Would you blame a guy's height insecurity on men or women? Why or why not?

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Pegases · Accepted Answer

I think most women just want a man that is taller than them, and from a biological perspective, it makes sense. The primary desire of women is to feel safe. Resources make women feel safe, which is why women on average tend to prioritize what a man can do, rather than how he looks. The exception is stature, because a bigger man in most cases is more capable of protecting a woman. Its the same logic behind why a lot of women often enjoy being tossed around during sex. What's interesting about this, is that most of these desires if not all are unconscious. No different than why we men are more attracted on average to women that are feminine, soft, and loving. Both genders to an extent have pre-programming if you will, that dictates which characteristics within the opposite sex that we find attractive. So don't take it personally when a woman says she only dates men 6 foot for example.. Think about how many women never know what they want to eat.. Just like food, most women have no idea what they really want in a man, until they see it, or have it. The why is a bit complicated, but in short its because women most often don't make romantic decisions based on logic, they make them based on how they feel. Short men that date average height women, know this, and use it to their advantage. So game is ultimately the way around these perceived height obstacles when it comes dating as a shorter than average man. That's your key, if you're looking for it. Good Luck.

Sunssong · Accepted Answer

Women are 100% the problem  for a person who accepts ideas from others. You can accept or reject any idea you hear.  Most  people don't do that though. They get emotionally involved in the idea and condition themselves.  To be clear, everyone is responsible for what they accept or reject.  That's why so many girls/guys on here think they are unlovable. They just accept horrible ideas about themselves (based on what their senses might be telling them) and then get emotionally involved until it becomes a belief. It's sad really. Basically their worst enemy is themselves.  Doesn't matter  if most girls like tall guys or not. You  don't have to  accept that idea. Your belief system isn't going to slap you because (if) stats disagree; it will take  anything  you give it.

Red-Blaze · Accepted Answer

Thats a good qruestion, honestly as odd as it may sound il not blame any side, but blame survival instenct and taller/bigger being a trait our monky brains seen as something that is more likely to help survive
That as manythings is something that hard to change, and will take its time
This also connect to taller pepole consider more in control, and more powerful as the reason before
So its no one yet everyone fault till we get that out of our minds that the Short King term is a good first step to doing it, and hopfully in time evolve for it mattering much less

This by the way show in both men and women in the way pepole use "draf" as an insult on someone
There is a bad contasion on this sadly

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It’s the men
Women feel the energy easily when men are insecure so in a way they also want to stay away from this.. insecurity they have.
You can’t blame a women because of men heigh if they are insecure it’s their dilemma to fix it not the women problem.

In short : My shit is my shit you fix your own shit

coachTanthony · Answer

Why would it ever be blamed on women? I am 5'7 and never blamed a woman for my height or anything in my life. I have done just fine with women my entire life. Is it more difficult today YES but it can be done.

Anonymous · Answer

Insecurities in general are your own responsibility, but I get why shorter men are upset about it.

You can always buy a pair of boots to make you look taller though. Timberlands add a couple inches, and most girls think they look hot on guys, so that's an added bonus

Nikki1989 · Answer

Men bring their insecurities on themselves. It is only a small percentage of short men that think their height is a problem. Most just get on with life like anyone else.

MrOracle · Answer

If it's YOUR insecurity, it's YOUR responsibility to deal with. So, in this case, it's HIS responsibility. It's not necessarily BLAME - that's the wrong word - it's his responsibility to manage it and get help for it if necessary.

Yes, a lot of women are (in my opinion) pretty unreasonable about men's height - with most women seeming to only consider men who are in the top 10% of height - but there are plenty of women who are fine with shorter guys, and if that's what you are working with, you just have to accept that some women just aren't available to you, and you have to choose one from the pool who you can get.

Likewise, when women have insecurities, they are HER responsibility to deal with - and blaming men is not "dealing with them." I don't give men that excuse, and I don't give women that excuse. You have to own your own issues.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

It is a bit complex actually.

It is like a never ending cycle that starts when guys start paying attention to what women prefer.

After that, guys begin to focus on those characteristics among guys. Which creates competition sort of environment.

When competition comes, it can be taken in a good way or in a bad way. This is what makes the difference.

Hence, society in general. Really generally speaking.

Those who don't listen to unnecessary and unrealistic demands from women are the happiest ones.😁

TenderFantasy · Answer

Society really.

But men is more the culprit. They make other men more insecure by playing the comparison game. Since when did you hear a woman (who are usually the shorter gender) complain or compare heights anyway!

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Men. And those men will blame us. But I've seen very attractive men who are shorter or who the majority will consider to be short. They're confident because they put themselves past that little height thing. That's all it is for them, I think, some height. That's not stopping them from succeeding and finding love.

People who blame their height, limit themselves.

melanieeeB · Answer

Insecure Men cause women keep saying over and over and over again that not every men needs to be 6' tall, sure some want that but most women just want a man taller than themselves... so it's just you insecure dudes digging yourself deeper and deeper.
Same with the all women want a rich men shit, the all women care about your length🍆 bullshit etc.. it's all in your own ass head. You're welcome.

petitedollbabee · Answer

I guess men? Especially on here. So many like to go on & on about how women are shallow and how if a man is short then women won’t date him, and play the whole “woe is me” card, but then when someone like me comments and says “I don’t care about a guys height”, I get labelled a liar or some degrading title lol. It’s as if they’re wanting something to complain about, and then when a woman informs them that not every woman thinks that way, they lash out at her or tell her she’s wrong.

