There’s this boy who confuses me a lot. At school he talks to this girl quite often. I’m sure she likes him. He treats me like all the other boys treat me at school. He just talks to me if his friends do or when he needs something.
Now what confuses me is how he treats me outside of school compared to school. We’ve been to 2 parties together. There we have the chance to be alone together. On the parties he has;
complimented my perfume saying it smells like me, had a goofy dance competition with me, commented on my love life when I mentioned my ex, blocked the entrance to the tent we were in so I had to push my body against his, wanted to walk home with me after a party etc.
What he also did was, yesterday I was very tipsy after drinking. I became very emotional because of the alcohol and he was by my side. He helped me up when I fell, and he help my waist and hand out the woods to keep me stable. I remember giving him a lot of long hugs which I never have…
We were out of the woods and he wanted me to sit with him on the bus. We were with other people but he took care of me. We were on the subway and he had to get off with the others, and as the doors closed he asked if I was okay on my own as I was becoming a lot more sober. He also waved goodbye obviously.
At school though I feel like he’s trying to act tough. I don’t understand cause he seems to show interest in that other girl like talking to her often and I always catch them walking to the gym together and so on. We’ve never talked like they do at school. Now, I don’t know her that well so I’m not sure if he’s done anything like that with her, but I doubt. At school I’m just another person at his school. Sure, he doesn’t ignore me, but like I said we only talk when others are involved. I don’t think we’ve ever had a 1 on 1 conversation at school. Also, a few months back, we’d study in the library with some other classmates and he’d mention her abilities and their earlier conversations.
What’s going on?
Now what confuses me is how he treats me outside of school compared to school. We’ve been to 2 parties together. There we have the chance to be alone together. On the parties he has;
complimented my perfume saying it smells like me, had a goofy dance competition with me, commented on my love life when I mentioned my ex, blocked the entrance to the tent we were in so I had to push my body against his, wanted to walk home with me after a party etc.
What he also did was, yesterday I was very tipsy after drinking. I became very emotional because of the alcohol and he was by my side. He helped me up when I fell, and he help my waist and hand out the woods to keep me stable. I remember giving him a lot of long hugs which I never have…
We were out of the woods and he wanted me to sit with him on the bus. We were with other people but he took care of me. We were on the subway and he had to get off with the others, and as the doors closed he asked if I was okay on my own as I was becoming a lot more sober. He also waved goodbye obviously.
At school though I feel like he’s trying to act tough. I don’t understand cause he seems to show interest in that other girl like talking to her often and I always catch them walking to the gym together and so on. We’ve never talked like they do at school. Now, I don’t know her that well so I’m not sure if he’s done anything like that with her, but I doubt. At school I’m just another person at his school. Sure, he doesn’t ignore me, but like I said we only talk when others are involved. I don’t think we’ve ever had a 1 on 1 conversation at school. Also, a few months back, we’d study in the library with some other classmates and he’d mention her abilities and their earlier conversations.
What’s going on?
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I think, first, that age matters. 15 year old boys are usually less mature and often less socially adept than a same age girl. Then, too, he's trying to navigate his feelings for you with his macho, have-to-hang-with-the-guys persona. That's a tough line to walk for a teen. Not saying it's not confusing/frustrating for you, just difficult. My thoughts? Let it continue. Let him get comfortable. And, perhaps continue to help him get comfortable with you at school. Try engaging a conversation. And then, maybe at some point when you're 1 on 1, in a non-threatening, non-judgmental way, ask him about it. Highly possible he doesn't know there's two versions of himself.
I don't know, you are acting like you can't take any action here... which is ridiculous.
Like what?
Why can't you create some ways to spend time togehter at school?
Because other people are in the way, and at school we don't have anything to talk about. He is also with his friends 24/7
Let's see: excuse, an attempt at an excuse, same as the first excuse just worded differently. You don't seem really interested either.
you're 15, that's what's going on. Nobody knows what they're doing
Well, I’m sure they’re going through something. I’m just trying to get an idea on the situation from another pov