If a guy still has photos of his ex, on his phone, from 10 years ago, does that mean he still loves her?

[Anonymous]

[Finchie40]

It’s disrespectful considering he is in a relationship with you , An ex is an ex for a reason , exempt them from your life , when someone holds on to an ex , it ‘s a clear sign they still have feelings for them and it’s disrespectful to their new partner , It shows they are still holding onto someone that is no longer part of their life and showing they can’t give you 100 percent , think how he would feel if you had saved pictures of your ex boyfriend? I don’t think he would be to happy about it to be honest , so the fact that he isn’t wearing your shoes like he wants you to wear his , is a clear sign he is a selfish person , that only really cares about himself , So you have every right to be upset about it , don’t let him tell you otherwise , if he can’t give you 100 percent then you do not have to give him 100 percent period , Love only grows when both partners remove selfishness for each other , if your partner can not do that for you then you can not do that for them it shows they only like the convenience of you cuz part of his heart is still holding on to his ex

[Asker]

You're right. Thank you

[Finchie40]

I dated a girl that had her exes name tatted on her ass , in the beginning it didn’t really bother me but as we got closer and more committed to each other I told her to get that tattoo removed , to me it was so disrespectful that she was holding onto a guy that apparently treated her like shit , it made me feel like I wasn’t good enough for her , I thought how would she feel if I had my exes name tatted on me? So if she truly loved me she wouldn’t of hesitated to have it removed , but she didn’t so I ended up dumping her and realized I want to be with someone that values me the same way I value them , it’s called respect for each other , when someone can’t give you respect they only like the convenience of you

[Asker]

I'm thinking the same as you. I'd never jeopardize a new relationship for the sake of an ex. I'd never want a new guy to think he wasn't priority in my life.

He once showed me photos of when he was a kid. He came to a few of him and his ex together. He said 'that's my ex'. He didn't just scroll past either. He clicked on them which a for a short while. He seemed to look at her photo in a way that he still loved her or had feelings for her. He stored them so he didn't lose them. Which tells me a lot

[Finchie40]

Yea I would of dumped her right there is she pulled that shit with me and tell her she isn’t ready to be in a relationship with somebody because you clearly aren’t over ex , so good luck to you and walk away

[Asker]

I've been reflecting on things all weekend and have made a decision to end it. I can no longer feel emotional secure with him.

[Asker]

Thank you so much fur you help. I appreciate it a lot

[Finchie40]

I don’t blame you , I been down that road before and it’s so wrong in every aspect of it , you can’t give someone 100 percent of they clearly can’t give you 100 percent , it’s not about being right or wrong it’s about respect for each other , Most people do not know how to remove selfishness for each other and that’s why so many relationships fail , because they aren’t wearing their partners shoes like they want you to wear theirs, it’s selfish behavior , I will not get into a relationship with a girl that canMt remove selfishness for me , and that can’t make me her number 1 priority , it’s a waste of time period , I want a girl that stays under the sheets with me not one that runs to the streets

[Asker]

I feel the same. I don't keep in contact with an ex, but if I did and a cuurent partner was uncomfortable with that, I'd cut ties with the ex. I'd never put an exes feelings as priority over a current partners feelings. Like you said it's about respect. There has to be mutual respect. And it's important to take each others feelings into consideration. Too many people are selfish in a relationship.

I was once in a relationship with a guy who was friends with an ex. She'd ring him when I was spending time with him. When I told him that it wasn't fair to be chatting to his ex when we were meant to be having quality time together. He told me that she was his friend and I needed to get over it and stop being so. insecure. So I ended the relationship.

[Finchie40]

I don’t blame you , I don’t
Tolerate that shit either , she can’t respect me I sure as hell won’t respect her is how I look at it

[Paul_in_Indy]

If he has intimate photos of his ex, it means he’s still horny about he. He wants to enjoy himself to them. No surprise there, right? I’m guessing he has intimate photos of Alexandra Daddario on his phone, too.

