Should I call go to my guy's friend, just to reach out to him? He ghosted me recently, but I can't move on from that?

[bubbletealover5551]

A guy ghosted me. I don't know how to react to that. Do I ignore it, or reach out?

[kylee2437]

Ignore it. Him not being able to communicate is not your fault and you shouldn’t act like you are the problem when he can’t communicate out why he doesn’t want to be friends with you.

[bubbletealover5551]

But, the thing is, I can't ignore it. That's just not how my brain works. How am I even supposed to do that, when my mind's not wired to do that?

[bubbletealover5551]

I keep thinking about it, and it comes across my mind often.

[kylee2437]

It’s normal that you feel like you can’t ignore it, because you are hurt by it. The reality of it is, if he cared to reach out, he would. What happens if you reach out and he ignores you again?

[bubbletealover5551]

Yeah, and being ghosted never is painful. Then, I would be depressed. But it won't always feel that way, if he ignores me again. Right?

[kylee2437]

Most likely, it will also lengthen the process of getting over the fact that he ghosted

[bubbletealover5551]

Yes, but i might feel depressed, wouldn't I? That wouldn't good?

[bubbletealover5551]

But he doesn't even know i was hurt, it'd benefit both us in someway, if I reach out

[Anonymous]

Ignore it. If a man did this it would be considered stalking. He obviously has his reasons which he isn’t obligated to tell you. Besides you’re not even a his girlfriend, just a friend. Move on.

[bubbletealover5551]

I can't move on, I was really hurt by his behavior, and he doesn't even know it. I feel like it'd benefit him if I reach out to him and for me as well. I mean, I moved on already, but I'd never, ever forgive him for doing that, even if he'd apologized either in person or online, I think I'd never forgive him. What if we bump into each other in the future, and he says sorry, but it's from his heart? What should I do then? Forgive him, walk past him, you get the point

[Opinion Owner]

You co to use w life. I understand you’re very young but things aren’t always going to turn out the way you want them to. You have to find a way to move on w life. Things like this could keep you from progressing, not just in a relationship but life in general.

[bubbletealover5551]

yeah, i know that now. I don't care about him nor bother with him, as he's not a true friend. If he's a real friend, he'd tell me before disappearing for, like, one year or so.

[Opinion Owner]

Then he probably isn’t a true friend. I don’t know. I don’t know his state of mind. But you need to continue w life, life isn’t going to wait for you to sort out your feelings.

[bubbletealover5551]

good points all around
i don't want to waste my time on people who waste my time and are immature.

[Opinion Owner]

As you go through life, you’ll realize a lot of things you’re concerned about now that we’re so dramatic in your life, you’ll realize how stupid it was.

[bubbletealover5551]

true, i will, eventually

[Opinion Owner]

Well I hope you have a good day

[bubbletealover5551]

thank you, you as well :)

[bubbletealover5551]

sry for the late reply, i noticed the time you replied by was a few hours ago

[Opinion Owner]

It’s fine, not a big problem

[spartan55]

You shouldn't.