So there is this guy who’ve I have liked for about 8 months now. He took me out for my birthday, got me lunch and icecream, and got me Christmas gifts. He claims he doesn’t like me. I told him that the date made me like him even more and he said “that’s ok”. I don’t understand what he means.
Oh, the age old, "does he like me, or does he LIKE me?"
He is your friend. He is spending time with you, getting you gifts like any sibling or girl would do, but he's telling you he's not interested in being more than a friend by saying "he doesn't like" you. Clearly he likes you, he's just not crushing on you the way you're hoping. And this doesn't mean you're unattractive or "less," just that people like who they like. He likes you as a friend. The world is not made up of fuckable and unfuckable—there are a lot of "it's cool to just be friends" people too. If you bin everybody as fuckable or unfuckable (or see yourself through that lens) you're missing out on all the great friendships you could have without sexual attraction muddling things up.
I had a (male) friend who was straight, he was a really good friend, we did things together, and I ruined it all when I jumped on him and (being a guy) he couldn't tell me no... hasn't spoken to me in the 30 years since. Just be content being his friend.
You are young and I assume he is too. At your age there really isn't much difference between a friendship and a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship except that the latter means you have each expressed a special interest in each other.
I don't necessarily agree with the others that he is "rejecting" your interest in moving towards a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
If he has done this much for you, I doubt that he is clear that he only wants to be friends and nothing more. I was a boy that age once. I get it.
I think it is more likely that he is confused about what he wants and not sure if or where he wants to go on from here. Relationships are new things at your age and the feelings are all brand new. It can be scary and confusing and it is entirely possible that is what he is wrestling with. When he said "that's okay" he may well have detected your interest in having more and be too afraid to acknowledge it because he does not know what to do.
Best advice I have at your age is to take things slow and don't have any expectations. Be together if you both enjoy it and whatever develops (or doesn't develop) it will not be the end of your chances for love. This I can assure you.
So why didn't you follow up immediately with,, the hell does that mean, see I am with you here, when some one says ok I'm like huh ok what, ok has many meanings, ok good ok get lost, ok we're good, not good, so I say adda little more info behind ok so we can be, clear what the hell ok means, you know what I mean, drives me bananas when some one just says ok, especially when you just expressed your feelings or made plans to get together or want to finalize something important and all you get is ok, kind of a dufus way of saying f you or what ever, ok by itself at times, leave things unsettled, some things ok, is understood clearly but in your case with dude I'm with you, the hell does ok mean, give a follow up, something to to make ok have a profound meaning, I'm curious did you ever learn what ok meant?
You should be careful. You don't really know his true intentions. There are two ways you can see this.
Firstly, perhaps he value your friendship a lot and wants to continue to be friends even though he doesn't like you back in that way.
The other reason MIGHT be that he likes the attention from you and might use you just so that he feels needed.
I don't know him so I don't know which category he's in but look out for any signs that he might be just using you for the attention.
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I said something like this when a guy told me he liked me
I said “It’s okay, time will heal it”
I just didn’t want a relationship and I was very young, maybe like 17-18.
Take it for what it's worth. He now knows you like him. He's not sure if he likes you or not.
He just sees you as a friend, either for now or just in general. Maybe it's because you're not his type, or he's not ready for a relationship, or he's gay, or he doesn't believe you and he would be romantically compatible. You never know the reason. But he isn't interested in any more than a friendship with you right now.
Don't take this as an indication of your value or worth. You are beautiful, amazing and valuable.
The man means he doesn't like you like a potential partner. He likes you like a "friend."
Friends give gifts, take each other out, spend time with you. He is TRYING to kindly put you off of thinking there is anything more than being friends. Listen to the man and look elsewhere for a dating relationship or you'll ruin this friendship and it's good to have man friends. They're like brothers/dads. Good to have around and to be able to call on for help.
He said he doesn't like you - truat that what he says actually means he doesn't wanna be with you. Even if you feel he likes you or you have a connection, he probably feels that, but he doeant wanna be with ypu! And you shouldn't want to be w someone who doesn't want ypu! So you gotta do hard thing and go against how you feel! The right guy will want you to!
He rejected u 😭 but that's okay , rejection is a good thing , it means that this person isn't the one for you bc he doesn't find u compatible with him , so it's really just a clear sign that he's the wrong person for u , be thankful
Well if he said he doesn't like you, it sounds like he's being straightforward with you and wants to be your friend. If he told you "thats ok" it sounds like he's still wants to be your friend and won't just cut you off. Some people will distance themselves from someone who has feelings for them to make it less awkward.
Ask him directly: Are you willing to eriously progress in this relationship, I need clear words.
Speak and phrasing is not a problem, we'll discuss details as we speak.
Otherwise, keep him as a friend in best cases.
I think he was just being very nice, considerate and respectful towards you and does not expect you to like him for this.
that is... so weird... major mixed signals. you should talk to him about what he means and why he is giving mixed signals.
If he doesn't like you romantically then why is he doing all this stuff for you? He sounds like a confused idiot who has no balls, or else he would say he likes you too
He’s cool with you liking him. He probably likes you back even though he won’t say it
You really should ask him what this means. The phrasing seems to imply that he believes you're saying it as a kindness, like you're doing him a favor by pretending to enjoy his company.
He sees you as a friend, but you said you like him so he’s okay with you liking him. He just doesn’t like you back in that way
You're a friend to him, but he's not willing to give you more than that.
It means he's not offended by your feelings towards him. He accepts them as valid, even though he doesn't reciprocate them.
I suppose he see's you as a good friend. He isn't interested, when a guy is interested, you will immediately know it.
He probably has mixed feelings about the situation. I wouldn’t try to force a relationship. He will feel trapped.
Us Guys are usually not Confident enough to just blurt out that we like you even when you say you like us because it very rarely happens to us, So he probably didn't know what to say.
Meaning that he doesn't consider you a romantic partner but just a friend.
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