But if he just has a few pictures her, pictures of the two of them together, photos of their adventures together, that shouldn’t be worrisome. That’s his life. Those are things that happened that he enjoyed and people he was with who were important to him. Just because he’s moved on from his acts doesn’t mean he needs to blow up her memory.

[Asker]

The photos are of them together and of just her when they were together.

[Paul_in_Indy]

You can’t expect him to erase his past. she is a person who is important to his life story. You can’t just make her memory into a tool for dominating him. He’s caring for other people and his having a life before you should not make you feel insecure. You can’t control his life to that degree, and if you did it’s not likely that he would love you for it.

[JustMeL120]

I agree she can't force the guy to love her but she's doesn't have to be around a guy who doesn't lover her.

If i was you i would take it as the guys heart is with another person accept it and move on.

[Paul_in_Indy]

@JustMeL120 are you saying that this guy has to pretend that his past doesn’t exist in order to prove that he loves the girl he’s currently dating? If so, that sounds insane. What other important people from his past does he have to forget about? His siblings? His cousins? His favorite baseball coach?

If you love someone and then moved on, that’s an important part of your life. It is really unhealthy to try to chop that memory out of yourself. I would worry about the emotional health of someone who refused to mention the name of an ex or said “oh yeah I deleted all of her photos like she doesn’t even exist. “

[JustMeL120]

I dont think its possible to love two people at the same time thats my personal oppinion it might be a lpt pf rubbish bit i base it on personal experience and science as there is a small amount of science behond love. Love is a verry powerfula d strong feeling sporitualy and scientificly and if he genuinely still love this ex its understanding to have her on the phone bit on that case its not farir to start another relationship with a new person. Or at lease have the gut to warn them first that they still have feelong for someone. And have the respect to not pit the girl on the screen of there phone but maybe keep the picture somewhere else.
In the case senario where the guy isn't actualy on love with that girl and just think she looks hot on his screen baring on mind that was ten years ago and she probably looks completly different then this behaviour is beyond anything i can comment on because i am neither a psychologist or a doctor.

[Paul_in_Indy]

@JustMeL120 You can’t love more than one person? If that’s true, I am so sorry. You will have a much fuller life if you open up and let yourself love your parents, your siblings, you friends, your neighbors—not just that one person with whom you are coupled.

…but that’s not what we are talking about.

We are talking about an artificial need to FORGET or IGNORE people who were important in your life. You cannot expect a man to jettison all memory of his ex wife. She is a part of his story, a part of his past, a part of his memories. Like it or not, his ex wife is a part of who he is. It’s not healthy to try to jettison your past.

It is OK that he remembers his ex. It is OK that he cherishes the memories they had together. That is a sign that he is emotionally healthy. Don’t ask him to pretend that his past doesn’t exist.

[JustMeL120]

You right i was talking about love with a partner but yea love for simbling and family and friends is love as well true.

I kind of inclid to agree with you cuz when she said phone i thpugh she meant from cover.
At the end of the day i myself would not date someone who still had a picture of there ex on there phone but that us me everyone hsve diffetentbstandards and expectations with who they date.
If a guy had a picture of his ex on his phone i might ask him to delete them and if ge didn't do it would leave even if its a guy i really like because i would be hurt even slightly and even that slight amount of hurt us not something i am willing to take.

[Labokachulaa]

I would definitely say run, that's not a good sign. Why isn't he over his ex? That's the way that I see it. If it was a physical picture and put up somewhere, that's different.. I feel like the phone thing is super extreme.

[Nikki1989]

It means he has attachment issues. Run like hell.

[WindAtMyBack]

It doesn't mean that at all. If he has room on his phone, there is no reason to delete them. I wish I had a picture of every girl I ever dated, including any I don't remember dating.

The entire purpose of pictures is to document and remember our past. This is why when people lose everything in a house fire, pictures are something that people most regret losing. They are priceless and can never be replaced.

Our past is part of who we are. It's not just part, it's entirely who we are. Remove any part of someone's past, and they are not even the same person.

