What would you think if a girl you where getting to know but friendzoned you randomly blocked you everywhere?

[anonbrunette99]

I did it when I was mad because I regretted friendzoning him and felt I ruined it and whilst I was thinking about texting him I accidentally screen recorded his Snapchat profile, (it notifies him when it’s been done) so I panicked and taken that as my sign to block him everywhere. should i unblock him or will he just think I’m playing games and I’m weird?

[AmandaYVR]

You blew it, girl.

I've noticed a pattern here on GAG. Girl does something stupid. Or many things stupid. Hurts the guy. And/or pisses him off. Then she posts a q here, asking guys how they would feel. They write a combination of "hurt" and "pissed off" and she tries to analyze every comment. She looks for, "Well if he was hurt, then he must have liked me, right? He must have cared about me a bit then?" Well, duh. But you're missing the point. You played games, or acted erratic, or crazy, and almost no guys like this. You lose the guy (s.) So learn from it.

What are you going to do differently next time?

• Don't act impulsively. Think before you act.
• Don't let fear take over all sense of reasoning and let fear dictate how you behave.
• Embarrassment is not a reason to block or lash out.
• If you do something dumb, face it. And apologize. Be straight about it, what you did. THAT'S how you get guys to respect you and want to be around you. Accountability.

And by the way, guys get hard. Especially when they're young and starting out dating and whatnot. It's an involuntary, normal bodily reaction. So cut them some slack!

[AmandaYVR]

And also, by the way, you have a pattern of ignoring your commenters. You should be more interactive and appreciative, if you want peoples' help. I decided to answer you anyway, but it's more for others to read, as I know you will be silent again.

[AmandaYVR]

Sorry, I rescind that last comment. You are interacting on this one. My apologies.

[anonbrunette99]

Well, you are right I did blow it. We argued the other week and according to many on GAG I was extremely lucky he forgiven me (although maybe think he forgave me probably just to sleep w me.) but nonetheless our connection wasn’t the same anymore, I was playing games and ignoring him and stuff a lot as I wasn’t unsure about him as I noticed he seems to have a lot of attractive girls on his radar, but he is super inexperienced so I didn’t let that stop me from still continuing, we spoke, I’d ignore him every couple days. He asked to hang out, after promising him several times whilst he was on his trip that I would I now said “maybe.” Of course, this blocking thing must have been the last straw. I was literally apologising and offering to make time for him this weekend but I can’t blame him if I where a guy I’d be filling my weekend with better plans, or something I wanna do and ignoring the girl as I’d think she’s very immature and strange. the getting hard so quick thing wasn’t as much the problem it was just the way he handled it he was staring at me so confused trying to push me away from kissing him further. He said on text I didn’t cross a line and it was “hot” but it did throw me off.

[anonbrunette99]

By the way I only ignore commentors if I have nothing to say, my comment back may result in argument, they’re trolling me, they are unnecessarily hateful or disrespectful or I simply didn’t see the comment on the specific thread! Sometimes I miss threads or forget to respond as I was waiting for more comments to come

[Sandeeppingping]

That sums it up really well, in my brief time here I've noticed that too but definitely couldn't have put it into words the way you did, nice answer

[Dingsbums]

I’d think like “damn wtf is wrong with u stupid bitch girl I deserve better anyway have fun fucking that other dude who cums after one minute I’m gonna go find some better girl have fun beeing alone” normal stuff u know

ok I’m kidding😂 but for real if someone blocks me I assume they r either over emotional or got into a relationship

[anonbrunette99]

I honestly think I blew it and you know what I FEEL the vibes that he was thinking something similar to what you said he like acts like he doesn’t care but he seems a bit anxious and bothered but I think now he’s probably lost interest.

[anonbrunette99]

And he’s the one who cums in one min he got hard as hell from a 10 sec kiss!!!

[Juxtapose]

I wouldn't give you a second chance, I hate being blocked and you display a lot of impulsive, irrational behavior. You even friendzoned the guy just because he got hard in 10 seconds which is normal for guys if they haven't had any for awhile..

[Juxtapose]

When people block me I block them right back and leave them blocked so they can't take it back.

[Juxtapose]

Last girlfriend I had with block me off and on and I still kick myself for tolerating that.

[Juxtapose]

*would

[itsmegrave]

She probably feels like she doesn't have control over her emotions. When people feel this way, they tend to become angry at everything and everyone. I Just Rise my middle finger to her!

[anonbrunette99]

Doesn’t have control over her emotions? But what if you did nothing wrong to her so wouldn’t you be put off that she’s emotional enough to block for no reason anyway

[itsmegrave]

She doesn't know how to express herself properly. Or maybe she just doesn't want to tell anyone about her feelings.

[FilmGuy93]

lmfao he'll definitely think you're playing games and weird, but the good news is that most guys are used to dealing with that kind of thing from women.

[anonbrunette99]

any tips on how to get him to forgive me! I even told him I’d make time to hang w him this weekend that’s legit what he wanted… :/

[Sandeeppingping]

Unblock him and tell him the truth, he's shown his vulnerability back when you friendzoned him, show him yours

[RealMarek]

It would depend on why the girl was so angry. If it wasn’t my fault I would ignore her and move on.

[anonbrunette99]

What if you thought she was attractive and you guys had great chemistry and you thought a lot about being intimate with her like the memory of it: would you cut her some slack or the disrespect would be enough for you to move on and forget her?

[RealMarek]

Disrespect early during the relationship is a bad sign. When I was young, I cut slack and ended up in a horrible relationship. Disrespect is enough to make me move on.

