Is it normal for a guy friend to hold your hand?

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So I have this guy friends who always tells me he loves me. I don’t think any of this because I just think he is a softy. Although yes kinda weird for a guy to say I love you to a friend. And then one night we all went to a bar with our other friends. I asked for a drink but I guess the bartender didn’t hear me. He went and asked me if I wanted a drink and reached his hand. So I reached out as well. And then he held my hand while asking our other friends if they also wanted a drink. We were not talking but while he was on our table he held my hand for a few minutes I’d say. And then he finally went to the bar got me a drink which took him a long time cause of the line is long. Still he waited. The gesture of getting me a drink was sweet but what confused me was when we held hands. Our hands did not interlock but it was let’s say about 3-5 mins. So yeah not sure what it means?

Intergalacticpunk · Accepted Answer

I've got guy friends who are very affectionate towards me. We hold hands and say we love each other and hug in photos, all while they're completely romantically uninterested. We're kind of like siblings. I think your case is different, though. It's a much softer gesture to hold your hand like that, and I don't think your brother would act that way. I really do think that he has feelings for you, but is shy and doesn't want to be forward about it.

Labokachulaa · Accepted Answer

It seems like he may like you, but is respecting the friend thing. Or he could just be comforting you, something to that sort. It definitely sounds like he enjoys your company.

dragoblack · Accepted Answer

He has romantic feelings for you, but doesn't want to push it to make you uncomfortable. Talk to him about it and see how you feel. Either way he wants to be a supportive person for you to rely on. The hand holding was just to let you feel safe. If it was some stranger, then i would say be concerned, but it sounds like this guy needs to hear your feelings towards him and know the boundaries of your relationship with him.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

STRANGER DANGER!!!

jorfan3 · Answer

I feel like this guy actually has feelings for you, but he's not pushing you into a relationship. He may have even resigned to NOT being in a relationship with you, but did this anyway. He might just appreciate being close to you.

What I find interesting is you reciprocated. I find this even more odd. Do you have secret feelings for this friend?

t_time · Answer

No not normal. The only time a guy would hold my hand if I needed help walking across an extremely uneven surface In heels.. and I needed help to get across it so I don't break my ankel

Anonymous · Answer

I'd say he cares about you. You mentioned he tells you that he loves you so... it would make sense for him to behave like that. How long have you guys been friends?

Guy13 · Answer

It is normal for an age appropriate guy to hold an age appropriate girl's hand.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

"Guy friend", I stopped reading right after these words.

Anonymous · Answer

Normal? No its not normal, since it's not common to see.

20yearsolder · Answer

I sure hope not, I'm not gay

Iron_Man · Answer

It depends on the circumstances

linka_pat307 · Answer

Yeah, I feel so

AmeerX · Answer

He clearly is in love

ZenJen444 · Answer

Ask him

Is it normal for a guy friend to hold your hand?

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