Guys can you like someone but be afraid of commitment or not ready to commit at the same time?

[Anonymous]

So I think basically he is hiding his feelings even from himself. I want some perspectives from those who have an aviodant attachment style

[Smoothing]

Yes, avoidant attachment can occur in adults. And it can affect a person's ability to get into relationships.

It is not that they are hiding their feelings from themselves, it is just that their fear of getting hurt runs so deep that they are afraid of being with partner.

Though it is not that clear cut to recognise avoidant attachment. They will most probably have a pattern beyond their romantic opportunities.

The problem usually starts from childhood depending on how a person grew up.

[Smoothing]

If you don't know much about them, you can't tell whether they have avoidant attachment or not though. So be careful with your diagnosis.

[spartan55]

Lol, no, he just isn't interested.

[spartan55]

by the way, guys don't 'hide feelings from themselves', that's an excuse you girls use.

[Wise4myage]

Sure, I think that's very possible.