What do you think his intentions are,?

[Anonymous]

Okay so I have a rare syndrome called Russell Silver syndrome that makes my bones a failure to thrive, so im 4.8-petite, and guys my age has never liked me cuz of that, I met this dude at my work he's a door dasher, and he said he just turned 30, I just turned 18 in 11/16, he asked me out one time, and I told him I can't without a reason why, but I said it in the meanest way not trying to, but I realized what I did after he left, so I felt guilty the whole time, so the second time I saw him I explained I can’t because I still live with my parents and it’s not a good time, okay so then the third interaction with him, he told me he appreciates me telling the truth, and that we can still go out and you don’t have to tell anyone, maybe you can move in with me and I’ll take care of you,
I kind of felt weirded out but I didn’t put much thought into it, but I told him that won't be an option and Im not ready, but we could get to know each other through social media and get to know each other, one time he asked when I was on break do you wanna hang out and I said yea, and we hung out in his car but I make sure he didn’t have child-lock on, also left the passenger door cracked, we were talking about our jobs, I told him I hate my job, also the situation Im living in, he made a joke and said I could kidnap you, my ex-wife and I can take care of you. I laughed because I didn’t know what to say, when I had to leave he asked for a kiss I said sure, one time I jokingly told my mom and aunt that a 30-year-old cute DoorDasher asked me out, and they told me he was tryina groom you and you should stay away, the word got around my family and I told them I don’t have contact or talk to him.
When I’m sneaking around with him, having parking lot dates, and hanging with him on my breaks at work because I know my parents won’t let me, also because he’s kinda the first guy that should be interested, what do you guys think about this him?

[GreekLorrd]

Based on the information provided, it's hard to know for sure what his intentions are. However, some of his comments and actions do raise some red flags.

Firstly, the fact that he is 30 and interested in an 18-year-old who is still living with her parents is concerning. It's important to question why someone his age would be interested in someone who is so much younger and potentially vulnerable.

Additionally, his comment about kidnapping you and his suggestion that you move in with him so he can take care of you could be seen as manipulative and controlling. It's important to trust your gut instincts and be cautious about any behavior that makes you feel uncomfortable or unsafe.

It's understandable that you may feel flattered by his attention, especially if you haven't had much romantic interest from guys your own age due to your condition. However, it's important to prioritize your own safety and well-being above anything else. You deserve to be with someone who respects and cares for you, regardless of your physical appearance or medical condition.

[Berethor]

Grooming? well you are 18 so technically it nothing illegal, but yea he 12 years older than you and he was married, it's looks like he like small girls, both size-wise and age-wise.

[Anonymous]

I don’t like it at all. People are right, this is grooming and you shouldn’t have to sneak around to be with him anyway. That’s how you isolate yourself. Being 4’8 doesn’t make you unlovable or some grotesque thing, you just haven’t found the right person, so don’t settle for this dude you know is all wrong for you to date.

[Opinion Owner]

Also he’s admitted to still living with his ex wife that’s a big red flag. You can do better.

[Asker]

Yeah, I know but at the same time it's harder for me to say no, to things like that idrkw,

[Asker]

Also he said his Ex wife has a disability, so her parents Signed over care taker to him, when they got married so she physically can’t leave because of that will,
But I also have a disability so I just realized why said he said he’ll take care of me if he I move in with him😫

[Opinion Owner]

Well if you don’t have good luck with men and you’re self esteem is low then of course you’d wanna dive right in when finally you have a man giving you attention. Plus you aren’t happy with your life right now and feel like he’s the key to escape. But you do NOT wanna be codependent of a man, not to take care of you emotionally, financially, nothing. Trust me he will take advantage of your vulnerability and how you rely on him, treat you like shit then justify it by saying you can’t do anything without him, just like his ex wife who’s stuck with him. That’s a horrible life to sign up for, being another disabled person for him to rule over. You can do better for yourself, look for a job that pays more, move out, etc. It will take time but at least you worked for what you have and no one can take it from you or hold it over your head.

[RockyHammock]

You need to figure out whether you like him or the idea of having your first boyfriend. I believe he's trying to progress the relationship, does it feel rushed to you?

[Asker]

It kind of did, when he asked if I wanted to move in with him because he'll take care of me, but I told him I don't feel like its the right time, and I don't wanna move too fast, and also first question I just don't really know tbh

[RockyHammock]

It's just food for thought, the first girlfriend I had - I looked past all the red flags and realized only years later how bad the relationship was for me. I was in love with the idea of a girlfriend rather than who she actually was.

[spartan55]

Does he know what YOUR intentions are?

[Asker]

I do not really know, I never thought about that, or think to ask I guess I could and go from there

[spartan55]

I mean, if you are going to ask him what his intentions are then why can't you tell him yours? Fair is fair right?

[In_Trance]

Wants to smash

[Asker]

We already did that, 😅

[In_Trance]

Well, that's all he wants