“Being a good woman will not keep a man”. What will?

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Guys, what will?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

The reason this statement is true so often is because MOST women pick men that everyone knows isn't going to stay faithful to her.

Nearly all women today want the hottest, most desirable men, to the point that these are the only men who they even SEE - all other men are like ghosts or shadows, and are only acknowledged at all for brief periods if they are providing some service for her: serving her food, changing her oil, fixing her leaking roof, etc. When most women think about "men", they're thinking ONLY of these top 10% men, because the other 90% of men simply do not exist in her world - she's gotten used to tuning them out completely.

With nearly all women going after these same top 10% of men exclusively, those top 10% men have endless options of women available to them, so these men have NO reason to commit to ANY of these women, and so they almost never do, and when they make an exception, it's almost always to a 10/10 woman, and they almost always end up cheating on her anyway, because they are so used to having a constant stream of new women that they just can't give that up.

So, it makes NO difference how good a woman is to this kind of man - nothing she brings to the table is going to come close to making up for the fact that he'd have to give up 1,000 other women, all of whom are willing to do anything to be with him. It's like a poor person trying to bribe a billionaire - you're epicly out of your league to try.

Of course, the solution is to date a man out of the pool of the 90% who aren't these top 10% men - but most women are outright OFFENDED by this suggestion. Even women who are a 3/10 and have 5 kids from 3 baby-daddies still feel entitled to a top 10% men and don't want to "settle" for anything less these days.

How do you keep a man? You have to start with choosing a man based on his MORALS, VALUES, and LIFE-GOALS, and NOT based on his looks, popularity, or status. And you'll have an easier time finding Bigfoot and the Easter Bunny than you will a hot guy who has solid morals, so such a man might be above average, but he's not going to be the guy who soaks your panties at first glance. Still, if you don't pick a guy with morals and values, any investment you make is always going to be wasted, because you have no solid foundation to build on.

This is why marriages used to be arranged, and families would vet not just the marriage partner but their family as well. It was understood that there needed to be a solid foundation of morals and values if a marriage had any chance of lasting.

Today, the vast majority of people get into relationships based on nothing more than mutual attraction - how they FEEL about the other person in the moment. But your feelings for another person are going to change - ebb and flow, rise and fall - over time, and if you have no foundation, then that relationship will not survive.

If you buy a house built upon sand, it doesn't matter how much you invest in paint and furniture and lighting fixtures and remodeling the bathrooms and kitchen - all the time and money and effort - because one strong storm can wash the whole thing away. And that's exactly what most people do today: they invest in a relationship with no foundation, and wonder why they fail.

Jamie05rhs · Accepted Answer

You can only keep a man who wants to be kept in the first place.

Haha456 · Accepted Answer

because the way you see a relationship is "If I cook him breakfast, lunch and dinner, clean, be his maid, do everything for him, pay his bills then he would stay with me" is the wrong mentality to have. You need to be a challenge. Let him chase you. Let HIM WORK FOR YOU.

A lot of women don't even have the ability to stand on her own two feet (survive on their own) which is why they date losers, assholes who clearly aren't treating them right. When you're financially independent and very stable, you don't need to beg inferior / bad men to stay with you. If you can afford to pick and choose a good man rather than to settle for less cuz you can't financially survive being on your own.

capitulo_de_su_libro · Accepted Answer

He has to want to be kept, nothing else will keep him.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Being a spiritually fulfilling woman.

dragoblack · Answer

Ok, that's bullshite. No man wants a woman who will be a constant pain in his ass, cheat on him, and so on. Men want a good woman, but men can be shitty making it seem like being a good woman isn't worth it. Being a good woman also doesn't mean you have to put up with his abuse and bullshite, you can be a good woman and defend yourself. You can also be a good woman and leave a relationship from a man who doesn't respect and trust you.
Being a good woman isn't the problem, the problem is either, talking about relationship issues is just yelling and throwing things, getting no actual talking done whatsoever, either of you are project your insecurities instead of working on acknowledging & getting rid of them, one/both of you are actually just toxic personality, and/or you started the relationship from a hookup, but once the sex got stale you both realized you were not compatable as people.
So many are quick to jump at " all men/women suck!", "why can't i find a good man/woman!"... etc. there's never anything wrong with being a good person, the problem is people don't notice the difference between confidence & being an asshole, not putting in effort to the relationship, past abusive relationships rewired your brain to go after abuse people because you see any other relationship as boring, you don't self-reflect to work on getting rid of your negative traits, people don't put in effort to get though complications, people don't actually conversate when it coms to relationship issues, and when relationships get boring people don't find fun things to do to spice it up in a healthier way than to cheat and cause drama.
Societies way of dating and relationships has turned into something toxic with a false idealism on how relationships are supposed to be along with reliance on convenience.
Never consider being a good person a bad thing.

DermalPunch · Answer

Being a stupid woman won't keep a man.

For a selfish opportunist who hasn't matured and is insecure with low self-esteem who has no reason to evolve, only manipulation and mind games will keep him.

