What’s the point?

[Anonymous]

so my ex boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. and he told me to stop texting him and for me to move on. so i have been doing that. i have left him alone and 2 days ago he hearted a post that i put up on facebook. i let that go didn’t text him asking why. mind you. he took me off on facebook. so he has been looking at my page to see what i post. so Friday i posted a picture with a song and he replied to my story and this is what he said. i will be posting a picture. so i need to know what he meant by it. and why is he looking at my social media for.

[Rosexøxø]

For starter’s, he’s trying to play with your emotions.

I wanted to say trying to make you feel ugly or insecure, but he could very well still be calling you beautiful.

I think the for sure play on emotions, is to get you out of your zone of ‘natural thinking,’ and obviously follow his flow.

He said don’t worry, not your looks- maybe not to make you insecure, but to say indirectly he still thinks you’re beautiful, but he is just hurt (cue the personality addition of his reply), that you had (supposedly) done something “wrong,” which hurt him in the relationship.

I’m getting a really clear vibe he was “hurt,” and felt you didn’t care or maybe talked to other guys which made him more insecure or so, so he said “leave” in hopes you’d try to “fix” things and stay, but when you didn’t, he followed that up with checking on you and still trying his best to get any reaction with (probably his last attempts, if he is not obsessed or in love).

He could be in love or have been rather, but I think it’s mostly him having been, and dealing with insecurities. He wants someone to prove their love for him so he can feel he has worth.

He just was so caught up in that, that he couldn’t treat you as an equal member and love you and bond with you. 💯💕

I would seriously consider blocking him for those reasons, unless you don’t care that he’s insecure and really

only cares for himself, and just want a sexual relationship with him.

He just seems childish and like a kid? So I wouldn’t even stress over bothering with him.

If he loved you I don’t think he would have said that about “wait until they see your personality.”

I don't know the context either, maybe he has a point? Or a point when it was specifically you TWO together, in a relationship, but I really think it’s just him being highly sensitive and insecure.

He’s trying to get reactions and affections out of you- and this: manipulation, isn’t the way to get what he feels that he needs. It isn’t right to you, and not healthy for him.

Best to you sis, absolutely live it up!

[Asker]

reading your respond had me in tears.

[Rosexøxø]

Yeah his message has “grudge” written all over it and that’s just not how you treat someone you care about.

He needs to mature and he’ll do that best with non-sexual/non-romantic relationships and instead with friends or mentors

And you will be better off with someone more mature or at the very least more respectful to you, even if he does get hurt a few times and you may also (because sometimes we just do so unintentionally).

Nothing to feel guilty over. Life and love are learning processes. You have plenty of time to get right and get things right with the right person. 💞💯🫶💖

[Rosexøxø]

I apologize if I had offended you at all in sharing this response 🙏

[Asker]

of course you didn’t offend me. girl everything you said just touch my heart. i shouldn’t be treated like this. but the love i have for this guy. it’s 2 years of memories and love that i just can’t let go just yet. and i know i should be treated better. and not let him do this to me.

[Rosexøxø]

Yes! 🙌 I can relate, I’ve had those ‘aha’ moments and I definitely feel for you sis. Treat yourself, make sure you have some way of keeping track of the signs like this one, so it doesn’t even happen again.

And live it up. The plus is that you DO notice it now, and you already seemed to have been picking up on it, when you started to question his behavior.

Crossed fingers for you and wishing for the best 🤞

(And I don’t really say thanks for the Mho, but tysm in this case, because I know it actually meant something and proved to be useful. Thank you 🙏).

[Asker]

All of this sucks. i’m just still trying to understand what he meant by saying my vague quote hiding my personality.

[Rosexøxø]

That’s exactly what he wants you to do and feel. I wouldn’t break your head over it sis :\\

If you want you can humor him and ask. Just have your guard up.

Filter things if you walk into it with an open mind.

Write notes beforehand if you need so you don’t just follow his train of thought :\\

Don’t be so imprint-able

🤲🙁

[Anonymous]

Block him. He is basically putting you down.

[Rosexøxø]

True

[dudeinohio]

Best for you to block him.. you need to eliminate any means of communication.

[Rosexøxø]

Wise advice