Why do guys not reveal that they have girlfriends as often as women do in conversation?

Question

I noticed that in social groups of people, when women tend to tell stories, they often mention their boyfriend as part of the story. But many guys rarely do that about their girlfriends. They manage to be able to tell a story without mentioning their girlfriend. Why do guys do that? It makes women have to make fools out of themselves flirting with the wrong guys because they don't realize that these guys are already taken.

Adam1978 · Accepted Answer

Because women tend to build their life around their boyfriends not the other way around. Guys se themselves as independent individuals and don't bring up their partners unless the conversation head into that topic. If she isn't key for the discussion we leave her out of the discussion. She only needs to be mentioned if she is present.

FilmGuy93 · Accepted Answer

Guys just don't share much in general. Guys learn from a very young age that people use our vulnerability against us.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think it has to do more with the already "taken women" making it clear to guys they are indeed off the market. More of a warning to ward off potential creeps trying to hit on her.

Guys don't tend to offer it right away, because it may not be pertinent to a friendly conversation and we don't feel the need to warn every women about our relationship status, as it is really unlikely a girl is going to hit on us anyway.

I see what you mean about women though... I tried starting a little conversation with a couple of University girls that were sitting beside me at the local coffee shop and they were quick to tell me they both had boyfriend's, I can understand where they are coming from as I am sure guys try to get their attention all the time, but the question I asked was completely unrelated. They were going through school for environmental degrees and I said, I took the same course years ago and just wanted to know whether the course outline material had been updated.

It's like you can't even start-up a friendly conversation anymore without having to justify you don't have an ulterior motive? I can see why some guys would not bother initiating a conversation, just to make make a new woman acquaintance.

Anonymous · Answer

It's difficult to generalize about why some guys may not reveal that they have girlfriends as often as women do in conversation, as everyone is different and may have different reasons for their behavior. However, some possible reasons could include:

- They may not want to come across as bragging or trying to show off that they have a girlfriend.
- They may not see their relationship status as being relevant to the conversation or story they are telling.
- They may be trying to avoid unwanted attention or advances from other women in the group.
- They may simply forget to mention their girlfriend in the moment.

It's important to remember that it's not solely the responsibility of women to determine the relationship status of men they are interested in. It's important for everyone to communicate their relationship status clearly and honestly, and to respect the boundaries and autonomy of others. If you're interested in someone and want to know if they're single, it's okay to ask directly and respectfully. At the same time, it's important to respect their answer and not pressure them into pursuing a relationship if they're not interested.

JamesDiaz11 · Answer

Honestly, it's because a boyfriend is a status symbol for a girl, it is not for a guy- unless he's very low value. As a taken guy you're no longer able to pursue other women if you have a girlfriend, which can dramatically decrease the sexual tension you can have in these interactions. So, a guy will usually keep it to himself until things approach the line.

At the same time, since girls are hypergamous and date/ marry up hierarchies, a boyfriend is a status symbol- to show she obtained her better. You won't see girlfriends who date their inferior (for whatever reason) disclose them readily.

CindersFire · Answer

Well I can think of a couple reasons. The first would have to do with general psychological difference between men and women largely in regards to men being more interested in things versus women being more interested in people. Thus when telling stories men focus on more on facts and a clear timeline and women focus more on emotions, who was around, and a general overview of what happened. The second I can think of is that men, particularly young men, are expected to participate and enjoy their partners interests more than women are expected to do so for women and as such men's stories don't have their SO involved. The last reason I can think of is that, it seems, women are much more comfortable talking about the more intimate details of their life and speak about their partners to their friends which isn't something men really do.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Girls are won't to be gossipers and LOVE to here and tell all the dirty details of their lives! They also love to make SURE that ANY potential secret lover knows they don't have a chance with them! Guys aren't into gossip and don't really see the need to talk about their love interests that freely. Sadly, in a LOT of cases, they seem to have the ethos: Have dick; will travel. But, I don't suppose you can actually blame us since, we pump out millions of sperm every day while girls only pump out one or possibly two eggs per month!

