So he's expressed his feelings and desires... you said no. But you keep coming back around, so you tell me who's to blame here?
- You told him "NO" and feel he should respect "your" feelings for the sake of the relationship.
- He told you "YES" and feels you should respect his feelings for the sake of the relationship.
So who's feelings should take presidents? Yours, so you can get what you want out of it and he never will?
Doesn't sound fair to me. You sound seriously offended, but you aren't walking away from the "friendship" either. So who's to blame here? Him or you, and does it matter because you keep coming back around.
First off, pretty shitty to put him in the spotlight with the photo to a bunch of us here online adding salt to the wound. That wasn't necessary and is a violation of privacy.
Moving on, if he can't respect the boundaries of what you want, ie just friendship, then you need to end the friendship. You continuing to hang around him is more than likely giving him the impression of mixed signals. No one should have to be told something like this more than once, but the best way to get the message to him is tell what's up and stop being around him and talking to him.
End the friendship and let him figure it out from there. The more you continue to be around him the more it will indulge his belief that there is a chance something more will happen.
Then don't be friends with him.
If he can't respect your boundaries and how you want the relationship to work, it's no longer a frienship.
Cut all contact. But be careful - someone who willingly stuck around in the friendzone and ignored your wishes for 10 years is someone bound to get violent.
Make sure you have friends around when you break the news and you have people making sure you're not followed home, etc.
Hmm.. it seems like he doesn't respect you. I have experienced this. Sadly, it turned into stalking, spamming, and threats. It didn't stop 'til I left my job.
I'd suggest stop seeing him, block, and forget all about him.. since communicating with him won't work. Stop giving him false hopes too. To avoid potential stressful situations in the future, do that in a heartbeat.
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He doesn't respect your boundaries. Sometimes when someone likes someone else romantically, cognitive bias leads them to think the other person is interested when they are not. If he can't have a friendship with you without wanting something more and not pushing for it, then maybe you could step back from this friendship for a while.
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You have him in the friend zone.
Be merciful. Stop being his friend. Find people who want to be your friend.
Tell him simply and plainly. . ."Either you accept that we are just friends or I will end this."
And if he can't accept it, cut him loose. This isis torture for him and you doing this will help him to grow.
If that's you, you're almost a dead ringer for my girlfriend. Change the Padres gear for Cardinals gear and I'd think you were her. I know you aren't becuase I recgonize all of her friends, ant that guys looks like a complete stranger.
As for your question, he's trying to change your mind regarding him. You like the same things so, to him, it's not a stretch to believe that you may like him as well. He may think that until he made a move you'd never considered anything more than friendship. Now you are and he wants you to choose dating. Either that or he's an asshole that hid it well.
I’d give a final warning. I’d be sympathetic more so then must I think so I’d give a very strung final warning. After this that’s it done. At sone point I don’t even feel safe with someone who cent respect boundaries. It goes from being sympathetic pitiable to creepy & sketchy af. there’s no excuse to cross boundaries I’d NEVER do this would you? I worry about crossing boundaries I’m not even you’d about and you told him clearly. Honestly there’s no way he misunderstood.
yeah its very odd to show his picture... something feels off here lol
@Still-alive very very strange and not cool
You're right, HE should have ended the friendship already, and hopefully he will. Guys don't generally just ask women out. Which means you did something for him to view you in that light. The best thing YOU can do is stop interacting with him at all. And I do mean AT ALL! He's got to realize on his own that you like him being around, you don't really like him. When he gets this through his head he'll stop. If I had to guess most of his actions are probably just desperation. He' built you up in his head to be something you aren't. Feelings are irrational like that.
if he is not respecting your boundaries he isn't your friend. he does not care about your feelings, he probably only cares about the idea of you he made up in his head
You have to understand that his missing on his yester years and he is trying to cherish with you.
I understand that's not suitable for you but he can also dream you have to let him down slowly be gentle and step aside for a while also be Stern and fixed on your decision
Lol all i said was to let him down slowly and be Stern 🤦♂️
And to be away from him for a while till he gets why his emotions are clouding his judgement.
I agree he shouldn't just randomly start trying to kiss her
Lol i had understood 🤣🤣🤣
He clearly wants something more, and if it’s not what you want and you have already tried explaining that, it might be time to consider just how valuable continuing contact is. You aren’t hard on the eyes so without knowing anything else about you I can see at least one reason why he would be interested in pursuing you besides the existing friendship. It’s fundamentally disrespectful of you that he will not take no for an answer, and begs the question what else he won’t accept a ‘no’ answer to.
