So I've been noticing several signs lately. He keeps fixing his hair around me, sometimes he'll take a whole of time to do It (he doesn't know I saw him do it multiple times cause there so many mirrors at the gym), he keeps staring at me a lot even after our session is over and I'm doing cardio on the machines (when he thinks I'm not watching).
When our session gets over he keeps sitting with me throughout the time that I do my cardio which can be 20-30 mins which is something no trainer ever does in my gym they just tell you what to do on the machines for cardio and then they leave occasionally they will chit chat for a few minutes but never sit with you throughout the whole time.
During this whole time he keeps talking to me or just sitting there for no reason, so basically he'll be with me during the whole time that I'm at the gym even after my session gets over. This week I came back to the gym after 3 days cause I wasn't well and when we met he told me "It's been three days since I saw you". He also keeps laughing and smiling all the time when he's with me but he's usually a very serious kind of guy.
Yesterday when he came with me to the cardio area to tell me what to do and was there with me for a few minutes before he went to greet another of his female client who had her session with him after me, I thought he was busy with her so I left 10 min early as I was exhausted after doing my cardio but 10 min later he texted me saying why did I leave then the next day he asked me in person (with like a hurt expression) "why did you leave like that yesterday I saw you leaving" kind of implying that he wanted to hangout with me as usual and that he felt bad I didn't say bye to him like I do everyday.
He's also asked me a lot of personal questions and wants to know the smallest details.
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Hmmmm I think you may have a stalker situation on your hands.
Really?
Definitely. If he's a good dedicated trainer, he'll have clients and because of that won't have much time to chit chat for 30+ minutes off the clock. Plus if he's with another client and focusing on helping him or her but somehow notices you've "abruptly" left the gym, his focus is not on his client but on you - that's stalking at it finest.
I've been going to a high-end gym for 12 years running now, and I've never encountered any trainers do this with clients while in the gym. What happens outside the gym between clients and trainers is a whole other ball of wax.
And the weirdest part is he does have a lot of clients and he's like the best trainer the gym has which I've been told by my previous trainer who left the gym due to her marriage. Her best friend also said the same to me and he has also left the gym due to his higher studies. Both of them have given a lot of their clients to my current trainer because they know he's the best.
*all of their clients
My trainer even told me when she told me to continue with him that he's of very good character and isn't a fuckboy or sleaze bag.
So I would be completely safe and comfortable with him and that he has a no nonsense serious kind of attitude.
Get to know his other clients and probe around to see if you can get more clarity about your situation. From you're original question it seems like either he is overemphasizing the "personal" in personal training or his queues aren't what you think they are and you're misinterpreting or are overly sensitive to what they may possibly mean.
At the end of the day you do have to trust your own instincts. However, consider the situation escalated if he wants to get into your social media network (if he hasn't tried already).
Well I do trust my instincts and even after all that my trainer has told me I can clearly tell he's interested in me. His behavior isn't like this with his other clients I've seen him with other clients myself for months. No trainer spends so much time with their clients neither did my previous one.
I mean you can't choose who you're attracted to even if he never got involved with clients before he clearly seems to enjoy my company a lot
If you're okay with that then problem solved.
I'm not exactly okay I mean I am kind of confused whether to continue with him or not. On the one hand he's great at his job but if he's personally interested in me then maybe that'll affect my training I can't say.
Like I've noticed sometimes he's letting things be easy for me lately. He's not exactly pushing me like he used to in the beginning.
You probably need to assess how important getting the most out of your training is to you. If you feel that it's critical that you get the best possible training but you sense that that's not how its going or getting worse over time, your decision about how to proceed is pretty clear.
Also I'm not suggesting that what you gain from personal training has to be the most important thing to you. There are lots of people that do personal training for the socializing aspect of it and the physical aspect is secondary.
Physical aspect is number one for me to be honest I'm in the gym to get fit that's my first priority. Rest is secondary. This guy is willing to train me for free even.