What the logic behind these too guys if they are doing the opposite of what society tells us about the good and bad guy?

[Anonymous]

both are very attractive:
The guy who wanted a formal relationship with me stopped talking to me after I asked him to just be friends but still watches my stories.
•He did called me or talk to me everyday, • But He replied late even if he was online, •He criticize ugly women, he started treating me like a girlfriend, he acts like a pretty boy who’s way too good for women, I feel like his a little bit immature and cocky about beauty, he’s more cold etc..

The playBoy who started the convo with se**** insinuations replies fast every single time, tells me about his day, gives me advice, sends me pictures of what he’s doing, work, he helps me when I need to know something or what he accomplished in his life he engages with me in social media but doesn’t care much about asking about my life

[Adam1978]

The first is a normal guy. Saying you want to be friends is a rejection, when he wants a relationship. He is behaving like the society says. So you must be poisoned by the feminism view of society that doesn't exist. Men are supposed to be busy and can't answer all the time. And if you want this guy to commit you actually have to do your work to convince him that you are worth it. All steps aren't just the guys job, that is dumb feminism thinking. That what keeps these girl from keeping a man, if they even can get that far. The second is as you say a player who isn't interested in you as a person just for some fun with what you got between your legs.

[Asker]

Lol. I work every day no day off 70-80 per week. He has weekends off and works less than me. I was married for 8 years with a good man and helped each other but now we are in different paths. I’m not a feminists. I actually hate that or don’t care at all. I wake up every morning thinking about a better future without labels. If you are busy I wouldn’t mind but he’s online watches my stories first goes off then he’s online and replies late. or sometimes tells me he’s going to sleep but still online. I’m not interested in the playboy I just put him there because I really like the first one but he’s very cocky

[Adam1978]

Online status doesn't say anything on what he is doing. Only that the app is running in the background. You should stop trusting the online status of people because it give you a false view of what is actually happening on their end. He might be lazy and have you in a browser tab. So everytime he use the browser you think he is watching your page but in reality he doesn't.

[Jdjfjcjj]

So first guy did good saying no to friendship but then looks silly still calling you and second guy read a article talking abouy bad guys VS nice guys but after the introduction, he reverted back to his typical self and revealed it was a front

[Jdjfjcjj]

Does either sound all that attractive now?

[Asker]

I’m aware the playboy is not for me but more like a friend because he’s colder and understands his mission. The other guy I’m falling in love and hurts but he’s way too narcissistic and humble at the same time that’s why I stay back

[Jdjfjcjj]

I'm ill just say I think you'll come to find that you start to feel like you can do better then being with him. It may not sound important but women should be the ones who are pushing for commitment not men. It's clearly shows he likes you more than you like him and logically thus on its own should prove my point but I'll add that I've rarely seen a lasting relationship where the man shows more interest for a relationship than the woman.

[Anonymous]

One is arrogant jerk.

The other is a fuckboy who will certainly use you, cum in your face and dump you like yesterday's garbage.

Suggest you seek option 3.

[Zayed_]

Why not ignore both and find someone else!