Because most guys won’t be friends with a girl if he isn’t attracted toward her , why you girl’s in relationships need to distance yourselves from opposite sex friends , A guy hangs out with a girl because he wants to fuck her in most cases
Denial. Denial that y'all could be something better if you just say yes, just once. So he'll ask again and again... and again... and again until he thinks you're just blind and he'll have to SHOW YOU that you two can be together.
Yet you have zero respect posting his photo without his consent and to also embarass him. How disgusting of you.
She is using him for gifts and trips. Then he thinks they are going together
I would end the friendship because he isn’t respecting you
@sunflower00 Than who would take her out, validate her, pay for things, and be her emotional tampon?
@KrakenAttackin
Yeah funny how she didn't end it a while ago...😂😂
MAJOR red flag. A guy shouldn't need to be told twice.
My suggestion may sound harsh, but you need to get away from him. Block him. Cut off contact for a minimum 90 days.
That old man wants to be your boyfriend. If he's not understanding that you are not interested, then it might be time to break off the friendship.
So stop seeing him. You've set boundaries, he's crossed them.
He's not your friend, he doesn't want to be your friend, he only wants a relationship with you. I'd cut off communication with him.
The question is why don't you stop hanging out with him if he is like this then?
He is wrong for doing that, But you are also wrong for keeping him as your friend and hanging out with him still.
Sorry, But it makes you look like a Hypocrite like your using him.
I can see why you not interested in him, maybe you should end this friendship.
Damn. Poor guy is a 2! Lmao. Gotta respect his confidence!
But he does need to know when to stop. Just tell him it's his final warning, and if he can't accept your decision then he won't be able to hang out with you anymore.
Why is this a question? He’s not a friend he’s someone who doesn’t respect you.
I don't understand why you didn't pull the plug a while ago.
Here’s a solution for you.
End the friendship
she should eat onions and lay a big one on him
If he's not respecting your boundaries, you're better not communicating.
maybe because you're being too sweet to him 🤪 so he thinks you like him more than friend
Dude is acting like a straight up fucking simp. He should stop but also break off the friendship with you. But we already know he won't. He's definitely a virgin simp thats desperate. Part of me feels bad for the poor bastard
Why are you friends with someone who doesn't respect your boundaries?
If you want him as a friend. Tell him that you want to be friends with him. Let him down in a friendly way.
He is a Padres fan so losing probably doesn’t faze him anymore anyway.
Because you still keep him as a friend? Lol
Make things clearer to him maybe he will understand but In most cases those are people who really love you
it is because he is horny / sexually frustrated
help him to get laid , get him a prostitute
problem solved
Because he doesn't respect you. Best to just break off relations with him.
Prolly cuz he likes u more than a friend? What's so hard to understand bout that lmao. The feelings never gonna fully go away. I think u know the answer.
If he can't respect you, then he isn't your friend and you need to dump him.
He's no longer your friend.
Hasn't been for some time.
Walk away.
why are you showing his picture? kind of odd
Because there's no such thing as "just friends"
You're coming off as a bitch to him
You have your answer. If he can't respect that, unfriend him.
lol " men and women can be friends" .
Isn't really you're friend if he doesn't respect you enough to stop and keeps doing it
So you use him for emotional support and attention and likely financial benefits but he isn’t good enough for you?
She won't be a lover to you, but she will be a very good friend..
yeah i can see why you friendzoned him. jesus.
my condolences for going through that
Because he's not a respectful person.
Men and women can't be friends
We both pretty much know we aren't going to have sex with each other. Doesn't mean we can't be friends. We didn't become friends with the intention of dating each other. If we did, we'd have started a lot sooner. We live within walking distance of each other and we never met up that way.
leading him on
How is she leading him on when she’s saying she does not want that at all and never will?
@sunflower00 I doubt she has told him directly she will "never be interested in him that way". She still likes the attention, validation, and I bet he pays for everything when they are together.
@KrakenAttackin well, she says she has told him this, there’s no reason for her to lie to strangers on the internet. Some people just don’t back off or listen
I agree with all you said @sunflower00 but man you are so wrong when you say "there is no reason for her to lie to strangers on the internet" did you just shifted to earth from heaven
You Better Kiss That Damn Toad Then. 😹😻😽
time for a new friend
That is not friendship or healthy for you.
Tell him to fuck off into the sunset🌅🌅🌅
What are you doing with him?
why do you keep friendship
Well cancel.
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