Do guys only approach girls when they have signs she likes them?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

It makes it easier if she makes eye contact with me or I notice her checking me out. But not always, , if I think she is gorgeous to my eyes , I will just approach her and introduce myself to her without trying to come off as a creep , sometimes I will just compliment something about her to get her attention , like her hair , or her outfit or her shoes Something that will make her feel
Comfortable as well to get her attention , the way I look at it is it’s always best to go for it instead of just not saying anything at all , if she declines me oh well at least I tried , it’s not like we walk around with signs flashing over our heads saying what we are into or what are relationship status is , so if she is rude about it , I lose respect for her , and say sorry to disturb you and walk away , people that are rude right from the start are assholes in my opinion that think their shit don’t stink but that’s their problem , no skin off my back , but it’s better to take the chance then to not take the chance at all is how I look at it , I rather go home knowing I tried instead of going home kicking myself in the ass for not trying

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

For me at least, yes.

I will never ever approach unless I get a clear sign. It’s not worth it and i think it makes you come off as annoying and weird.

But it’s hard to tell what is a sign and what is not.

I have had a girl look at me multiple times, where she would look at me, i would look back, and she would look for a split second longer before looking down. Happened multiple times but i wasn't really sure why she did that. I approached her and she seemed positive so i knew that she was interested, or at the very least, not repulsed/annoyed.

but then sometimes it’s very obvious. 2 random girls at the club asked my coworker about me, what my name is and stuff. He told me, and i got the hint instantly about what was going on. Then later on a waiter came up to me and told me that those two girls were telling me to come to them. Thats as obvious as it gets. But i didn't approach them because clubs are bottom barrel trash when it comes to starting relationships.

Adaeva · Accepted Answer

That is what guys do if they follow the appropriate rules which is always let the girl make the first move. The first move can be as simple as smiling and saying "Hi."

melanieeeB · Accepted Answer

Not the guys that approach me lol I guess mostly the shy guys wait for clear signs

Guy13 · Answer

One has to put women in a high pressure situation for honesty. I have been chatting up women from 10th grade to Present.

I approach women but I’m not afraid to speak. If I’m feeling the vibe and getting the signals then I ask her out. She’s got no choice to react in some kind of way being I’m up in her grill.

No reaction is a reaction whether it means get away, startled, or considering. No matter what, she’s got something to think about and wish later, “should have pursued that”

Gibbons44 · Answer

It varies greatly from one person to another and from one stage of... self-acceptance (or acceptance of what one has gone through) to another.

There is the 'being cocky and cheeky', practicing. For most that's much easier than when one meets someone that they really like/fall for (sometimes literally stumble - or get their tongue twisted and start to mix words). You can always tell by the feeling of it - it doesn't lie.

The rest is where to go with it, because it is for marriage/pregnancy in essence - if it is a true liking/love. We get taught not to pursue it by all manner of 'lifestyle coaches' - the longer you stay unhappy, the longer they can sell you their services and products, instead of leading you to your best self and acceptance of reality, including how great love can be.

JSmuve · Answer

Guys approach when they have unequivocal signs she likes him AND he has opportunity to approach her. Giving out signs but not giving him the opportunity and making yourself available is pointless. Giving him the opportunity but not giving out signs is also pointless. You have to do both.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely, and even then I still probably won't.
Even as an exceptionally good looking guy, I've been cursed with the inevitability of saying something cringe and stupid to a girl I like, and coming off as weird or an asshole.

So I've learned it's best for me to just keep my mouth shut and stay away from them, and just wait until she approaches me and I'll get to know her through text.

I suck with women lol

Anonymous · Answer

Most guys yes. I mean there are a few shameless guys that will ask every woman out. But generally guys don't ask women out unless they feel she's open to it. This is why I always say guys may typically do asking out. But whether they realize it or not WOMEN make the first move.

SnowedIn · Answer

You are correct. To approach at other times inevitably leads to death, destruction, mayhem and the girl acting like "how dare you enter my universe!" Rejection is brutal.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope.
80% of men will never approach a women no matter what.
10% will only approach when the situation is exactly perfect
And then 10% will approach any woman any time and not care if she rejects him or not.
These last 10% are the douchebags and asshats that women go for because they are “confident” and them whine to the other 90% about when they get used and hurt.

Pegases · Answer

I think this is becoming more and more true because of how many women post guys that approach them on ticktok for attention.

Anonymous · Answer

Not exactly. They'll approach to flirt, but if she doesn't engage, flirt back or give any welcome sign, and he's not a scum bag, he will back off.

Anonymous · Answer

In todays climate a girl would have to show obvious signs of interest before I even look their way.

Iron_Man · Answer

Probably when I was younger I don’t like to bother people that are talking to their friends and having dinner without her, giving me a signal

moviedude714 · Answer

Seems to work better that way because in that case the woman is inviting him in and less likely to make the woman uncomfortable

msc545 · Answer

That is the only time I do it. I don't need the rejection or the legal risk that otherwise would be present in most cases.

Sasha0426 · Answer

Nah, men avoid me like the plague. If I show any signs I like them, they get angry.

LiamJHayden · Answer

No. I approach if I am interested and she appears to be single.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Smart guys do.

Dat-Alpha-Lion · Answer

Better to play it safe than to cold approach and come off creepy

Echosoul · Answer

Yes generally. It's quite nerve racking

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

80% probably.

Zandoval · Answer

Often, yes

TheSimFans · Answer

Not for me.

Anonymous · Answer

Not always.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Yes, Usually.

Jltakk · Answer

Thats what I do.

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