I’ve been good friends with my guy friend for months now. When we first became friends it was like he understood me better than anyone. He was always there for me.. He got a girlfriend & started pushing me out. I assumed it was due to the girlfriend so I overlooked it. After they broke up about 2 months later he came to me for comfort & support in which I gave him. A few weeks later he started treating me really badly. He called me names, ignored me, always was mad at me for no reason, etc. I confronted him multiple times about how he treated me & he would get better then be the same again. He would create reasons why he was mad at me in which I ended up always apologizing when it was over something small (like me forgetting to hug him at work.) I would always feel so guilty & have to beg him to forgive me & actually read my texts & be my friend again. Recently he got another girlfriend & he got worse. We were texting everyday at this point & sent a laughing emoji to a joke he made as anyone else would. A few weeks passed with no reply. We usually ignored each other at work anyways because he was always so much worse at work than through text. I finally found out he was mad at me and had told my friends that I “ghosted him” when I never did. A reply is not ghosting. He has since apologized & told me he wishes I would talk to him at work because he gets nervous talking to me first & can’t stand it when we don’t talk. Mind you he has a girlfriend. If I don’t text him 24 hours a day 7 days a week he gets mad and upset. So the other night I spoke to him and he ended up chewing me out for not watching a netflix show he likes. He’s always just so hateful randomly. We’ll be fine then he’ll just go off on me & cuss at me. He can’t stand for me to talk to any of my other friends there. I just honestly don’t know what to make of this behavior & am about to just cut him out of my life because this has been going on for months & I’ve tried talking to him numerous times.
Yep. He sounds like an awful awful friend. I’d do exactly what you said and cut him out of your life. The sooner the better. And don’t go back either. He’s shown who he is. Manipulative and abusive.
Friends are supposed to be nice, kind, and support each other. He has shown time and time to do the opposite.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. You’ll find other better friends tho!
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Initially I thought that perhaps he was in the midst of some sort of personal crisis and was sorta taking it out on you or something like that. that's a thing that tends to happen sometimes.
but what your sharing with me sounds really inconsistent so... i dunno...
Maybe you should tone down you’re relationship with him to be more cordial and simple. He’s emotionally abusive to the women in his life, and the more you keep enabling that behavior the more he will act that way towards you. You can’t take back all the undeserved begging you did for his friendship, but you can put your foot down going forward.
He sounds so toxic. You should choose your friends more wisely.
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