I recently approached a guy and told him that he was attractive and he smiled and told me that he appreciated the comment and I was able to give him my instagram. I later on saw him after approaching him while I was with group of friends and one of them said they noticed the guy smiling as he looked at my direction. Right now it seems like our communication is genuine. There'd be times when he hearts my messages and leave it like that or would heart it then reply. Whenever he hearts it and doesn't respond, He probably likes the message cause he doesn't know what to say, but “liking” the message shows he didn’t wanna leave me on seen, but instead let me know he saw it. He also claims he's always busy, but said he'd be down to hang out if he sees me, and I see him around campus a lot now, and I was told I should say hi when I see him but I dont wanna seems pushy or desperate. What should I do? I am told to have patience with him and that it takes time. I am told guys find it attractive when females make the first move, and that was very bold of me, and he seemed to not mind it at all. The guy also seems shy and introverted just like me. I also definitely don't wanna overthink, nor make it weird.
I don't think there's anything wrong with smiling back, saying hi and wanting to hang out with him. You clearly like him and the signs are obvious that he likes you back, so don't hesitate to make the first move.
You said he was an introvert like you? I'd say that's another plus in my book. Personally, I'm an introvert myself but so far the girls I've met and known over the years were rarely ever introverts themselves or just straight up antisocial. Antisocial people don't like hanging out or spending time with anyone at all. They think it's a hassle to maintain relationships and prefer being alone. They're similar to loners, but loners also appreciate company from time to time if it's from a person they like.
I suggest the next time you see him, smile at him, say hi, and exchange schedules. That way, you'll both know when you're both available so you could pick a day out of the week and hang out. Invite him over to your place for a movie date night with snacks, go for long walks at night when you're both alone, or stay in and play videogames. Those are some of my favorite introvert date ideas. Or if he's comfortable enough, you could go someplace out to eat or maybe go see a movie together.
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He seems like the type of guy you'd need to pop up on his radar often. Not by social media but in person.
Judging by your age i guess he's no more than 22 years old. Both of you are young and as a young man it's highly likely that he has no intentions or interest in settling down. Especially if he's attractive. He has options and they'll only get better over time.
The most consistent way to a man's heart takes endurance as a female. You just have to keep popping up lol
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There are very few people that are actually that busy to the point where they can't be with somebody that they value. He doesn’t prioritise you - if he really liked you, he would’ve asked you out straight off the bat. I don’t see this going anywhere unless you initiate something, try pausing on the texts that you send and whether he continues texting you. Maybe you’ll see if he is interested enough to keep the chat going if you stop texting.
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Jesus somebody do something
You should never wait on a guy, they are rarely worth it. Move on.
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