I recently told my guy bestfriend that I love him and he responded saying “ I like that “ did he reject me?

[Anonymous]

My bestfriend ( 22 M ) and I (23 F ) have friends for almost 2 years already. Recently at the beginning of this year I’ve noticed how he has treated me with so much love , like he started treating me as if I were his girlfriend. When I noticed he started treating me this way I freaked out , I didn’t think nothing of it at all. Until a few days ago , he complimented me and said that he loved me ; I didn’t know what to say I was in shock and I just said “ I love you too “ so then a few days passed, and he complimented me again, and that’s when I decided to tell him that I loved him and he responded saying I like that. I’m so clueless at this point by not even knowing what he meant by saying “ I like that “ I don’t even know if he rejected me or he just said it because he’s happy or he likes that I love him.

[MrOracle]

in my opinion, it's time to have a REAL discussion with him. Quit beating around the bush and TALK to him. Tell him how you feel about him and WHY, and ask him how he feels about you. Tell him to be honest, even if it's bad news. Get the real story from him. That's what you need so you know how to move forward.

If you both have those feelings for each other, the next step is to start talking about morals, values, and life-goals. Feelings are great, and are important, but they aren't going to guarantee you long-term compatibility - that's why you need to discuss those other things.

What will you do if he wants kids and you don't? Or if you want to live in the suburbs and he wants to live in a big city? Or if you want him to come home to you every night, and he wants a career that will have him traveling 250 days a year? What does he think about marriage, kids, finances, lifestyles, religion, children, family obligations, etc?

You need to talk about these things, and you need to make sure you have compatible ideas. They don't need to be IDENTICAL ideas, but you need to be able to live with the answers he gives you, and vice versa. That means you need to be able to accept him AS HE IS, and NOT expect him to change for you in the future.

This might be the most important relationship in your life, or you might quickly learn that you have no compatibility with each other. Either way, it's best to find these things out right from the start, because they aren't going to change.

[ZackBan]

I would say he is playing coy thinking he's very clever and mysterious. Guys are like that at 22.

So just lay your cards on the table when you're alone together having a good time and tell him if he wants to be more than friends this is his chance to say it.

[Anonymous]

You should ask him what he meant by that, like what are his feelings for you. You’ll probably shoot that down either out of fear of rejection or messing your friendship up, but you two have already opened the door to that conversation, you just have to make it actually happen.

[dustybiker]

Ask for a no-judgement conversation and get it all out.

[Guy13]

No, he has exactly where he wants you. You say that everyday until I tell you to stop.. because I like that !!!

[Shamalien]

That’s not a rejection at all he initiated the first I love you

[Jouth]

i love our friendship