I was dating this guy, and I forget what brought it up, but right in front of said he doesn't date 9s or 10s. He said they are too difficult. Did he mean, he doesn't like putting any effort in and girls, he thinks are less attractive, won't require as much? Do all men do this?
This boils down to what people think or society promotes through social media, fashion and entertainment to believe what a "9" or "10" is supposed to look like and what a "9" and "10" really is.
So let me say this, say you have women who is maybe 6 or 7 in looks but is totally awesome, fun and great to be around... well that's a 10 to me. I always dated 10's on this scale and even if she was what some or society would say is "6" or "7" in looks. She was 10. So, this probably what you man is trying to say or mean.
Now with that in mind let me answer your question honestly... there are women out that who are seriously gorgeous totally physically 10's. Like not even super model type quality, because a lot of these models after the makeup comes off are like maybe 8's. I am talking a straight up 10, from tips of her toes, to back of her ass, size of her breasts to amazing eyes that seem to glow in the dark or always catch the light, with gorgeous facial features, and long thick hair... absolute 10!! Amazing to look at and admire no doubt, on some level everyman likes to admire this type of women.
Here is the problem, women or men honestly, that are that good looking FUCKING know it. They have been told it by everyone they have met from the day they were born. They tend to know and expect it all the time and draw a great sense of self-confidences from it... maybe too much. Or they are really insecure about it because they mistrust every man that tries to approach them because they know that he is not looking past what they see on the outside and don't really apricate what's on the inside.
Take me for example, I am not 10... maybe I am to some women, but maybe I am only a 6, 7 or 8 to many or most other women. But I know I am not ugly, I am not super handsome, but I have been told my whole life how handsome I am. I know when a woman looks at me with that look in her eye that she admires my appearance. But I know that does make me any better than the average looking guy that really and genuinely puts out the effort with or for a woman.
But these so called 10's they seem to really expect a lot more effort than they are worth, because most times they are nowhere near as good on the inside as they are on the outside. But they as so full of what they have been told their whole lives they do n realize they have inflated egos and a sense of self-worth. They are 7s at best, even after you factor in how much their looks out weight their lack of personality. You have sex with them, but you never want or look to date one of them for long. Because they put a lot of demands on people and come with unrealistic expectations.
But when you find a 6 or 7 in looks and she is amazing and fun... great personality well-grounded and stable... well that's a true 10. Is it easier for some like to get a 6,7, or 8 then a 10, yes, it is. But do I really want a physical 10 or true 10? The true 10 holds more value to me and are seriously just as rare and hard to find. So, when I find one, I put in the effort and love and cherish her.
A true 10, like in looks and personality are seriously as rare as unicorns... as in say I seriously doubt they truly exist, but the myth started somewhere base upon some type of truth.
Many, many men intentionally avoid high-maintenance or insane-expectation women, because they aren't worth dealing with.
Here's a good example of what men often have to deal with. Note that these are all "modern women" - i. e., feminist career women, but none of them are actually wealthy themselves or even earn $100,000/year, but they have so bought-in to the Instagram lifestyle that their expectations are quite literally insane.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/I-UBqgOiTKQThey literally have expectations that a celebrity virgin supermodel might somewhat-realistically have. Many of them have "dated" (read: had casual sex with, perhaps for a short period of time) wealthy men, because those men don't mind sharing a bit of their lifestyle to get some casual sex for a couple of weeks, but those same men would have NEVER taken these women seriously as a relationship partner, because they actually CAN attract celebrity supermodels and actresses and singers. These women believe that they are at the same level as the men who are willing to bang them, but that's not how women's value works - a woman's value is based on the value of the man who will COMMIT to her, and none of those high-status men did so.
Clearly, though, they are expecting to date only celebs, pro athletes, or wealthy CEOs, even though they are average or perhaps a bit above average women themselves.
Take a listen to what they expect. Most of them have no clue what things cost or how rare it is to earn the kind of money they are talking about, nor do they realize that the only reason they've EVER had even a bit of access to this lifestyle is because they were YOUNG and willing to trade sex for attention to a handful of wealthy men for a weekend or two.
And, yes, I would agree that most women in the Midwest or the South aren't this delusional - but some exist even there. You get anywhere close to a major city, though, and this kind of thing is everywhere - girls dreaming of their life on a yacht, sailing between tropical paradises and huge high-end malls, as if that's real life for most people.
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He phrased the comment poorly, but he's not talking about how attractive he personally finds the woman, it's about how she presents herself to society. When he says a 9 or 10, he's talking about the high maintenance, ultra glammed up, constantly showing off kind of woman.
He's talking about the tendencies of women on the upper end of the scale.
I've known some gorgeous women who are genuine, kind, humble and conscientious.
But, generally speaking, people who are less conventionally attractive have to work harder to be appreciated and recognized, and so develop character and learn to be accommodating and compatible with others.
Whereas conventionally attractive people generally don't have to work as hard for opportunities, and develop the unconscious belief that they deserve what they are given by just being themselves. So they never really develop the same level of character, and often as a result have very difficult, arrogant personalities.
This is true of men and women.
Because they have and overflow of opportunities, they don't have to change themselves if they're incompatible with somebody, they can just swap them out for someone else who will put up with them.
I tend to date women who have well-developed personalities and interests. The opinions of others on the "ratings" of these women are irrelevant to me.
Nope. It's how he considers her as a person, not some arbitrary scale.
Women can be quite confusing. Because they are often quiet, and even express the opposite of what they feel.
So some men just assume they don't have any chances with certain women.
Yes, that's what he meant. And no, not all are like that
Academic intelligence is different than common sense.
Sounds like a lazy person I hope you are not dating him anymore.
Yes and always a back-up plan.
Nope
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