Ok so long story short we have been best friends for 24 years. I used to have crush on him and we talked about it then. He said he didn’t want to lose me as a friend so we just kept it kosher. We both married other people kept in contact on and off. He got divorced and I’m still married. Now in the last 2or 3 years we have hooked up occasionally but with the same expectations of no strings attached just to scratch an itch type of thing as I’m still married but separated. All has been good until this past weekend. One thing that we never have done is kiss in any way shape or form. I think it has been our way of keeping it light and fun. This weekend things were getting along and then he tried to kiss me while dtd and totally caught me off guard and I dodged his efforts. Then realized that maybe it wouldn’t be such a bad thing. So I went in for the kiss. A couple closed mouth kisses that progressed to full out passionate kissing session. I paused in the middle and looked at him he had this stupid ass grin on his face and giggled lol. Move on to afterwards and I got in my feels about my home situation and said I don’t know what to do and that maybe it’s better for my kids if I give my husband a chance. He strongly said if that’s how you’re feeling then why did you just do what we did? He acted different the rest of the weekend. Very distant not getting close at all. When I normally leave or say good bye he always walks me to my car and gives me a hug. This time he didn’t. I’m so confused as to what he is thinking. We have talked since and I did tell him that I felt he was acting different and explained the whole goodbye scenario and he apologized and acknowledged that he did do that but said he just wasn’t thinking about it at the time. Is he not interested in more, scared of what had happened, or does he have stronger feelings for me? I do Love him but I try very hard to keep it at friends with benefits level per our agreement. Does he feel different now?
My best friend (37 M) of 24 years and I hooked up, now I don’t know what to think. Anyone have insight help please?
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Also we talk on the phone everyday and text multiple times a day. He works out of town and does 4 or 5 16 hour shifts and still messages and calls me. This is how we have always been. Now I’m wondering if this is because he has always felt different but never had the balls to say it..
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