your new friend? So 1 guy acts very strangely , all. guts are like that? If that were true , there would be no couples lol. Leave this guy in the dust. Not worth your time. Your be surprised that not "all men" are like this fool.
I have 4 words for you. " Don't chase just replace". Once you start seeing someone else and the attention is on the new person watch how fast he'll be telling you he has all these feelings towards you and your response at this point should be " if you hesitate you masturbate" just saying
He doesn't love you. Tell him he is a dick, because he is. And find someone worthy of your time and effort.
Listen, do not put all men in the same catergory because of 1 or even 50 guys. There are over 2 Billion of us, so that's not fair.
Second point, sorry for wasting time, but at least you know what to look out for in the future.So, one guy isn't into you, and all men are now responsible for it? Maybe you should Google "cognitive distortions."
Why is he like this, I refused to fall in the same category lol
Confront him about it, you have nothing to lose at this pointHis friends were right to call him an asshole. Just dump him. You deserve so much better than that clown.
He either doesn't like you enough to respect you or he is caught up in his ego. You should pass on him.
Your first clue should have been when he wanted his two friends to come along.
Because we can be idiots at times.
Sorry you had a bad night.The real question is why did you choose a man like this? Many men wouldn't have treated you this way but like most women y'all always choose morons.
"What the hell is your problem?" Is a question if asked, he'd grant answers, or at least f off.
Are you sure this guy had a romantic interest in you? Maybe he saw you as a buddy.
People like that are just super immature and honestly can't tell you what they want for breakfast.
"why are men like this?"
*proceeds to describe one bad experience with some nobody*
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