I need some help?

[Anonymous]

So on Saturday my boyfriend tells me that he needs some space not single space. that we are still together but that he just needs some space. what does that actually mean. and i haven’t talked to him since Saturday morning. should i prepare for a brake up? or is it that he just really need some space from me. mind you he is a truck driver so we already hav space we don’t see each other that often.

[kylee2437]

People are helping you jump to conclusions here. You both may just keep in contact way too often and maybe he just wants alone time. There’s nothing wrong with it. I feel like a lot of people in relationships feel like they need to be up each others ass all the time and in my opinion being up each others ass all the time makes the relationship unauthentic and makes you feel trapped.

[Asker]

exactly! like in the same time my minds is everywhere because it has me thinking a bunch of different things.

[kylee2437]

@asker I say listen to your boyfriend. Give him a few days. Say “hey I understand you need some space, if you would like I’m open for you to call / text when you are ready” let him reach out first. Advice I gotten from a therapist that helped me figure out a lot of things in my head is “don’t assume, go off by the facts faced out in front of you” since your boyfriend had not given an answer as to why he needed that space, don’t assume the worst, he did say he didn’t want to break up with you.

[Asker]

this was his response (Because sometimes its to much effort to explain things to you causing more stress so I just like my peace rn)

[kylee2437]

@asker so hear him out, ask him what exactly you do that stresses him out and be down to fix that flaw about you. Men in relationships like peace, once you fuck up the peace , they are going to want to be less invested.

[Asker]

and i wish i could ask him. but he also didn’t want to talk me. so it’s like i’m in the middle of saying and waiting for him. and also i wanna leave. but i love this kid with all of my heart. we have been together for 2 years. and i don’t wanna give up that fast. but i’m also scare.

[kylee2437]

@asker just give it a chance. Give the three day rule. That means set the boundary that he can call or text if he wants, but after they go 3 days without texting / calling him. If he doesn’t call / text , figure out if this is really something you want because I’m sure it’s giving you anxiety, and you don’t deserve to feel like that. 3 days however should give someone enough time to decide if they would like to talk about what they are feeling.

[Asker]

i think today will be the 3rd day because we stopped talking on Saturday. i’m trying so hard to not think other things or let the anxiety and depression get to me. but even tho he gets on my nerves or gets me mad i stil wanna talk to him. and ask him about his day. or just hear him talk about his anime or his random stories. so it’s killing me not been able to talk to him. and i’m scare that maybe this might lead to a breakup. and i really don’t want that. and it feels good to able to get this out of my chest i been holding it for so long that i just want to fry my eyes out. so thank you for listening to my problems

[In_Trance]

It means he wants the rail other girls guilt free and have you wait around until he's done

[Pterodon]

It’s a breakup. It’s over