I met a guy on Facebook and we become very close. He gave me the comfort, warmth and care. For once in my life I felt I have a big brother. We spoke on phone almost thrice daily. Till he started acting distanced so I decided to give him some space thinking he probably met someone he loves. After a week, he was so cold towards me. He wouldn't reply my messages. From the look of things I might have done something I had no idea. I thought firstly, because I never wished him on his birthday instead I rather posted couple of my male friends on my WhatsApp status. Secondly, maybe he was pissed of because I still call him bro. Or probably he is in a romantic relationship now. I knew we spent quality time together and at a point we have been too romantic to each other and he hated the idea of me calling him brother. I perfectly made my intentions clear that he was my brother. He insulted me and called me childish and immature the last time I attempted to get his attention.
Guys please help me was I wrong in anyway cos his silence is hurting me.
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No. You were not wrong in any way. None of the reasons you're wondering about are the actual reasons he acting like this (for sure).
I cannot tell you why exactly he changed. But he certainly DID get something or other into his head which led to this change (He THINKS you did something wrong. But it's most likely simply HIS misinterpreting something incorrectly and making a false assumption).
There is only one solution to this. You need to confront him about the fact that things have changed, ask him to talk to you about that... and feel-him-out to see where he's coming from. But it's not just "a change" because he got into a relationship or something. This guy is upset about something. He feels like you've wronged him in some way. But only he knows. (and you can't even guess because it's something stupid you'll never ever think of. Because you didn't mean whatever he think you meant by it anyway!)
You need to let him know that his silence is hurting you. You have a right to an explanation. You need to point that out to him, and ask him to just level-with-you about why he's suddenly acting so differently towards you. That's a very reasonable thing to expect. AN answer.
From there, you can clear the air. Because... you didn't do anything actually wrong (in all likelihood). He just BELIEVES you did something wrong (because he misinterpreted or misunderstood something).
Get him to talk about it, and it's an easy fix. It's essentially nothing more than a misunderstanding. But only he can tell you why he's upset. You need to talk to him.
He still keeps my contact but he wasn't replying my messages. The last time I confronted him, I got insults. So I gave up on him. Unfriended him on Facebook but he still have my contact cos I always see his status on Whatsapp. It's been two months now. I have give up on him. I will just let him go and delete his number. He was a wonderful person.
I am honestly really sorry to hear that. I think you are absolutely right to give up. But I am sorry, he is not as wonderful as you think. No decent person would treat you like that. Even if they were really mad about something. There is no excuse for his having treated you like this.
I have had the honor to have had two different "little sisters," who were not blood-related at two points in my life.
There is nothing they could have ever done to make me treat them like this. This is wrong.
I am really sorry for your loss. I think it is only fair to yourself to close the book on this, and to move on. He has left you no choice. That's not right. This guy really shirked his duty. There's no excuse for that.