This type of man will only use a good woman for temporary validation at his behest. He will cheat and take her kindness as weakness. He will seek to control her and squeeze her like an orange until there is nothing left. Because he's an idiot.

A man who is seeking to embody his highest self will want a good woman and will not take her for granted.

Being good with self respect is a road for the patient but it has big rewards eventually.

Lionman95 · Answer

I would disagree and it can be the reason. It may not work always because sometimes a guy doesn´t see a good woman or realises later how good she was.

But generally speaking it could be a way to keep a guy if he can realise that a woman is a good woman and that often works better how she acts than what she says. Because if a guy never gets the feeling by what he sees her doing he might disagree that she´s good.

Keep in mind that guys are not good with reading body language meaning you need other methods to show a guy how you think about him.

Smoothing · Answer

It depends on one's perception if a good woman. Many qen have different ideas of being a good woman to the next. If you want the true answer yo this question, you should ask why some men cheat. That give you a better answer.

I would also say both women and men need to be careful about the statements they see out there. Not all are true. Some are stated out of resentment without reflection of oneself about the statement maker. They can turn out to be very misleading statements.

There is a saying, "You didn't get the right answer because you asked the wrong question "

That is certainly a fact.

Topaz1979 · Answer

Kindness, respect, maturity, knowing how to cook and clean, empathy, femininity, being compatible with him and looking presentable with good hygiene, being interesting, putting effort into keeping the relationship fun and going!. That’s all I can think of atm my brain is fried!

PetiteBabe64 · Answer

Not Being mean to him.
Men don't like being told what to do or told what He Wants.
If you treat your man like he's Desperate to Always Fuck you all the time a man will not like that and will lash out by Refusing to have sex with you. I had a boyfriend I told him he's being Desperate for Sex and he Didn't wanna Get Naked around me and He didn't have Sex with me for Months because of me treating him like he's Desperate.

caring__1 · Answer

Good, bad, right and wrong are just terms used to push one's agenda onto others. Instead, use functional and dysfunctional. Does it take you where you want to go or does it not?

To hold a man's interest, it's important for a woman to truly understand him as an individual. Never assume all guys are alike. If you're considerate of his thoughts and feelings and not just focusing on your own sense of entitlement, you'll be able to read the situation and know what to do. Make sure your choices have value to your partner. If you're not comfortable with what your partner values, find a partner whose values are more similar to yours.

It's like driving a car. If you are paying attention, you'll constantly be making subtle corrections without even realizing you're doing so. Subtle corrections are more effective than extremes of any kind.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Being good to your man, and being good for him. Obviously this isn’t 100%. There are some dudes out there who can’t get their poop in a group for their own sake, let alone someone else’s. But if you’re a good woman and you have a good man, and if you’re good to him and good for him, he’ll most likely stick around. At least until you get sick of him. Women DO initiate more than twice as many divorces as men do.

serious · Answer

I disagree. In my view being " Good" is the best thing. Yes, be it man or a woman being nice is never a good thing,.

A woman should be good but should be mature, respectful and most importantly must never play any sort of manipulative mind games.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

I really really doubt that.

At least in my case, I would want a good woman as I am taking a huge risk as being a guy, I am liable to pay for any financial need in case of divorce. In my case, a good woman will definitely keep a man.

I do not want to lose 50% of my everything in the divorce and still want to be accepted in society as an adult by marrying. Subjective to my society only.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Choose a man that wants to make the idea of a God-centered family work, and is determined to give you the chance to be the essential woman in that experiment. Then, what Topaz said. I've never been good at securing large incomes. But if money and international logistics were no big deal, I want to imagine you'd be a good fit for someone whom I'd be in no hurry to run away from. I don't currently have any better ideas.

AddylynnNightingale · Answer

People here are naming all kinds of qualities. What the hell. Aren't those qualities things that a good woman has? A good woman who has this and does this blabla no, that's just a good woman. A good woman will keep a man. We have our tastes in partners, but a good partner usually has the same qualities which many have already named with minor differences. A good woman, to the man you're with, if you have what he views as good, you should be able to keep him around.

qqqqq0000 · Answer

i believe there's more to that sentence. the end of it is.. "being a good woman will not keep a man. being a pretty woman will not keep a man.. etc. you can only keep a man if that man wants to be kept by you".. or something like that.

you can be the perfect package but if that man doesn't love you like that, you can't keep him, no matter how hard you try.

Hardworkingguy · Answer

It's not just being a good woman... It's al about being ap little bit of everything in his life. For example giving him space and less restrictions... I was once with ap woman who hated getting or giving oral sex. Hated wearing lingerie and doing certain things with me.. a man would not stay with an woman. Like that

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Any guy can find a beautiful woman to sleep with since there are so many prostitutes and gold diggers out there. What a man will stay faithful with, is a woman he considers loving and caring.

LazerBean · Answer

Being a good woman who has good judgment and picks a good man.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Depends on your definition of good. If being good is by your (the woman’s standards) then no… it won’t since men and women are different. You need to be good according to the partners standards. That will definitely keep you a man. Or woman. If your “standards” go above what is important to your spouse, or partner.. if it’s not a hard line that’s discussed thoroughly. Then you won’t keep a man.

