IIm attracted to men who trn out to be gay?

[Anonymous]

I am highly traditional but dammit if i dont love seeing a man with perfect style... Not overly obviously gay though although they can be attractive too unfortunately for me. But when i say gay men i mean guys you see and think damn he looks good... he moves perfectly... hi co fidence is anazjng... And come on he can't be gay... Then 10 mins later you see him cheesing and eyeong a male clerk he's chatting to and it all clicks... He noticed that guy but ignored my existence cuz he's gay.. duh

Ughhhfml even my only past boyfriend was a bisexual man but he was Handsome as heck. My mom said he was Handsome. He had glasses he was a bit nerdy looking which is another thing i like a man to look like lol i love. Men who either have glasses or they actually look like Real nerds balding, chubby , some sort of thing that makes them seem 'uncool'or whatever... Its amazing. As long as theyre nice tho. Manners and gentleness must be there.

[Rainbow_Boy]

You seem to have described your experiences rather than asking a question. There is obviously nothing wrong with that, but I was just trying to see whether you try to understand the depths of your psyche, or ask a rhetorical question to which you already have an answer.

I, for one, don't think gay or straight men could be more attractive than the other, in general, though there is a strong component of personal preference in it. I believe the point made by one of the repliers could have truth in it, i. e. if gay men are more confident because they don't try to impress women, that confidence itself may make the man more attractive in the female eye...

If you'd like to discuss further, feel free to write back. These topics are interesting to me, as I'm a gay man myself.

[Asker]

I think somtimes the bit of femininity is what attracts me cause its like he would treat me better and know how to be more gentle as im a very delicate person

[Asker]

Also both of us liking art or fashion to some extent is something in common and makes me feel closer to a ma

[Sandeeppingping]

It doesn't make sense, handsome and chubby and nerdy is the same sentence? About the same exact person? No way, makes no sense, I'm handsome and I dress too well, I'm not gay and I'm also not nerdy and definitely not "chubby"

[Asker]

Its twi different men

[BlueScorpio]

I don't know girl, your gaydar is broken lol It happens it impossible to know someone sexuality upfront cause you don't know them personally yet. I'm sure it's happened to both sexes, where they see someone of the opposite sex and think they are very attractive only to find out they are gay.

[Asker]

Lol usually im hyper sensitive to signs a man is gay but if he's very attractive to me then yeah mygaydar malfunctikns big time

[Anonymous]

Nah you just like attractive gay men. It will never work out. Even bi men are just gay men. Gay men for the most part will screw anything. It’s just a LOT easier to screw men. Women take time, need trust, safety, prevent pregnancy, and most don’t like anal. Gay men love anal. So good luck with that. I’d say just get a straight guy. Unless you’re ok with your man going on grinder during the weekends and getting his butthole pounded or pounding some other guys butt.

[Asker]

I dont want gay men... thats kinda the whole point of my question. Thats why its a problen and why im asking about it

[Opinion Owner]

I had a girlfriend who had no idea some guys were gay. She didn’t see obvious signs I could see clear as day. If you have even a hint that a guy is bi or gay, I’d say avoid them. You can enjoy their attractiveness sure.

[Asker]

Yup. I know to avoid gay men even a hint of it. I mean i already had one so its not like i dont know what im missing lol. I think its just strange that gay men are th most attractive (to me).. Its kinda surprising and weird
What do you think about my attration to weurd nerdy guys?

[Opinion Owner]

Perfectly normal. I think nerdy girls are hot as well.

[Asker]

Oh wow! Haha okay :)