Why do guys not reveal that they have girlfriends as often as women do in conversation?

[Bethany22]

I noticed that in social groups of people, when women tend to tell stories, they often mention their boyfriend as part of the story. But many guys rarely do that about their girlfriends. They manage to be able to tell a story without mentioning their girlfriend. Why do guys do that? It makes women have to make fools out of themselves flirting with the wrong guys because they don't realize that these guys are already taken.

[Adam1978]

Because women tend to build their life around their boyfriends not the other way around. Guys se themselves as independent individuals and don't bring up their partners unless the conversation head into that topic. If she isn't key for the discussion we leave her out of the discussion. She only needs to be mentioned if she is present.

[FilmGuy93]

Guys just don't share much in general. Guys learn from a very young age that people use our vulnerability against us.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think it has to do more with the already "taken women" making it clear to guys they are indeed off the market. More of a warning to ward off potential creeps trying to hit on her.

Guys don't tend to offer it right away, because it may not be pertinent to a friendly conversation and we don't feel the need to warn every women about our relationship status, as it is really unlikely a girl is going to hit on us anyway.

I see what you mean about women though... I tried starting a little conversation with a couple of University girls that were sitting beside me at the local coffee shop and they were quick to tell me they both had boyfriend's, I can understand where they are coming from as I am sure guys try to get their attention all the time, but the question I asked was completely unrelated. They were going through school for environmental degrees and I said, I took the same course years ago and just wanted to know whether the course outline material had been updated.

It's like you can't even start-up a friendly conversation anymore without having to justify you don't have an ulterior motive? I can see why some guys would not bother initiating a conversation, just to make make a new woman acquaintance.

[Part2603]

Gee it's almost as if women respect you more if you're forward and direct. It's almost as if women are vainglorious and have to make everything about themselves. Sometimes I'll flirt with a girl even if she's not super good looking, just so that way I can fit into her paradigm and she doesn't think I'm beta.

Pro tip: Greet every girl with a "hello beautiful", and you will avoid awkward brush offs like that. You'll still get brushed off (possibly, unless you're a stud like me) but at least it won't be awkward.

[chicosuave]

agree. women defense mechanism always kicks in whenever they talk to men. yup and why even mention it when we don't have to. Even when we are single girls never make a move on us so why even care. it just doesn't matter.

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to generalize about why some guys may not reveal that they have girlfriends as often as women do in conversation, as everyone is different and may have different reasons for their behavior. However, some possible reasons could include:

- They may not want to come across as bragging or trying to show off that they have a girlfriend.
- They may not see their relationship status as being relevant to the conversation or story they are telling.
- They may be trying to avoid unwanted attention or advances from other women in the group.
- They may simply forget to mention their girlfriend in the moment.

It's important to remember that it's not solely the responsibility of women to determine the relationship status of men they are interested in. It's important for everyone to communicate their relationship status clearly and honestly, and to respect the boundaries and autonomy of others. If you're interested in someone and want to know if they're single, it's okay to ask directly and respectfully. At the same time, it's important to respect their answer and not pressure them into pursuing a relationship if they're not interested.

[JamesDiaz11]

Honestly, it's because a boyfriend is a status symbol for a girl, it is not for a guy- unless he's very low value. As a taken guy you're no longer able to pursue other women if you have a girlfriend, which can dramatically decrease the sexual tension you can have in these interactions. So, a guy will usually keep it to himself until things approach the line.

At the same time, since girls are hypergamous and date/ marry up hierarchies, a boyfriend is a status symbol- to show she obtained her better. You won't see girlfriends who date their inferior (for whatever reason) disclose them readily.

[Sasha0426]

You just wanted to take a jab at women because you hate us, didn’t you? 🙄

[JamesDiaz11]

@Sasha0426 Instead of getting into your feelings why don't you entertain the idea that: (1) this is actually the reason guys don't disclose they have girlfriends, albeit uncensored, and (2) seeing women as they are, instead of sugar, spice, and everything nice (as society tells you, and us that you are) is NOT the same as hating them?
50% of women over 30 will be unmarried and childless in the near future- MOST social scientists, psychologists, etc. believe this is because most men don't possess the credentials a woman wants to find marriage to him appealing (vs her singlehood). If women found men appealing for the companionship they would be getting married, but they aren't. It's well-recognized, and well-documented that women marry-up (hypergamy), and because most women make as much as most men their ability/ need to "marry-up" could only be satisfied by pairing with the top 10% of guys, which any mathematician can tell you "THERE AREN'T ENOUGH TO GO AROUND." To say it plainly, average girls are not interested in average guys; a girl who is valued at a 6 (looks/ personality/ character) will NOT settle for a guy valued at a 6 (income, status, character). This isn't demonizing women, it's accepting them as they ARE, and acknowledging it.

[Sasha0426]

I’m already 30 and I plan to die single. I don’t know if that will help with anything 🤷‍♀️

[JamesDiaz11]

@Sasha0426 What do you mean "help" with anything? Modern civilization has taught us that when you give women equal political/ social rights as men, when you make their life extremely safe & comfortable, and you remove social restraints such as traditional morals women will (among other antisocial behaviors) choose to forego marriage, children, etc. at such levels that the society collapses.

[Sasha0426]

@JamesDiaz11 Ok, what do you want me to say here?

[Sasha0426]

And what I mean is I don’t know if it’s a relief to you that I don’t want a relationship whatsoever. Not even marriage.

[Sasha0426]

Also, I don’t know if this will make you happy to hear this but men want nothing to do with me. They hate the fact that I exist.

