Why is it said that strong men are stoics when stoicism accomplishes nothing?

[Alcoholic_Wannabe]

Something you see more and more of lately is this idea that weak men lose their temper and strong men are all calm and collected and shit.

What has being "calm and collected" done for any situation except for encourage inaction and passivity?

I can only assume this is some wacky attempt to counter the concept of "toxic masculinity." If so, it's a shitty one and it's stupid.

If becoming a strong man means I let things happen that shouldn't be letting happen because I want to appear stoic, I'll gladly stay a weak man and the rest of you can cartwheel through traffic.. stoically, of course.

[Tyrael]

Being able to keep your emotions in check is a staple of being a man. Always has been.

The screeching banshee men are usually the weakest (physically too) which is why they're so loud to try and compensate.

Keeping cool under pressure is invaluable. It doesn't mean you "let things happen", it means you handle situations calmly and with purpose.

[Alcoholic_Wannabe]

People don't fuckin listen though. Wouldn't have to shout at people otherwise.

[Alcoholic_Wannabe]

The most respected man in the room is always the angriest and most aggressive.

Why are we perpetuating myths to the contrary?

[Tyrael]

That's simply not true. The angriest man in the room is the biggest dick.

[Anonymous]

Sounds as though you’ve never been in the military or a cop or a firefighter, etc. maybe I’m wrong. A lot of men do things they don’t want to not because they want to but because they know they have to w out complaining or showing emotions.

[KrakenAttackin]

Because being emotional is a female trait and female privilege. Men have to be collected and keep the world working.

[Alcoholic_Wannabe]

Because I know that when people break into my home, the one thing that'll get them out is being calm and collected.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Alcoholic_Wannabe. Yes, being calm, collected, focusing on the front site and squeezing... twice.

[Alcoholic_Wannabe]

Nah that's still losing your shit.

Either that or I've been gaslighted into thinking my violent tendencies is me losing control.
Naaahh, that can't be it. 😂

[KrakenAttackin]

Defending yourself and your family is NOT losing your shit. Where the fuck are you from anyway?

[Alcoholic_Wannabe]

Earth

[Alcoholic_Wannabe]

Where the FUCK are you from where people don't call certain things "emotional" to push an agenda?

[Redstang88]

There are many ways to resolve a situation without throwing a temper tantrum