Do you guys think he was only using me to forget about someone?

[Anonymous]

He started treating like a girlfriend after 3 months and confessed “his love for me”. I mean he was going slow and then after 3 months suddenly became fast.

Then when I asked him to just be friends (because he had some red flags and I needed to protect myself) he stopped talking to me.
I had to blocked him because he was cold and I was starting to like him and his attitude hurt me. I was not playing games. I had a successful relationship for 8 years

[SteveSmith1985]

Well nothing about what you wrote here, suggests that he was only using you to forget about someone else. I'm not saying that he wasn't doing that. I'm just saying that there is zero indication of that in what you wrote here.

What you say is not... unusual. It makes perfect sense.

You like a guy, he confesses his "love to you"... you guys are seeing each other for a few months. You tell him you just want to be friends. And he stopped talking to you. That's... pretty normal. Or at least it's very usual.

You dumped the guy. He wasn't actually looking to just be friends, nor did he really think you wanted to either. If you tell someone you're dating that you just want to be friends... that means you're dumping them. If you genuinely want to be friends... you need to make that super-duper-clear when you dump a guy. And many guys will decline that offer of friendship anyway. He sees you romantically. He wants you romantically. If you no longer want to see him romantically, it makes perfect sense that he'd be hurt and act cold.
What did you expect?

[Anonymous]

As much as you were using him.