[CindersFire]

Well I can think of a couple reasons. The first would have to do with general psychological difference between men and women largely in regards to men being more interested in things versus women being more interested in people. Thus when telling stories men focus on more on facts and a clear timeline and women focus more on emotions, who was around, and a general overview of what happened. The second I can think of is that men, particularly young men, are expected to participate and enjoy their partners interests more than women are expected to do so for women and as such men's stories don't have their SO involved. The last reason I can think of is that, it seems, women are much more comfortable talking about the more intimate details of their life and speak about their partners to their friends which isn't something men really do.

[FunkyMonkee]

Girls are won't to be gossipers and LOVE to here and tell all the dirty details of their lives! They also love to make SURE that ANY potential secret lover knows they don't have a chance with them! Guys aren't into gossip and don't really see the need to talk about their love interests that freely. Sadly, in a LOT of cases, they seem to have the ethos: Have dick; will travel. But, I don't suppose you can actually blame us since, we pump out millions of sperm every day while girls only pump out one or possibly two eggs per month!

[Jamie05rhs]

I don't think it ever would occur to a guy. Because it's not something we think about. We're not constantly considering the potential romantic angle of any interaction with the opposite sex. We're just living our lives, treating people as people.

Generally, we WILL mention our girl if we feel that it is necessary, if we sense a woman "coming on" to us. But the fact is, most guys are not great at recognizing subtle signals from women. So maybe she is coming on to him, but he's completely oblivious to it. So he just continues treating her like a cordial neighbor.

Of course, there are SOME guys that are really good at recognizing signals! But the ones who have this ability are probably players. (Because, if you could do that, if you had that skill, why would you not use it?). So those guys wouldn't care anyway. Because they'd probably be down to having an affair with you.

[Charlesbrandonf]

When we don’t feel safe among people then we don’t reveal our most valuable precious thing. It’s not hiding it’s our business to keep our secrets that are impoyyo us. Not every friend of mine is so emotionally safe to share emotional things. It don’t mean they’re not friends. Boundaries. When the time comes they’ll know our business.

[JSmuve]

Some possible reasons...

1) guys get disproportionately less attention than girls so they might like the ego boost

2) they don't see you as a threat to their relationship, so there's no need to mention it

3) they're looking to cheat

4) they don't actually believe the woman is interested in him and she's just being friendly

[AdithyaR]

Most commonly women do that cause on average men hit on women way more than women hit on men. So one of the easiest way for them to reject a guy is to casually bring up the fact they have a partner.
Guys are very rarely hit on by girls so they don't generally need to bring it up since they don't expect that the girl is hitting on them.

[Anonymous]

I experienced this many time.. I know some of them did it to keep a flirt going with me for longer, since they actually admitted that it was the case xD

I don't mind some casual flirting though, but one of the times it was for like a month and he only told me after I already got feelings. So really not a cool game to play.

[Khaled27]

Two reasons:

1- men are naturally protective. They protect their treasures and in this case their partner , thry protect them and themselves from envy , jealousy. etc

2 - men are interested in talking mostly about things events facts. etc instead of talking about people and their romantic situation.

[peedy]

Its probably because it has nothing to do with our conversations, usually we already know and 2nd when it becomes relevant we will say something
Its a need to know bases and if you already know than why say it, and if you don't know than maybe it's none of your damn business

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Because a woman is using her status to keep men away whereas men hide it to keep their options open. When women talk to a guy they find attractive they too hide their relationships. It’s not exclusive to sex. It’s just that men do it more.

[Anonymous]

Common sense. Men learn early on the less you divulge the better. Women are primarily motivated by feelings. The more he runs his mouth the more likely he's going to say something that she'll judge. Women top of that are generally very bad decision makers (see: feelings again). 90% she has no clue who he is. 90% of the time the image of him is whatever her mind has manufactured. And again her fantasy of him will be better than anything he could create. So that's why smart guys say as little as possible.

[Guy13]

I would not tell you I had a girlfriend until I knew I didn’t like you because current girl could not be serious gig, fear of being dumped, about get out of it, you smell good, really don’t respect that hoe, don’t want you in my Business, talking to her, and she don’t look as good as you anyway.

[Anonymous]

Because girls get attention constantly and guys don’t generally care if you have a boyfriend and will hit on you anyways, therefore it isn’t as big a deal to her to mention it. Plus women love the idea that a guy wants to try and win them from another male.

men don’t get a female showing interest as often and therefore when it happens it’s something we don’t want to have stopped because we feel good and attractive for the first time in a long time and it makes us feel special.

[RavVid]

One of the things I like about women is if they detect interest they will bring their boyfriend into the conversation. Even if they are making up a boyfriend because you don't make their grade, at least you know you're not on. So move on.

Amongst guys we don't mention gfs very often either so I doubt it is a conscious thought of "don't mention the girlfriend". I think it is just that it doesn't occur to us mostly though it might be because we are enjoying your charming company.

[Anonymous]

Most men don't like to volunteer information about themselves. You'll notice this if you ask your boyfriend how one of his friends are or what's going on in their life. Your boyfriend won't know because he didn't ask and his friend didn't tell. Men keep conversations short and to the point, usually. They speak with a purpose. So unless someone specifically asks about their relationship status, then it simply isn't relevant to the conversation. No reason to bring it up.

[JesseP1nk]

I did a mistake saying one of my girl friends that i have a girlfriend... Guess what happened. She got jealous and started shittalk to my girlfriend and sabotage my relationship and we broke up.

I never make this mistake again. So no, im not gonna tell shit to anyone.

[Pegases]

Where do you live that you think women don't deceive as much as men? Must not be the U. S.