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

Being a good woman is:
Being present.
Being respectful
Being Courteous
Being kind
Being cheerful
Being thrifty
Being brave
Being clean
Being stoic
Being his peace
Being Decisive
Being dependable
Being physically fit
Being integral
Being selfless
Being his muse
Being his seductress
And if he’s a good man he will be the same for you.
Did I go to deep

Sixgunsound · Answer

Who says being a good woman will not keep a man? What does this originator of the statement define good woman as?

NamerOfStars · Answer

If there were one reliable, guaranteed solution, don't you think we'd've found it by now? I think the most important part is picking a good man, but then again, that's not particularly easy, either.

Msputiton · Answer

Well there has to be more than being a good woman.

Must have a connection, be compatible with the individual person as well.

Just being good doesn't mean you will be interesting enough to keep a partner.

RavVid · Answer

Let's go back to fundamentals. Guys would not hook up with girls if it wasn't for sex. Aside from being a good woman, we want you to remain an object of sexual desire rather than a person we see on the sofa all the time.

RiseofArtemis · Answer

Finding the right man who has morals will. If you Chase a badboy or self proclaimed Alpha don't be surprised when he leaves you. When people have Options they will always keep their dick in line for someone else.

Fuentes · Answer

Lol tiktok I wouldn't listen to anything that's posted on there

MCheetah · Answer

False. "Being a good woman will not keep a good man. Being a good man will not keep plenty of women out there."

worldscolide · Answer

A good woman will keep a man. A woman who thinks she is good but in reality takes her husband for granted and doesn't appreciate what he does to keep a roof over her head and the lights on and the like will not be able to keep a man.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Nice girls finish last... guys only chase Chadettes who treat them like trash 🤷‍♂️

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Being any kind of a woman will never keep Chad Thundercock.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Sure it will. But if she chooses a bad man it doesn't matter how good she is. 1. Most women aren't as good as they believe themselves to be.🤣 2. Most women have no idea what good man looks like.

BlueScorpio · Answer

What keeps a man is if he wants to be kept.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Apparently 30 year old men do not care at all. All they ever care about is younger woman which I hate.

Keyboardkat · Answer

I disagree vehemently with that statement. A good woman will keep a good man. So, guys, are you good men? Honestly, now!

Th3ft · Answer

Being a bad woman?… lol honestly I think it will So I don’t really know where that quote is coming from…

Twalli · Answer

You have to bring something to the relationship. I'm a good person, but you'd rather have a doctor perform brain surgery than me. Being good is something you seek, but it's of supplemental value. What do you bring that another person can't?

ZenJen444 · Answer

Agree, men aren't wired the way we are.. They view love and attraction in a completely different way. I've seen men dump a woman who was absolute wide material for someone who was the complete opposite of what they said wanted in a mate

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

A woman needs a man who is down-to-earth and knows what he wants in life, not some immature guy.

NathanDavis · Answer

being ONE thing... is not a good thing, no matter how great that one thing is...

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

I ain’t sure about that. Many women are good, and keep me happy.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Loyalty, respect, appreciation and regular sex will keep any decent man.

ozamidas · Answer

Of course it depends on the individual and their potential traumas. But in my experience, some guys like toxic girls who are the opposite of good. Same thing goes for women, some girls like bad guys,

Gooddaze · Answer

Why won’t it. If this is happening to you then you have not found the right man. Of it could be a case then women is just a disaster and guys don’t wanna put up with it.

_Just_A_girl_ · Answer

Loyalty but don't expect them too if they're hvm

Prettysammie · Answer

Being a bad girl hasn’t helped me much so maybe there’s no hope.

Mr1derful · Answer

It is to me! But just showing interest and validation and being all into and over me wins me over!

Shamalien · Answer

A man can only be kept if that’s what he wants.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Being a good woman will not keep a shitty man. But that’s about it. I disagree with the quote

AndrésC64 · Answer

I challenge the premise of the question. I see no reason to believe it.

BJP21 · Answer

Being realistic. Dont live in a porn fantasy.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

and that's from a tik tok woman? any woman that uses tik tok is cheater in my book✍️

MrTaboo · Answer

False. It might not keep crappy boys. That's what men want, is a good woman.  Freaky in the sheets, lady in the streets.

msc545 · Answer

Probably world-class blowjobs and great cooking will do it.

FckY0u998 · Answer

well guess what being an asshole won't keep a guy around either

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

He just has to desire you to stay with. Good or not won't matter in such case.

888theGreat · Answer

It would a good man. Women pick losers instead of good guys and there lays your ptoblem

bananathunder · Answer

you have to have that connection to want to be with someone for a long period of time

Zolly99999 · Answer

That is not true at all. I absolutely want a good woman !!

JosyJosy · Answer

I don't believe that.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Communication an say the things guys like how when you worked hard to get each other do that regularly

Hawner · Answer

That statement is wrong.

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