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I don't think it ever would occur to a guy. Because it's not something we think about. We're not constantly considering the potential romantic angle of any interaction with the opposite sex. We're just living our lives, treating people as people.

Generally, we WILL mention our girl if we feel that it is necessary, if we sense a woman "coming on" to us. But the fact is, most guys are not great at recognizing subtle signals from women. So maybe she is coming on to him, but he's completely oblivious to it. So he just continues treating her like a cordial neighbor.

Of course, there are SOME guys that are really good at recognizing signals! But the ones who have this ability are probably players. (Because, if you could do that, if you had that skill, why would you not use it?). So those guys wouldn't care anyway. Because they'd probably be down to having an affair with you.

Charlesbrandonf · Answer

When we don’t feel safe among people then we don’t reveal our most valuable precious thing. It’s not hiding it’s our business to keep our secrets that are impoyyo us. Not every friend of mine is so emotionally safe to share emotional things. It don’t mean they’re not friends. Boundaries. When the time comes they’ll know our business.

JSmuve · Answer

Some possible reasons...

1) guys get disproportionately less attention than girls so they might like the ego boost

2) they don't see you as a threat to their relationship, so there's no need to mention it

3) they're looking to cheat

4) they don't actually believe the woman is interested in him and she's just being friendly

AdithyaR · Answer

Most commonly women do that cause on average men hit on women way more than women hit on men. So one of the easiest way for them to reject a guy is to casually bring up the fact they have a partner.
Guys are very rarely hit on by girls so they don't generally need to bring it up since they don't expect that the girl is hitting on them.

Anonymous · Answer

I experienced this many time.. I know some of them did it to keep a flirt going with me for longer, since they actually admitted that it was the case xD

I don't mind some casual flirting though, but one of the times it was for like a month and he only told me after I already got feelings. So really not a cool game to play.

Khaled27 · Answer

Two reasons:

1- men are naturally protective. They protect their treasures and in this case their partner , thry protect them and themselves from envy , jealousy. etc

2 - men are interested in talking mostly about things events facts. etc instead of talking about people and their romantic situation.

peedy · Answer

Its probably because it has nothing to do with our conversations, usually we already know and 2nd when it becomes relevant we will say something
Its a need to know bases and if you already know than why say it, and if you don't know than maybe it's none of your damn business

Breanna_nonbinary · Answer

Because a woman is using her status to keep men away whereas men hide it to keep their options open. When women talk to a guy they find attractive they too hide their relationships. It’s not exclusive to sex. It’s just that men do it more.

Anonymous · Answer

Common sense. Men learn early on the less you divulge the better. Women are primarily motivated by feelings. The more he runs his mouth the more likely he's going to say something that she'll judge. Women top of that are generally very bad decision makers (see: feelings again). 90% she has no clue who he is. 90% of the time the image of him is whatever her mind has manufactured. And again her fantasy of him will be better than anything he could create. So that's why smart guys say as little as possible.

Guy13 · Answer

I would not tell you I had a girlfriend until I knew I didn’t like you because current girl could not be serious gig, fear of being dumped, about get out of it,  you smell good,  really don’t respect that hoe, don’t want you in my Business, talking to her, and she don’t look as good as you anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

Because girls get attention constantly and guys don’t generally care if you have a boyfriend and will hit on you anyways, therefore it isn’t as big a deal to her to mention it. Plus women love the idea that a guy wants to try and win them from another male.

men don’t get a female showing interest as often and therefore when it happens it’s something we don’t want to have stopped because we feel good and attractive for the first time in a long time and it makes us feel special.

RavVid · Answer

One of the things I like about women is if they detect interest they will bring their boyfriend into the conversation. Even if they are making up a boyfriend because you don't make their grade, at least you know you're not on. So move on.

Amongst guys we don't mention gfs very often either so I doubt it is a conscious thought of "don't mention the girlfriend". I think it is just that it doesn't occur to us mostly though it might be because we are enjoying your charming company.