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

It's his insecurity so it's on him. It may be based on societal preferences, but that doesn't make it societies fault

MageSage · Answer

While men may make other men feel insignificant because of their height, and may be the most heard source of said ridicule, the REASON for such ridicule in the first place is because of women. But that's not to say that it's a heartless act. It's true that being taller can be seen as a genetic advantage, and thus an attractive trait for someone to reproduce with. But as with most things, there's two sides to this coin. Sure, having a tall partner is great if you want your kid to be intimidating, or if you personally like tall partners, but being tall sucks when flying coach, or having to sleep in a twin size bed.

I think people should try to push aside any desires and standards that don't make sense in the modern age. It's not the stone age anymore, we don't need to breed mammoth hunters anymore.

LickwidSkie · Answer

I think it's both. There's a stigma that tall guys are physically superior (including being stronger) and better fighters. Guys tend to pick on short guys too about their height (judging by when I was in highschool at least). I've also seen a lot of women say they wouldn't date a man shorter than themselves or they want a man that's at least a certain height.

Guy13 · Answer

I blame the person, whether boy or girl, who artfully uses excuses as pretext for every insecurity, incompetency, mistake, and/or any little bad thing that happens to them. Cry me a river as my Height as Defense Mechanism is the work of a feeble Mind and Will. This is an individual that lets Society and Circumstance rule over them and likely this way about them transcends into all areas of their life. They choose to loose, freely.

opheeowlscout · Answer

I'd say women are a good chunk of the insecurity. When I say women, I mean the women who care about height. Watching them talk about height makes me cringe into the 5th dimension...

CateM · Answer

Not one or the other, but society as a whole

AdithyaR · Answer

Men. The insecurity in them makes them forget that there are women who don't care about height. They tend to fixate on the fact that a few women preferred someone of a different height that they refuse to believe that someone else won't mind their height.
That weighs your confidence down and that is a much bigger turn off than any physical aspect.

Anonymous · Answer

Seems like a lot of men has the insecurities of their height. A woman may not want you because she prefers someone taller but so what. You can brush it off & move on, if you get in your feelings about it that’s on you. Plus the guys that are blaming the women is the reason your single now

DizzyDesii · Answer

Thats all him. He can't handle rejection from “his type” because there are many women who don’t care if he’s short/shorter/not a certain height AND there are many men who are confident regardless of being a certain height

domenico07 · Answer

What does that even mean?

First of all, im 6’2. I ain’t insecure about my height but is that really a thing? people shorter than 6’ are insecure? Really? I know a dude who’s maybe 5’6, but he’s muscular and could beat someone’s ass with no problem. If you’re under 6’ it’s not the end of the world. Don’t be so caught up in your own mind

Twalli · Answer

Women are the reason why we have issues with our height. We are told that women don't care about height and then turned down by those very same women because of height. I was told by a mother of a teammate that women don't care about height. The next statement was her telling me how hard it was for her to find a guy taller than her. If women didn't care about height, why would she care if her guy was taller than her? FYI, her husband is taller than her.

Anonymous · Answer

You can't blame just one gender, both are to blame.

women: some are brutal and will tell to your face that you are too short.

men: some short ones dont understand that some women just prefer taller guys, its basic biology. But they also think all women want 6 feet + guys.

Jendcheuebc · Answer

I don’t care about height. I’ve dated guys who were my height or maybe a couple inches shorter. I am 5’9” so I kinda feel weird if I also date someone who’s much taller than me. It’s like “hey look at those 2 super tall people!”

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Insecurity is as common as hummus. Short guys are not the only guys that feel insecure. Mostly everyone has felt insecure and continues to feel insecure about something in their lives.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

Insecurity of any type is always on the person who is insecure. Not everything in the world is going to be how we want. So it's all about how we deal with it.

TrillXHippy · Answer

And of course the problem says it’s men. Not surprised. Never in my 27 years of living have I ever heard a guy say “I want a girl that is 6 feet and above” as long as men walk on this planet women will forever be the problem

Adam1978 · Answer

I would blame insecurities on the person that has them independent of the gender. They are the only one that can change that.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Men and masculine standards and how no one can ever truly meet them in a way that's valid is the reason why so many men are insecure.

KlinkyCoder · Answer

I am 5'7 which is shorter than average, but it doesn't bother me per se, but statistically most women don't like that for it being "too short". Women are just as guilty of this thing as men, if not more.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

I was never insecure about my height until i was constantly asked how tall i am on dating apps.

sheenagwapa · Answer

both in western culture.., hurt people hurt other people

msc545 · Answer

Men do not criticize other men for their height or mock them or refuse to socialize with them or have sex with them. Women do all of this and more.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Himself. I know guys who are 5'11 who lament not being 6'+ and guys 5'6 and under who own it and date lots of women.

Anonymous · Answer

Man and women. Men judge each other all the time with toxic masculinity. Women usually want a guy thats taller than her also. So both parties fault

OddBeMe · Answer

Both. It’s like violence and sex in the media. I’d say it’s 50/50: gals have demand, guys who can’t fit that demand no matter what get angry.

annabananna · Answer

Can I blame it on both genders?

Anonymous · Answer

Probably on women but some guys bully shorter guys which they can’t control so it’s not fair either way

Anonymous · Answer

Women, because they think it is ok to reject men for not being tall enough.

Anonymous · Answer

Neither. I'd blame it on ridiculous societal standards in general.

OatmealMuffin · Answer

Obviously, women.

abc3643 · Answer

Insecurity is self-inflicted.

Rosexøxø · Answer

It’s both. It’s society.

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

it’s definitely women

4ngelic · Answer

both

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