[TallAnon]

Randomly being blocked is a really shit feeling, but if she genuinely put in effort and honestly apologized, I would at least somewhat talk with her again

[anonbrunette99]

I don’t know to unblock him or just leave it we where supposed to hang out this weekend too. But honestly we argued the other week and it got ugly so I think blocking him might’ve been my last strike. Maybe I should move on I don't know

[TallAnon]

At this point I'd just give up, no use going back now

[anonbrunette99]

Why is there no use going back? If he’s attracted to me and was thinking a lot about a kiss we had doesn’t that at least give me a bit of an advantage that he may let me away with more at least in chances of being intimate with me no?

[TallAnon]

He's much more likely to just want your body now, since this created an emotional detachment. Everyone's different though, ultimately your choice.

[anonbrunette99]

Okay can you help me understand why guys become only attracted / interested in a girls body after they experience some inconvenience, argument, drama or disappointment from her. Why are they able to switch so easily and why is the switch something they keep the woman oblivious about until she meets him and it’s obvious he doesn’t have the same respect as before

[TallAnon]

Hmmm, I'm not sure I know enough about psychology to give you an explaination beyond the observation. You do seem to recognize the phenomena as well.

If I had to speculate.. I heard that men initally look at the ideal of a woman, rather than the reality. We have an idea in our heads about what you could be. If we see a hot woman, we don't think about what makes her.. her. We think about what she could be. Slowly that's replaced with realism and attachment. Then if something "shocking" happens to betray our idealized expectations, we no longer see her as the ideal and also don't have the attachment that would replace it.
What do you think? This is just speculation.

[anonbrunette99]

I thought that because I had that situation a few times. When I dated a guy, and taken an argument too far he switched to only wanting intimacy with me from relationship another time when we briefly dated and how I reacted to guys hitting on me made him not take me serious another time a guy was a perfect gentleman to me and after opening up about my childhood trauma he switched, and now this guy has switched. It seems unless he is in love any type of negativity or eye brow raising experience has a lot of potential to cause the man to take her less seriously. however. I’ve also had other men forgive me for pretty whacky stuff. I suppose everyone is different and some will tolerate more especially if they have low self esteem or they have emotional attachment to the girl (she was there for him through a hard time, she taken his virginity, they went through something together) but if none of that is the case I think they become less attracted and start to wonder if any of the other girls on their radar have the qualities she’s lacking, making it easy to move on. then we wonder why we didn’t hear from him well we shown our flawed personality and he wasn’t invested enough to stay. what do you think?

[TallAnon]

I think you're on the right track, if we're not already invested, then showing to many flaws will make us consider other options. That sounds like it makes sense.
I think it comes down to the question "Does she make my life better?" And if you do something like blocking/ghosting or cause to much drama, the answer is clearly: No.

[TallAnon]

Too* double tap wasn't doing it, haha

[anonbrunette99]

Yeah it definitely varies from guy to guy though but I think what you said is an excellent rule of thumb as I would say it applies to most guys.

[Ryan1979]

I would take it as she was not interested and move on

[EaterPeter]

Unblock, apologize saying you panicked try giving as genuine of a reason as possible

[anonbrunette99]

I’m just gonna send him a text telling him I deleted the app I blocked him on and sorry for the confusion and that I’m down to hang out with him over the weekend if he wants I can probably make some time. Is that ok?

[EaterPeter]

That sounds good enough to me

[EaterPeter]

I would modify it a bit as love to hang out with you and not if he wants. Can make some time not ok either.

[EaterPeter]

We are trying to increase your chances, right?

[anonbrunette99]

Nope.
He isn’t up for it he’s completely ignoring me but I do know he is busy today so there’s a chance he’ll get back to me before the weekend but I won’t stress because if he was truly interested and truly liked me he would cut me a bit of slack so if he doesn’t forgive it’s cause he wasn’t fully interested in something serious anyway

[EaterPeter]

Ok, all the best!

[LazerBean]

I would think you are crazy or extremely childish.

[anonbrunette99]

Why would you think the person is crazy?

[Andres77]

He’ll think ur unstable

[anonbrunette99]

That’s what I’m thinking if I unblock him he’s likely going to think Im unstable or I’m playing games. Probably best just keep things as it is and move on right?

[Andres77]

Yup … that’s just my opinion based on limited information. See what everyone says.
Good luck

[d3n0939]

lmao, a drama queen

[Anonymous]

Why'd you friendzone him? Not bangable?

[anonbrunette99]

He got hard from a 10 sec kiss it was giving virgin

[Opinion Owner]

So you friendzoned him because he got hard? That's an odd reason to friendzone someone!

[Juxtapose]

lol give me a few days without an orgasm and I will get hard with the decent breeze. These women don't understand us at all and have so many options they can frivolously dismiss us without a care in the world. I wish I had that many options.. 🙄

[Juxtapose]

*with a decent

[Opinion Owner]

@Juxtapose Yeah--I'm not 100% clear the reason she friendzoned him is because he got a hard on. That's what I'm trying to understand. I WOULD have thought she'd WANT a guy to gave a functioning penis. So if anything it would make more sense to friendzone a guy who DOESN'T get hard. THAT would make sense to me.

[Juxtapose]

Yep! I've had times where I was too nervous and couldn't get hard because of blood flow issues, I certainly wasn't praised for THAT!

[Opinion Owner]

So c'mon @anonbrunette99 ! Tell us more! We're dying to understand this!

[Juxtapose]

It's pretty simple to understand really. She's a woman with so many options that she doesn't value her potential partners because she views them as expendable. Why would she care when she can spend the wheel and get another guy within the same hour?

[Juxtapose]

*spin the wheel