Anonymous · Answer

Most men don't like to volunteer information about themselves. You'll notice this if you ask your boyfriend how one of his friends are or what's going on in their life. Your boyfriend won't know because he didn't ask and his friend didn't tell. Men keep conversations short and to the point, usually. They speak with a purpose. So unless someone specifically asks about their relationship status, then it simply isn't relevant to the conversation. No reason to bring it up.

JesseP1nk · Answer

I did a mistake saying one of my girl friends that i have a girlfriend... Guess what happened. She got jealous and started shittalk to my girlfriend and sabotage my relationship and we broke up.

I never make this mistake again. So no, im not gonna tell shit to anyone.

Pegases · Answer

Where do you live that you think women don't deceive as much as men? Must not be the U. S.

EaterPeter · Answer

It's a matter of gender a girl can have as many girl friends she wants. And as a guy we like you and have a little bit of hope of getting lucky or we like you a lot. The ring magically disappears from the ring finger.

genericname85 · Answer

cause girls don't talk to men with the intend to hook up. so why reveal that you have a girlfriend?

melanieeeB · Answer

Why would you make that your whole personality? Lol

I usually don't go around telling in people's face that I have a boyfriend ... I mostly just say that when I wanna get someone away from me who can't seem to understand a no lol

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

I would not mention that I have a girlfriend unless I was trying to halt some girls advances, or if I genuinely had something to talk about that involved her and where I wouldn't be discussing anything personal

desidoll · Answer

Some feel that it is not necessary to tell unless women ask them. The rest just keep that info on purpose because they want to have a fling with other women which is pathetic.

Anonymous · Answer

A woman has never told me she has a boyfriend. Ever. Hiding certain facts around people you like is not exclusive to men

serious · Answer

That is a good question. Maybe men just like to keep these things to themselves and not share it with everyone. At least some men are like that

Luffy1990 · Answer

I have ran into Girls that have done that too , but I think it’s a feelings kind of thing

Staximus · Answer

Maybe people should just ask each other if they are single before flirting with each other

Still-alive · Answer

i dunno maybe they don't feel the need to. why not just ask him directly? lol

lightbulb27 · Answer

Once we learn to protect our girlfriend's feelings, then we will do so freely. Until then, we don't think about it and enjoy the attention.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why girls do not revealing that they have boyfriends as often as guys do in conversation

AviatorTom · Answer

It must be in the genes... girls like to talk with others about their personal lives, guys don't.

Titanic1912 · Answer

I tell all my guy friends about my relationships. I just don’t mention previous relationships with other girls as I might hurt some feelings and I know women are very emotional.

PatriceONeal · Answer

Women vase their value on the quality of man they can attract. Also modern women are very vain and insecure. They constantly feel the need to brag that they get their legs spread by some random dude at that moment.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

Who the fuck knows but I hate it. They’ll hide wives too.

RandomGuy1030 · Answer

Why don't women share pics of their boyfriend on their instagram

Leopard23 · Answer

Having a girlfriend is a real turn on for a lot of women.

red324 · Answer

Girls do it just so you'll stop talking to them. "What did you do thus weekend?" OH my boyfriend and I went to the movies... well that doesn't sound very fun

Part2603 · Answer

Nah homie, he just said that because you're ugly.

UncleBilll · Answer

When I am having a conversation with a girl, I never mention other girls. I am not looking to get married just get into her panties.

zagor · Answer

Guys can be good friends with another guy for some time and not know if he has a girlfriend. Guys talk about other stuff.

clampfan101 · Answer

I’d be open to talking about mine if I had one. If anything I’d try not to brag too much. lol

strlb · Answer

Players play ballers ball. Does it need to be mentioned?

Twalli · Answer

We find stories that don't involve our girlfriend more interesting.

SunnyRS · Answer

For me the reason will be that I don't like talking about my personal life a lot.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Because girlfriends are typically irrelevant to anything of interest a guy has to tell.

thorboy · Answer

they want more girlfirends

humanearth · Answer

There is no need to blab

Anonymous · Answer

Those guys are players looking to cheat.

Maya_LaDiosa · Answer

Who knows?

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