Why do men block girls after they get rejected?

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I have had it happen to me a few times where a guy will hit me up, ask me to hangout or hook up, and when I show disinterest, they block me. Last night, someone I knew from highschool added me on Snapchat and made a conversation with me. Then he asked “any plans tonight?” And i said “no im staying in, I just watched a movie with my family lol” then boom, I was blocked. What the hell are mens issue? Lol

DanishSadist · Accepted Answer

I don't know about blocking, but I can tell you why men stop pursuing women who rejected them.

It takes a lot of effort for a man to pursue a woman. Like a lot of time and money. First you need to spend days if not weeks chatting and entertaining her. Then when she finally agrees to meet, you'll have to organize and sponsor a proper date. And then another one. And another one. And after three dates maybe you'll finally reach your goal.

Unless they're hot, men get rejected a lot. Like 99% of the time. When a man messages a girl and asks her out he would be dumb af to message only one girl. Man with experience message as many girls as possible. Sure most of them will turn him down, but he needs just one to say yes. You turned him down, but other girl agreed to go out with him. Now why tf would he keep messaging you? There is literally 0 sense to spend any more time and effort on you, when he can spend it on someone who actually showed mutual interest in him.

He could block you because he no longer has any interest in you, you're a lost bet. He doesn't want to see your messages clogging his notifications when he has other girls (still active bets) he needs to attend to.

BeMuse · Accepted Answer

You're not interested in them, but you want them to be interested in you. You sound mentally ill. Normal relationships occur when two people are interested in each other. If one opts out then the other person moves on to other people. Maybe you should seek counseling and see if they can get you on medication.

MrOracle · Answer

While I think blocking you is extreme, I understand it, even if I disagree with it.

None of these guys are looking to be "friends" - single, straight men don't have female friends (with very rare exceptions), they have women they want to sleep with (or, sometimes, date) but haven't been able to yet. Not all guys respond quite so harshly, but it's still true that if a guy wants sex (or a relationship) with you, and you reject him, then to him, there's little point in investing any further time and effort into you - that time and effort is best spent on some other woman who is more likely to say "yes."

I can tell that you're having trouble understanding why men don't want to be "just friends", but that's because you're a woman, and a friendship with a man overwhelmingly benefits the woman and costs the man. Women "friends" generally want lots of the guy's time, attention, favors, money, etc., while the guy generally gets very little in return - and, yes, I KNOW that some women are exceptions to this rule, and are truly appreciative and will do favors in return, etc., but you superstars are the EXCEPTION, not the rule. The RULE is that most women constantly take take take from the guy and abuse his chivalry, while giving little in return. I used to have that happen to me when I was younger, and I've seen it happen to SO many guys over the last 35 years - friends, co-workers, and acquaintances. Guys will fix cars, help her move, give her money for her endless string of emergencies, medical bills, work difficulties, etc. and never get paid back, but she still goes on vacation or buys the new outfits and shoes and bags...

Smart guys don't allow this, and the way they do that is simple: if the woman isn't interested in giving him what HE wants, then he's not interested in giving her what SHE wants. Usually, just ignoring her is more than enough to send the message, but with so much of modern life being online (which I can't stand - my actual relationships happen IRL), I can see why some guys would block girls - because if she's the type to make a big deal that he's not giving her his attention anymore, he won't have to deal with it. I suppose it beats getting 50+ texts a day telling him he's an asshole.

But the real take-away is this: do NOT expect to be "friends" with guys. Your choices are:

casual acquaintance (you owe each other NOTHING but occasional light conversation when it's convenient)
friends with benefits/casual sex buddy
romantic relationship (if he's interested in this)
nothing at all

And do NOT expect "casual acquaintance" to become anything more serious if it isn't going to be physical, and certainly don't expect "girlfriend" levels of attention or favors, as most modern women do.

And understand that lots of men would rather be "nothing" than even be a casual acquaintance if he has feelings for you and you aren't interested in him. Perhaps that's a weakness on his part, but he has every right to not be your acquaintance, just as you can choose who can be yours.

exitseven · Answer

Social media is a strange place. People cheat on each other , hurt each other and really mess up each other. Then the next day they will text you like nothing is wrong. When somebody rejects me, I don't know if I am weird for this, but I never want to see them again.

tzdc21 · Answer

Sounds more like there's an issue with you. You're not entitled to their attention after you rejected them. And since you did reject them, why do you care about what it is that they do afterwards?

NachtjaegerSS · Answer

These men aren't interested in padding your friend zone and just simping for you. Good for these guys.

dolemite89 · Answer

cuz guys should stop talking to girls that have rejected them

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Not all men do that just the ones that have a lot of growing up to do

UniquelyBasic · Answer

They are so bitter 😅

Alex8736 · Answer

because they are very insecure and immature

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

That doesn't even sound like a rejection.

In_Trance · Answer

that's what's suppose to happen

Anonymous · Answer

Need to accept it might not be compatible

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