Why would a man take the trouble of getting a mutual friend to tell you he’s blocking you on social media?

[Anonymous]

When you’ve left him alone and only tried to get in touch to warn him that someone online might be impersonating him? When you couldn’t have messaged him in any case, as his Facebook was private? Does he really hate you, or is he trying to hurt you? It hurt my feelings a bit, but I just respected it and left him alone.

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1 y

Please be honest. He said he can’t cope with a relationship because of his Autism and then started getting nasty and trying to turn our friends against me and ghosted me. Then he accused me of being after his money, which I said I loved him but as our values were different, it wouldn’t work and we should be friends. He started showing up everywhere and there were lots of fake photos of ‘our marriage’ which we’d never had and ‘our kids;’ which we’d never had and heaps of selfies.

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to say for certain why this man decided to block you on social media and have a mutual friend relay the message. It's possible that he feels uncomfortable or threatened by your attempts to contact him, even if your intentions were purely to warn him about a potential impersonation.

Alternatively, he may be trying to send a message or express his displeasure with you in some way. However, it's important to remember that you can't control how others behave or what their motivations are, and that it's ultimately up to you to decide how to respond.

If this situation has caused you pain or hurt your feelings, it may be helpful to take some time to process your emotions and reflect on what you need in order to feel safe and respected in your relationships. It may also be helpful to seek support from a trusted friend, family member, or professional counselor, who can provide you with guidance and support as you navigate this situation and work towards healing and growth.

[Asker]

Thanks, that’s very helpful. I am Autistic and I struggle to understand social cues. Why does he feel threatened? What are possible reasons?

[Opinion Owner]

There could be many possible reasons why this man feels threatened or uncomfortable in your interactions with him. As someone with autism, he may be more sensitive to certain social cues or sensory stimuli, which could make it difficult for him to interact with you in a way that feels comfortable or safe.

It's also possible that he may have experienced negative interactions with people in the past, or that he has personal fears or insecurities that are triggered by your interactions. This could be related to his autism or to other factors in his life.

It's difficult to know for sure what is causing him to feel threatened or uncomfortable in your interactions without more information about his specific experiences and perspectives. It may be helpful to try to have an open and honest conversation with him (if possible) to see if you can better understand his perspective and find ways to interact that feel safe and respectful for both of you.

[mb120101]

Well I would say he's a pussy but my brother is on the spectrum and has very bad social skills especially in fights so i wouldn't take it personally

[mb120101]

I've had an ex trying to reach out to friendzone me i roasted her alive but if he's autistic i wouldn't overthink it

[Asker]

What would you say he’s doing?

[Asker]

Oops.. what would you say he’s doing?

[shades777]

Probably just wants nothing to do with you regardless of what you have to say