[malwins]

Exactly

[misogynistic_pig]

You cannot speak for everyone, as each individual has their own opinions and beliefs.

However, it is important to remember that each person is unique and experiences love and relationships differently.

Keeping photos of an ex on your phone doesn't necessarily mean that someone still loves them or has romantic feelings for them.

It could simply be a way to remember an important moment in her life or a sentimental memory.

In any case, if someone still feels love or attachment towards their former partner, it is important that they take time to heal and move on from the relationship before starting a new relationship.

In general, men tend to focus on their own lives and personal goals, instead of focusing on romantic relationships with women.

[CreatingWonders]

Not really sure if he still loves her but it is weird, when I parted ways with the toxic ex I deleted all photos and threw everything away they bought me as I didn’t want to be reminded of it.


If you’re not comfortable with it you could talk to him about it, and ask him why he’s still got these photos.

[Rockstarrrrr]

There's a chance... Maybe they've ended on good terms so, he's just saving the memories.. Or maybe she was the one who left and he still loves her and reminiscing...

[Asker]

She cheated on him and left him for someone else. So it was a mutual breakup

[Rockstarrrrr]

So he is reminiscing... Seems like he's not totally over her... Which is never a good sign...

[petitedollbabee]

Depends on the photos. If they’re intimate/sexual photos, yes. If they’re just normal or nice photos, then no, he might just cherish his memories with that ex, which doesn’t equal still being in love with them.

[integrale77]

I have loads of random photos from over 20 years ago on my phone some will have my ex wife in them it's just I don't clear my phone out then when I get my upgrade I just run a data transfer so still have them

[RockyHammock]

When you say photos of his ex, what kind of photos? If they're nudes then that's an issue.

If they're group photos or couple photos, then what's the problem? It's not like seeing a photo on your timeline is going to cause them to file for a divorce. Plus that was 10 years ago, both people are wildly different from how they both remember eachother. Aka you got nothing to worry/be insecure about

[Wise4myage]

Yes, maybe. Have you asked him? Unless he's in touch with her, then I don't think you have anything to worry about.

[Asker]

I once asked him if he said he still had feelings for her and he said no. But his expression and the way he said no made me think he dud still have feelings for her.

He randomly showed me a photo of her when he was showing me photos of himself as a kid. Which made me think he definitely still loves her

[Asker]

Did*

[Asker]

He said he's friends eith an ex but not sure if the ex is the one in the photo or not

[DermalPunch]

Possibly. It could be he has trouble letting go of the past or he doesn't attach much value to them and it's just a photo. I don't have any photos of exes.

[ilikesnow]

i think it means he's either not bothered to delete it or it means he misses the memories they had together.

[Fanfare690]

I don't know that's hard to say. Maybe it's a trauma bond or wound he's yet to heal from

[Hotboy_booblover]

Nice term

[WhitneySnow]

That’s a long time to keep photos of your ex. Definite red flag.

[DizzyDesii]

I have pics of ny ex in an album on my old phone. I probably go through that once every 5 years. Usually to show someone who im talking noise about lmao. Definitely not still in love

[MrCommodore]

Strange that he has the same phone for 10+ years, I can't get 5 years out of mine. What brand, make, model is it?

[Asker]

It's what he had saved on his laptop and uploaded onto his phone. He has them stored on FB too so he never loses them , so he said

[goaded]

Not necessarily, it could be just that he wants to remember her.

[Christoff92]

I got to say yes. Because depends if she moved across the country or even overseas. Which can be a Big facts about that.

[Bethany22]

Probably not, it just means he doesn't like getting rid of stuff for no reason, just in case he needs the picture again

[fredaarhin]

I don't think so since you're the one his is with and not the ex. And maybe he just doesn't want to forget the nice things about her

[BrookeS]

No it means you think them hot or you dont clean the photos at of your phone that often

[Anonymous]

Is she hot?
Could be a trophy.

[Asker]

She's pretty

[JustMeL120]

She was pretty that was ten years ago she might look completely different now