Is it appropriate for a married man to befriend an attractive woman who has a crush on him?

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Question is self explanatory.  As the wife, should I be concerned?  He could be friends with anyone, and I personally feel he shouldn’t be talking to women who have made sexual advances towards him.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

What i personally think, who is in this situation myself, except for being the girl who has a crush on aguy who lives with his girlfriend. Trust me, being friends won’t change anything. I tried flirting so hard, i got a liiittle response back but he tried drawinf lines. A friend is just a friend. A friend doesn’t have to be a close one. Maybe he see her as a friend and she see him as her crush, still i dont think he will cheat. Like i said, he will just see her as a friend. And if she tries to kiss him he would draw lines if he really liked you and wanted you in his life. Sure, maybe he is happy to get attnetion and be someones crush but if he really liked you and is loyal to you and is serious about your relationship with him he WILL draw lines. Trust me. I know it can be frustrating to know that he is friends with her, but as long as you know where you have him you will be able to trust him. I also think as long as theyre not CLOSE friends there’s nothing to be annoyed about. Sure maybe she will be annoying to you but just try to show her that he’s yours and she will hopefully leaving him alone..

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

It's not too good she's got a crush on him. Does he know she does?

It's within your right to set boundaries.

My best friend is a committed man, and had a history of infidelity before (he's a father of two, so it wasn't me interested, I'm about that childfree life). He takes photos of what we do together to send to his girlfriend, and she regularly calls while we're together to allay her own fears. They're a very communicative couple so it works for them.

I've also been the friend of the married man many times who goes to the wife and introduces myself and sets those boundaries. Especially if I feel I'm getting some looks from the wife.

Perhaps you can set limits like that - take photos, call, or go with him. Talk to the other woman.

Honestly I think talking to the other woman is the best approach. You get a feel for her, and if her intentions are cheating on your husband with her, she'll probably be very uncomfortable during her time with you.

And have an honest talk with your husband about your concerns. If he gets mad, you know he wanted to fool around.

normalice · Accepted Answer

I mean, it "can" be appropriate, but the odds aren't great - not bad, just probably like 50/50 or something. It really has little to do with her. All she can do is project opportunity, and most girls are actually really bad at that (you say she was flirting but there's a good chance he didn't pick up on it, or at least certainly not all of it - or at least if I had an attractive friend who routinely stuck her boobs in my face, I still wouldn't be convinced she is actually interested). It's really just a question of do you think he would? Not her. Him. You alone know the answer. You alone know how aroused you are by him - not attached, aroused - and so you alone know how confident you should be that he really enjoys giving it to you and considers all other life experiences to be beneath consideration when it comes to the risk of jeopardizing it.

MrCommodore · Accepted Answer

Its a tricky one. I would maintain certain clear boundaries from such a girl if I was in that situation, no hotel trips away or sleepovers after a party etc. Basically avoid any scenario which would just be me and her alone that could later be viewed as suspicious.

If she already made advances, it is no longer merely a platonic friendship and he should distance himself from her.

TrueConfection · Answer

Yes, he needs to set boundaries. It's not a friendship if one person (she in this case) has a romantic interest.

I feel for you! Lots of women have had crushes on my husband and he doesn't know how to give a firm rejection. The best he does is avoid, but he doesn't see that actually hurts those women more than just breaking off the dead friendship.

Good luck.

Rania05 · Answer

Miss, I do think you should tell your husband that feeding his ego by the other woman's affection is causing you insecurity and betrayal for his inability to consider his family first. And yes, you should be concerned but don't let that confuse your decisions. It's mostly the man's fault especially when he's the one in the relationship while the other woman isn't.

Pinay_ako · Answer

That woman doesn’t respect you. If I know the man I like is married, I would definitely stay away from him if I am attracted to him. My attraction will definitely fade away once I find out of his status. If he welcomes my attraction, then he’s no good. If he can do that with me, he’ll do it to me. Hands off!

laurieluvsit · Answer

I think Carrie Underwood answered that question... lol

fonduegirl · Answer

It's pretty dumb to continue being friends with someone who's expressed interest in you. Because there's a good chance this person is not going to take the hint and instead the message sent would be : "try again later" but this time more forcefully

Cherry234 · Answer

It's not a good idea at all and you definitely should be concerned. After going through these comments it's clear this woman doesn't respect your relationship with your husband. She obviously doesn't have good intentions.

HighValue · Answer

When in a relationship people shouldn't be making NEW opposite gender friends, whether they hit on them or not. It is a bad idea and often leads to problems in their relationship.

Avicenna · Answer

It's completely inappropriate and it's cheating waiting to happen. He needs to cut any communication with her off, much less being anywhere around her.

girlzruleboyzdrool · Answer

You should be concerned  And why would he even want to

Ekvark · Answer

If you set boundaries on his friends, because that's what you say they are, then be ready for those same boundaries to be set on you and any of your friends.

spartan55 · Answer

How do you know this woman has a crush on your husband and what were the sexual advances she made?

Chaser3232 · Answer

Gently voice your concerns, and leave the rest up to him! Be mindful, watch for, but don’t be a tyrant. If he truly loves you feel make the right decision.

Whatever2929292 · Answer

As long as it is just a friendship it is fine

Bluethinker456 · Answer

It's too risky if he knows she has a crush on him

honeybunny06 · Answer

not necessarily, he could have completely good intentions however if it makes you as the wife uncomfortable you should talk to him and tell him how it makes you feel instead of strangers on the internet.

Jamesshinobi · Answer

i never turn down a beer, a fight, or a friend; and keep people that would ask me to, out of my life.

jahaims · Answer

It isn't appropriate for a married man to have a crush

_Aragorn · Answer

if he knows she has a crush on him, he better stay away!

Shy_Steve · Answer

It is Appropriate as long as He doesn't Cheat, Same as it would be for you to Befriend an Attractive Guy.

altdbob · Answer

Get over it. If he was going to cheat on you it has already happened. Do not make it easier for him to make that decision by being a bitch about who he is friends with.

peedy · Answer

Nothing wrong with being friends what does his wife say about it

Anonymous · Answer

How do you know that they have made sexual advances? are you jealous or feel insecure or threaten?

Anonymous · Answer

How do you know that they have made sexual advances?

Anonymous · Answer

It’s definitely not a good thing and she should be respectful that he is married

Anonymous · Answer

Not appropriate at all. And yes, you should be concerned.

Hoomin · Answer

It's better to stay away

Spiritofn · Answer

Why are you not a widow yet? 🥺😂😅

FilmGuy93 · Answer

No, absolutely not.

joeldalton · Answer

It's certainly playing with fire.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Absolutely not.

LazerBean · Answer

Definitely weird.

Jouth · Answer

it's chill dude

Stella188 · Answer

No and not healthy cause if the wife gets jealous?

WhitneySnow · Answer

No!!

Stoner710 · Answer

No it’s not

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah that's fine 🙂☺️

RuthlessAggression · Answer

Not at all

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No; it is not.

driven159 · Answer

keep an eye on him

Passing_by · Answer

Nope

EaterPeter · Answer

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