So me and my boyfriend were out yesterday and out of no where, unprovoked he yells “Fa***t” at this person practically across the street from us. Then started talking badly about trans women & men. I never agreed with him or encouraged him to continue, but I didn’t say anything. I was seriously in shock. The topic has never came up before, I’m confused and offended as to why he assumed I would be okay with this. I worry about what if I had not been there, would he have assaulted that person, what if they had said some hateful shit right back (would they be “starting” something by standing up for themselves), what if he’s assaulted people before, what if he finds lesbians attractive but they are not bi spare not sexually interested (are they safe) and not that it matters at all but what if he doesn’t have psychic abilities and/or X-ray visit and the person he’s doing stuff like this to are not really gay, not transgender, like how does he think he’s able to tell all of this stuff from a person they had seen maybe a few seconds before yelling this? I feel like it may be breakup worthy, it was such a turn off the idea of sex with him now just makes me have this look like I’m smelling moldy garbage. Im torn on what to do, because the only thing I can think to do would be to introduce him to these types of people and that could put them in danger at any moment if they say something he doesn’t like I feel like. On the other hand I feel like staying with him is only encouraging hatful behavior. Yes we can have different points or view on many things, but yesterday it felt like this goes beyond a point of view to possibly extremes like harming people or trying to stop equality. Also makes me feel weird like is he only with me for and because I have a vagina, what if I were actually trans, but still loved him and wanted to be with him, would that make him not want because because of how I look? I don't know has me super stressed anyone have any advice?
I think my boyfriend might be “phobic” or hateful has anyone else ever had this happen?
