Updating tinder?

[Sebby84]

Why would a guy you have been seeing for 4 months consistently everything going perfect really well matched update his tinder prolfile pics…. so confused we text all day everyday he's so attentive and affectionate

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Its just because its been 4 months now i thought it was definitely heading somewhere

[kylee2437]

Have you asked him what’s he’s looking for? Just because he’s attentive to you, doesn’t mean he isn’t running game on you

[kylee2437]

To your update: you should’ve asked him what he was looking for from the very beginning.

[Sebby84]

Its just because its all moved in the right direction and been 4 months we seem pretty perfect for each other

[kylee2437]

But you still haven’t asked him what he wanted. Someone can be completely perfect but emotionally unavailable for a serious relationship/ they shut down when talk about a relationship comes into play. I would ask him what he is looking for before you waste anymore time.

[Sebby84]

Yeah i was set to a while back and seen a fortune teller who told me he was as keen on me as i am on him and hed be hard to pin down and if i ask this now ill scare him off and normally wouldn't take a lot of that seriously but she was excellent everything she said about my life and him was spot on…i have an impending divorce and a child so i didn't want to be too clingy

[kylee2437]

Ehhhh I mean obviously you don’t have to be too clingy, but you have a right to have standards and not want your time to be wasted. Discussing what you are looking for with someone is a way of setting boundaries because if someone is looking to casually date and you are looking for a potential partner, that might not mesh in the end. I get where the fortune teller was getting at, but at the same time, it seems like you are wanting a relationship with this man , how long are you going to keep yourself in confusion of what he is looking for before it becomes a complete waste of time to you? That’s unfair to your standards

[dudeinohio]

If he wanted a committed relationship with you, he would have totally deleted his tinder profile

[Drumlin2001]

Sounds like you both have different agendas. You need to talk to him.

[Sebby84]

Really scared of pushing him away i have baggage and dont want to seem clingy or desperate

[Drumlin2001]

If he's still. updating his dating profile it's reasonable to ask what's going on. No point wasting your time if he's not on same page

[kylee2437]

@Sebby84 if you push him away from discussing stuff like this, then he definitely isn’t a potential partner.

[spartan55]

Oh no, the sky is falling.