Is this suspicious that he said this?

[Cass510]

boyfriend and I been together for three years. Good relationship, he hasn’t been a shady guy and honest from what I know. Anyways I have trust issues and I tend to always end up looking through his phone especially at night when he’s asleep. He sleeps with it ends up all over the place so I grab while he’s sleeping and search. (He knows this by the way) he doesn’t like it but it’s whatever. Anyways I slept over and we were talking about me sleeping and he said he thought it was “suspicious” how quiet i was sleeping since I make noise. He thought I was faking it so I can look through his phone or whatever. I was immediately like are you trying to hide it why were you watching me? He got mad and said he wasn’t that he woke up and noticed that through the night. Should I find this suspicious? Is he hiding his phone? No shitty comments please

[SteveSmith1985]

No. What is happening here is: Your boyfriend has developed trust issues WITH YOU. But... he is entirely justified in not trusting you when it comes to spying on him.

Basically, you're trying to blame him for being suspicious that you might be fake-sleeping to look through his phone. BUT YOU DO LOOK THROUGH HIS PHONE!!!

So... I mean... how can you possibly blame him for thinking you might be doing something YOU DO ACTUALLY DO!. You're "guilty" of spying on him. How can you be offended if he's suspicious you might be spying on him?

Do you see what I mean?

YOU have engaged in shitty behavior (looking though his phone). YOU have created a situation where your boyfriend has every reason to be suspicious that you're engaging in that shiitty behavior.

Your trust issues, and your effort to protect yourself are fucking things up when it comes to trust in your current relationship.

You created this situation. Your boyfriend is in no way wrong. This is 100% YOUR ISSUES causing you to act in a way that's giving him (justified) ISSUES with trusting you!!! You're shooting yourself in the foot here.

You need to stop spying on him, then he can learn to trust you again.

I have trust issues too. But this is over-the-top. It's like a parody. Please take a step back and look at what you're doing. If you cannot be in a relationship without spying, you cannot complain when your boyfriend doesn't trust you.

[AviatorTom]

The real question is... Why are you so suspicious? Your boyfriend is being very good in not complaining about you looking through his phone. If that was me, you would have been kicked out a long time ago... for zero trust and believing you can just violate my privacy whenever you feel like it.

[Anonymous]

whoa wtf? why are you looking through his phone? why does he allow it even tho he hates when you do that? no boundaries or trust anywhere. I don't know how this relationship has lasted this long. so you can be suspicious of him but he can't be suspicious of you?

[arianna2005]

You seem pretty toxic you say no shitty comments and I'm not trying to but if you should realize that the ones who loves you won't betray you and that you need to trust to be trusted back so in this case you should honestly not have a boyfriend no offense

[20yearsolder]

You need to worry about yourself. Why do you have trust issues? You said yourself and he has given you no reason to not trust him. It's time to start trusting him. Figure out why you have trust issues and fix it. I don't think it's suspicious at all.

[Guy13]

You’re too much for me. I don’t need your mouth, assumptions, and attitude. I don’t care what your “issue” is. You would have all my passwords etc until you open that nasty attitude and mouth.

[spartan55]

Wow, are you for real? You must not want to keep your boyfriend with that attitude.

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

3 years, no marriage yet?

Don't you think it's about time you talk about it..

you're not getting younger

[Stevefiveo]

You shouldn't be looking through his phone.