Women do you understand that if you never approach you’re only stuck with the men who approach you?

[Anonymous]

Many times you’re not approached especially not by strangers because they probably don’t even notice you. Many of the men who have approached you aren’t the kind of men you want.

I know fear of rejection and it’s easier to just sit around and put zero effort in. But you have to put equal effort if you want someone

[jennifer_bloom]

I’m very average looking and never had difficulty meeting interested guys when I hung out in public. It happened while busing to the mall for Boxing Day shopping, busing home from work, waiting for shift to start, while working my job, while leaving my parents or friends for 5 minutes to grab tissue or pop corn at the theatre or cafe, while busing to church, while buying dehydrating liquids before busing back home etc… Guys don’t expect Paris Hilton, they look for a kind person similar to them in status and attractiveness.

[Asker]

You’re pretty not gonna lie. Bur true. I just mean if someone likes someone better to be direct

[SeriouslyFunny00]

I agree with you! Gosh, I gotta do this someday. 😂

[Asker]

It’s scary I know. But you can

[Anonymous]

Yes, and they're fine with it. I don't care if women hold this attitude so long as they don't then complain about what approaches them.😆😆😆

[MCheetah]

I'm wondering what excuses certain women will make on this post...

[Asker]

No telling. Many of them probably have me blocked anyways

[Asker]

Well no I’m anon so we will see lol

[Bethany22]

If a guy makes eye contact with you on the bus and then goes over to stand next to you but doesn't talk, am I supposed to pick up on that, or is he just moving away from the door and I happened to be there?

[Asker]

See this is where I have no idea. Some people expect someone to read their mind. He could have been legit just been moving away from the door

[Asker]

This is what I mean though. If someone wants someone. I understand flirting first to see if someone flirts back or not. But. Nobody wants to make a effort so.

[Guccixlouis]

Oh my God dont be dense, you already know if you make eye contact and he stands next to you its because he likes you its NEVER any bullshit like 'moving away from the door and I happened to ve there's i mean why even think that when you KNOW whats up

[Bethany22]

@Guccixlouis Thank you :D

[Asker]

@Guccixlouis well. It just depends you know

[Asker]

@Guccixlouis sometimes people are

[Asker]

There is a good chance he likes you. But sometimes people do get the wrong idea.

If you like someone just sporting

[Asker]

*approach

[Guccixlouis]

There's no way he would move to be close to you after staring at you if he didn't like you

[Asker]

@Guccixlouis there’s other reasons he could be a bad person or a creep. Or who knows dude. People are complicated

[Bethany22]

Thanks for the insight

[surebruh]

I agree with your comments, however you're assuming that each person is aware there is flirting going on , which is why the approach is most important (from both genders)

[Asker]

This is true. Which is why it’s better to be direct

[Angel_ica]

Yes but I never have lack of guys trying to get with me so why do extra

[Asker]

Well if you have the options you want then okay.

[Asker]

But you do know things have to work both ways otherwise one person will be miserable and when one’s miserable you both are.

[Angel_ica]

Sure it works both ways but he starts

[Asker]

I see. Well if you have the men in your life you want. Then great

[Asker]

There is some women who….. and men as well. But they seem to never get the men they want and are bitter with all men.

Be it man or woman if someone is bitter with literally everyone or the other sex. They’re probably the one with the problem.

[Angel_ica]

I get the man I want

[Asker]

Well. You’re not one of those people. You don’t seem bitter with men. Because you already found the one you want and are a good person yourself.

[Angel_ica]

It is not one man I want

[Billlewis]

I love your style;)

[Angel_ica]

@Billlewis Thank you

[LiamJHayden]

As even average women generally get approached by a slew of guys, it might not matter to them.

[Asker]

True. If she has options she likes all is good. Bur many times they’re approached by only some guys and sometimes she’s not attracted to them.

[taraburtch]

I kinda disagree. how in the world are women supposed to know that a man likes them? how come when we approach we are seen as "easy" and a "ho@"?

a man can't even say hello to a woman these days... welcome to 2023

[Asker]

You’re not a hoe if you’re not having sex and don’t let them. If you’re approaching a good guy whose interested. Showing interest is a good thing

[Asker]

A man can say hello to someone. I get that sometimes people get annoyed when strangers talk to them. So if it’s a decent time or someone they know though it’s not a problem.

As long as it isn’t legitimate sexual harassment or approaching at just a bad time or not taking no for a answer. That’s what gets guys into trouble. That or just a bad woman in which case it’s good she rejected

[taraburtch]

you said it right there a "good guy who's interested" again how are we supposed to know that? lol

[Asker]

You talk to him and ask him. Lol

[Guccixlouis]

He makes eye contact with you and checks you out.

[Asker]

@Guccixlouis then he probably likes you but again people are complicated

[taraburtch]

you don't. if a man likes a woman he should show her. not act like she doesn't exist " lol"

[taraburtch]

@Guccixlouis now that I agree to because that's actually a sign.

[spartan55]

They don't gaf, then they wouldn't be able to gripe about it.

[LazerBean]

Yeah that's the point.

[Asker]

Thanks

[Juxtapose]

Frankly I find the process of asking people out to be horrendous so if I could sit back and have people come to me I totally would.

[John_Doesnt]

The things women don't understand could fill a library.

[Asker]

It’s not all women though. Not all women are bad. I could say the same about a lot of men too about filing a library.

It’s just because of what society’s says. Many people don’t actually know why they believe many things they do. Only because it’s been told to them many times.

[Asker]

Besides what the world says depends on the time