My close guy friend suddenly seems so hesitant to talk to me and treats me coldly?

[Anonymous]

Some context. I have a close guy friend who is also my colleague. We would text everyday and though there were some complications in the past that made us awkward with each other for awhile, we will still continue to text without fail. Fast forward to today, we have been put to work together closely in the office so we did not text as often. Things were getting better and we were getting closer. We had a small circle of friends that we will always hang out with after work and go on trips together. We just came back from a trip when suddenly he became cold and distant. I assumed it was because he wasn't feeling well as he was down with a cold a few days after we came back. But after awhile, he seemed to recover and laughed and joked with other people. But when I spoke to him and asked him questions, he would either mumble out an answer or shrug. I assumed he was upset with me over something, but he still talks to me about work. And he still says bye to me before we leave. The last thing he said to me outside of work was when he was fetching me for an outing with our other friends. Things were really awkward in the car as at that time he was already refusing to speak to me. So I mentioned that perhaps I shouldn't have come, using my busyness as an excuse. But he replied that he wouldn't have come for the event if I didn't. Before going silent again and refusing to talk anymore. His reply made me confused as I'm pretty sure he wouldn't say that if he was mad at me. But when I texted him that night to ask him whether he had arrived home safely after dropping me back, he refused to answer me. I texted three times and he left me on read. Since that time, whenever I talked to him casually about non work items, he would give me the cold shoulder. Was it wrong of me to ask if he was home safely? Did I make him mad? Or perhaps... he found out that I actually have a crush on him?

[Pyrofox]

Well maybe give him as a friend initially a date offer he can't turn down and see if clarifying your stance fixes things if you really still have that crush. It's a breath of fresh air when women realize the mind games gotta just go. As to why he's suddenly distant. Is probably he noticed he's the only one u chat with lmao and it's like awkward ASF as he probably feels FRIENDZONNED. The best thing to do if you are really falling then for him is to like let him know u actually want him then.

Maybe he will confess to knowing all along XD.

[Guy13]

Maybe the message is you are talking him to death. Too much text, forcing conversation etc. Guys tire of that quickly. He’s going to disappear if you can not handle quiet moments together. Talk less and I bet things will change for better🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asker]

What if he was the one who was always initiating conversations? And with the amount of time we spend together, we actually don't really talk that often as I understand that everyone needs space.

[Guy13]

Alright. You are there. I am not 🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️

[CarolinaJones]

Do you know if he has a girlfriend, perhaps their cold towards you due to that? The answer lies within the question, remember what happened at the trip, recall what occurred before everything was awkward, that will help. Also, I assume part of it also lies within the complications from the past, but mostly lies within the trip itself.

[Asker]

No, he doesn't have a girlfriend. And nothing happened during the trip. I have also consulted my other friends who followed us on the trip and they agreed that I did not do anything to offend or hurt him. He even let me sleep on his shoulder on the plane trip back. And he seemed fine when he dropped me home. I think it was the next day when he became like that.

[CarolinaJones]

He's pretty confusing. Perhaps this website will help you.
www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/.../

[Avicenna]

Well, it looks like he's mad because he isn't getting what he wanted and the communication has been bad between you

[Asker]

Hmm.. but how do I know what he wants? Whenever I tried to talk about deep stuff with him, he gives me a really roundabout answer.

[Avicenna]

You have to infer from his behavior if he won't tell you

[Iron_Man]

Give him some space