Guys, do you notice when women (or guy friends) gaze at you with amazement due to your unique traits, or should they voice their admiration aloud?

[Bethany22]

If receiving admiration from people is important to you, do you prefer it if people, such as women, overtly express their admiration of your unique traits verbally, or do you notice when women simply look at you with pleased amazement and approval in their eyes? For example, when you're telling a story that demonstrates your strong adherence to schedules and routines, how best should women react to those stories in order to demonstrate their admiration? Is amazed eye contact enough to give you fuel, or is that too subtle?

[MrOracle]

Guys don't do subtle. We don't read subtext. Our brains just don't work that way. (Yes, there are a FEW exceptions to this - men who are more social that most women - but that's the rare exception).

If you want to express something to a man, you need to be direct and clear. If it's bad, you can still tell us directly - just don't be needlessly mean about it, and we'll be fine, even if we don't really like hearing a harsh truth. We're used to being told things directly, because that's how men talk to other men, and that's how our bosses, coaches, teachers, and parents have always talked to us.

Obviously, if you have a big shocked face, we can usually interpret that correctly, but "impressed face" is more easy to miss or misinterpret, so saying SOMETHING is usually the better way to go, even if it's simple.

"Nice!"

or

"Impressive!"

or

"Damn!"

That's enough to get your point across, and there isn't likely to be any miscommunication that way.

[Lliam]

Admiration or appreciation is one thing. But amazement is a whole other level.
Peope's facial expressions are obvious. They don't have to say "Oh my God!" or "That was amazing!" or find other words to express it.

Yeah, it makes me feel great and inspires me.

The only time people have ever expressed actual amazement toward me were 1) when I did something particularly athletic, 2) when I was in garage bands from about age 17 through my 20s and 3) a few times when having sex with girls.

When I was in bands, there were times when I played leads on my guitar that made people act truly amazed. When that happened, it inspired me to think "Oh you think THAT was something?" and I would wind up improvising things that even I didn't know I could do.

[Lliam]

Thanks for the MHO, Bethany.

[StormChaser838]

I really am not the best person to answer this question, when a women has the hots for you, you can do no wrong in her eyes, and you get a whole lot of patronizing. To me I really like that one rear women who has the balls to tell me what a piece of shit I am and all my faults. If I feel they are an informed and unbiased opinion, to me, I just get mega turned on. I am a very anti-authoritative kind of person, and even though I am very self-deprecating, always making fun of myself, my very presence, I don't know how, but it is very intimidating and I land up dominating people. However, when I see the kind of woman of the above rare type, I just feel I have to submit to her, it's just the true order of things to me. I guess I've been a little too intense here, but I guess I cannot help it.

[TalynMere]

The problem for me is getting a sense of the depth and type of the admiration.

Some people blow the tiniest thing up into something huge and it makes me uncomfortable, and other times the little nod from someone I respect or admire can hit me way harder than a million people cheering about whatever.

It can be hard to be upfront with your feelings, but I do think it's better for mature relationships, at least until you get to that unconscious/subconscious understanding of each other.

[TalynMere]

Most of the time I just shut the whole concept down and try to go about my day. It's not that I *want* admiration, I am extremely sensitive about it being legit admiration.

Something real and small is intense, something fake and overdoing it is just embarrassing for everyone.

If someone is genuinely impressed with something, it's nice to hear about, but if it's just "hey that was a cool thing you did", in my head I'm just going to go "oh they liked it, neat. Welp, I gotta go now."

[asphaltrhymes]

I've noticed when some women are checking me out versus just crossing my gaze as I walk past or they enter my field of vision or cross my path.

So I do notice. I just wish they'd actually say hi, instead of just walking on or saying nothing about what they're clearly think hahaha lol about me 😋😋😋😋 mmmm 👿😈🤤☮️

[RealMarek]

I’ve never had a woman react in amazement to my strong adherence to schedules and routines, even though I have at times adhered to rigorous routines.

[PointTaken]

I don't notice. But maybe it would be good to voice it. Lately I keep getting told I'm the best at my job. One night shift is trying to get me to switch to their shift, the other one says "hell no."

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't know that that's ever happened except for people noticing how tall I am.

[Wwwyzzerdd]

Women do this thing where they think men are mind readers then complain they never get approached.

[clampfan101]

I’m not looking for admiration, but wouldn’t mind having it. I’ve never noticed it before, though.

[ColHathi]

That'd be too subtle for me. I'd never know.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

As far as I've noticed, no one has done that my whole life, lol.

[Autumn_Dancer]

yes, who dont like admiration. but only keep this with you and the front person.

[Jamie05rhs]

I always prefer verbal communication.

[Anonymous]

Most dont catch on

[asphaltrhymes]

Are women ever or yourself shy to extend beyond subtle cues (gazing slightly longer than a stranger, smiling but genuinely smiley, hmm. ) I'm fine being single but a handful or more times, I have noticed some women really looking at me 🧐🧐☺️

[asphaltrhymes]

As in, "really" versus "looking at any other stranger." Lol 😎😋

[asphaltrhymes]

So we guys sometimes, notice... and we walk on...👀🙂😜

[Jennz6]

Sometimes

[Debbie14217]

i like both