Why are guys so insecure about their height?

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Yesterday, I went on a date with a guy I met on a dating app.. The guy claimed in his profile that he' 6'0 tall (having said that his legs did look short on the pics). However, when I arrived at the place where we were supposed to meet I didn't see any tall guy... When I was standing next to him, we were almost the same height and I'm like 5'7.. Maybe he was 1-2 inches taller 🤣🤣
Cmon dude, really?

I don't understand why someone would lie about their height 🤣🤣 I was going to leave but out of politeness I didn't

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Robo131 · Accepted Answer

Tall is a preference, just like guys who prefer bigger butts or boobs and what not. But personally tallness is not a deciding factor. I will say this though... I have told a guy of short stature I don’t date short men, but it really wasn’t about his height... some guys can’t take a “no” for an answer.

Another thing, if a guy lies about his height it’s disappointing to me. Not because he’s short but because he lied.

titania21 · Accepted Answer

I dated a guy who said he is 5'8 , I am 5'7 but he was definitely shorter than me. I didn't have any problems with dating him , it actually never bothered me. It really annoyed me that he was lying to me about his height when I am standing right in front of him. I really liked him but he didn't wanted anything serious ( usual clichés) , so I didn't waste my time either.

vald9inches · Accepted Answer

You can’t blame them for wanting what they are attracted to. She has every right to leave because that was flat out false advertising and it tells her that he is a big liar it wasn’t even a small exaggeration, and he is also super insecure and not confident enough which are the reason why she would leave not because of his height

CluelesslyClueless · Accepted Answer

I'm 6'4, so I've never understood it.
I've noticed I constantly become a target for all the short guys though, unprovoked.
I call it Small Dog Syndrome.
Big dogs don't bark much, and they leave people alone unless provoked.
Small dogs will bark constantly, nip at your heels, and try to act bigger than they are.

That-Guy · Answer

Girls tend to want to date guys taller than them and when the guy isn't at least the same if not a certain amount taller... he's dismissed.

Guys height vs girls weight = sorta the same subjective criteria for beauty standards.

Why are girls SOOO insecure about their weight? Well.. society pressures.

However... if i could talk to this guy, i'd tell him that if a girl does indeed dismiss you due to your height, then she's not the one for you anyways. IF anything, lying on your profile is 2 more steps in the wrong direction if you think "well this is how i'll get a chance, she'll agree to meet and then see what a charming fellow i am" is not going to work.
- her red flags will become redder as you are now revealing that you are not trustworthy and carry insecurities (opposite of confidence).

Anyways, everyone sounds young in the above story.

yasii · Answer

Well if you wanted to leave because he was short you've got your answer on why boys are insecure about their height. Most women are into men that are at least taller than themselves. But he should not have lied. You can't lie about yourself and expect the other to just accept it

passinby · Answer

"Why are guys so insecure about their height?" well you answered your own question because you emphasized it here. Women drive the height requirement and when all women (almost) say they like tall, well you will start to create insecurities. Why do you cake on the makeup? That is a tremendous lie if there ever was one. Why do women like to wear heels? Some have said on here because they feel more confident at work. Why do we get umpteen, boob vs butt, (p? s not withstanding)? The list of insecurities and lies is long.

BreakingSound · Answer

I mean, if he'd said he was 5'9, would you have gone on a date with him? Was it his height that made you want to leave?  If so, I think you've answered your own question.

Prankster13 · Answer

I get why short guys are insecure about their height. I mean almost EVERY short guy is insecure about his height.

But lying on a dating app won't help. It will just make it more obvious you are insecure and draw attention to the fact you are short. Not a good idea..

Jjpayne · Answer

I'm not! But I think it's more accepted for the guy to be taller and the girl to be shorter. At least according to society anyway.. he probably was put under pressure to do that I think it's kind of stupid. Maybe he thought it might get him more dates of something... But I think it's sad, people should just comfortable with who they are and own it! I also think it might have something to do with women quickly looking at the stats then moving on to the next guy

dtfear · Answer

Same reason larger women are insecure. It is not the desired attribute and the internet emphasizes that quite a bit. Some people allow it to eat at them and deepen their insecurities. Thus a large portion of shorter guys become insecure about it although lying about it is not only unnecessary, it is kinda dumb in this instance.

MigzyCaPWN · Answer

I hear a lot of women say they like tall men, so I naturally feel at a disadvantage. While I am. confident in myself with other things, being compared in that respect is a little disheartening to hear.

Bananaman177 · Answer

Guys don't care about their height, girls are psychotically obsessed with men's height.

So short men learn very quickly that height matters, because if you're below the cutoff in girls' minds, you will always be the guy who gets the "someday you will make some woman very happy" speech.

I don't think women realize how many guys always have to hear that speech. Guess what, those magical women you think will be so happy with these guys don't actually fucking exist.

AbdKilani · Answer

I will tell you , that most women see taller guys as better, without any reason this is a fact, many would say i won't even consider dating a guy as same as my height , others would say that they would only date guys above 6 Ft while they are 5.4" or less,
I just can't understand why, but after all this i am sure that many guys would be insecure about their height /

CubsterShura · Answer

I don't understand why a guy would even speak to a woman who wouldn't want to speak to him if he isn't tall.

It's honestly leave immediately because of the lie. I actually prefer below 6 feet tbh and if a guy was about the height that you described it would be perfect... I'd still leave cause he was basically fooling me and other girls on whatever dating site it was. Not cute.

Cusco_Othriyas · Answer

Guys are insecure about their height because many girls are very particular about the heights og their partners. If girls for the most part don't care, we won't care.

Mexicoman101 · Answer

When I tell women my height online they sometimes stop talking to me. A lot of short guys notice the ways women look at other men compared to them. Some people take to lying about it, I never have though, as then you'd just be manipulative & would actually deserve being treated as lesser.

acooke-13 · Answer

Todays society makes men feel insecure or not tall enough for women, some women have height requirements for guys there dating, maybe they just find tall guys more attractive I don't know

Storm_Soldier2377 · Answer

Because many women have height requirements that go beyond simply that the man should be taller; he should be above average height, typically above 6 feet/1.8m. I don't have much experience with this issue myself as I don't have much of an interest in dating but, so take my word with a pinch of salt as this is just what I hear on the internet. This is more than enough to make a 1.7m guy a little insecure though.

Anonymous · Answer

well because of pressure he lied. everyone has this idea on their head that the guy is supposed to be 6'0+ and the girl is supposed to be much shorter. he did lie and its not a justification but most girls want guys who are 6'0+ and it puts a lot of pressure on guys.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

Because of societal norms on how guys are portrayed as taller in the media.

I stopped growing at the age 15 (I'm 5'4"). For a good 10+ years, I wanted to be taller. Now I see it as a way to vet gals. I'm open to dating from 4'11" to about 5'7" (since I want to be able to kiss the gal at a moment's notice with a minimal of fuss).

achezc · Answer

Because a lot of women (the most) don't let short guys even have chance… men criticize fat women, the difference is that weight you do have a way to modify it and get skinny but height we don't…

Anonymous · Answer

Just look on this site, every day there's a question on height from women (it REALLY matters to them apparently), so why wouldn't we be? And, if you also look at online dating profiles, almost ALL of them have a "height requirement" mentioned. They even go so far as to say "don't message me if you aren't...(such and such a height)". If I were to put a % to it as to those who mention it and those that don't, I'd say it's 90% say "it matters".

felix_the_cat316 · Answer

Probably because shorter guys aren't looked to be as protective or strong as taller guys, thus they feel inferior and feel the need to either lie about their height or wear lifts and etc

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