He broke up with me because we have different life goals. How likely is he will regret his choice and come back?

[Anonymous]

If that’s the only reason we could possibly work it out..

[Simslover92]

If he can't work it out with you over different life goals then that means he's probably not for you hun. I also would go as far as saying that that may not be the real reason he broke it off with you. He may have used that as an excuse. It just doesn't seem like a good reason to break up with someone because you can always work out different life goals if you really want that person.

[Asker]

I told him I want to move abroad after like 10 years… (I was hoping we could move together abroad one day)
I also told him I want to maybe studie more and get better job. He on the other hand seemed like he wants children soon and big family.

[Simslover92]

Ok I see the dilemma. I'm sorry that is a big difference in life goals. It would be hard to compromise in that situation. But like I said before that means he's just not for you.

[Asker]

In whay way they’re too different?

[Simslover92]

Well you want to move abroad and study and get a better job and he wants a big family and children soon. That doesn't seem to align at all to me.

[Asker]

I wanted to move abroad like after 10 years. I could study in my local university. There are moms that continue their studies and work.!

[Simslover92]

Maybe he just thought it was too much.

[Asker]

What are the chances that he will miss me and come back..

[Simslover92]

I'm not sure if he will to be honest. I hope he will if that's what you want but it's definitely not certain. You may need to just move on.

[Anarcamus]

Doubtful...

You don't have matching life aims...

[Anonymous]

Honestly that’s a lame excuse. Life goals can be worked out, unless his is something extreme compared to yours I don’t see how he can have goals as well as your goals working together to achieve even bigger goals together. Sounds like it was just a lame excuse to get out of this relationship. Maybe he was interested in someone else prettier or younger. Either way it’s a lame excuse.

[Asker]

I told him I want to move abroad in 10 years…

[Asker]

I also told him I want to maybe studie more and get better job. He on the other hand seemed like he wants children soon and big family.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok so I get that. Chances are he won’t regret his choice or come back.

[Asker]

So you think he had a valid point?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes I do. If that is legitimately his reason for breaking up.

[Asker]

How are my goals clashing with us having big family though?

[Opinion Owner]

Well for one, which I think is the most important one is you wanting to move abroad. Maybe he wants to live there so his family can see the kids, so he can visit his parents. Wouldn’t you want the same? I mean if you moved abroad how often would your family see your kids?

[Asker]

But he didn’t want to discuss about it and see if I’ll change my mind..

[Opinion Owner]

How long have you two been together?

[Asker]

We were talking for 2 months

[Opinion Owner]

Oh hell you made it sound as though you two were together for a few years or something. At 2 months I’m not even really sure of my feelings for a girl other than dating, sex, hanging out. Definitely don’t know if I love her. I was about to say before I asked it doesn’t sound like he was that much into you. If he was he would have talked to you more, tried to convince you at least to stay where you’re at now or at least in whatever country you’re in to have a family. Do you have kids? Ever been married?

[Asker]

Nope, i don’t have kids and I’ve never been married

[Asker]

I don't know, maybe it’s possible that comes back after thinking about this more

[Opinion Owner]

So why never married or had kids at your age? To me that is a red flag. It does make me wonder if he wants someone younger, most men who want a family tend to go after younger women. Plus you made your chances of being w him even less by not wanting the same as far as a big family.

[Asker]

I’m 28 so I’m not old

[Asker]

My age didn’t bother him otherwise why would he ask me out

[Opinion Owner]

Technically no you’re not old but in terms of where women are most fertile to bear children you’re nearing that line. I believe the age range where most men look for women for children may be from 22-24, I may be off a few numbers. Maybe he asked you out before he really knew how old you are. Besides that has little to do w it if I’m asking a girl out who I have no intentions of having children w. There’s a lot of older women who I’d ask out well I to their 40’s, but not w the intentions of having children. Maybe a relationship that last a while, even for life or something purely sexual. If you’re 28 why are you categorizing yourself as 30-35? That kind of raised my spidey senses some lol

[Asker]

He did knew my age. I told him

[Opinion Owner]

So if he’s being honest than it has to do w you not wanting the same thing as him. That’s all there is to it. I don’t think he will regret it or some back. Two months isn’t a lot time to bond emotionally, at least not for most men to the point that he’s think about you all the time.

[Adam1978]

Not at all, a life goal is a life goal, you don't sacrifice it for something so replaceable as a woman. Plenty of them to choose between and rarely anything rare about them these days.

[Asker]

I told him I want to move abroad in 10 years… (I was hoping we could move together abroad one day)
I also told him I want to maybe studie more and get better job. He on the other hand seemed like he wants children soon and big family.

[Adam1978]

Well it's your lifegoal that stands in the way not his. He just wants a traditional life not hunt for opportunities and dreams that might not be fulfilled.

[Asker]

But he didn’t want to discuss about it and see if I’ll change my mind..

[Adam1978]

Why in the heck should he do that, if you wanted him more than this life goal. You wouldn't have the argument. It's you that wants to leave not him. So you are the conflict and you need to stop being it. It's a you job not a him thing.

[Asker]

It wasn’t argument. We were discussing about our life goals. Then later he said our life goals don’t align and that’s why there’s no point for us to continue

[Adam1978]

He is right, why waste time on something that can't fit together. A family man don't want to move away from family. And you shouldn't need to manipulate people to stay, because that would be held against him in every argument in the future. Better to find a traditional woman that wants what he wants.

[Asker]

So I’m not traditional in your opinion?

[Asker]

He also asked me if I would work if I have children. I told him when they’re small no but after they’re more older yes

[Adam1978]

No since you don't value family and want to run out on an adventure. That's not traditional. Going abroad is seeking adventure or better life. Something that single men did to earn a name and status. Before they could settle. Not something women does, they pick the men that made it back.

[Asker]

I meant if we’ve moved together. Not just me alone

[FilmGuy93]

Different life goals is a HUGE thing...

[boggboss]

If your h
Goals don't line up how can u work on that lol

[Asker]

I could make compromise..

[Asker]

I told him I want to move abroad in 10 years… (I was hoping we could move together abroad one day)

[Asker]

I also told him I want to maybe studie more and get better job. He on the other hand seemed like he wants children soon and big family.

[boggboss]

What compromise can come from that they are completely two different lifestyles with u wanting to travel and him not

[boggboss]

He wants to settle down and u want adventure

[Asker]

I said I want to move to abroad (live in abroad) we could move together and settle down there

[Asker]

How are my goals clashing with us having big family though?

[boggboss]

Because he dont sound like he wants to move and it sounds more so like u want ro expirance the world where he wants to start settling down now

[Asker]

I told him that maybe it’s just a dream that isn’t necessarily going to happen

[boggboss]

But by stating that's what u want that means u would invest towards that if that's somthing he absolutely don't want them that's not something that can be fixed with compromise it has to be one of u just giving up on somthing they want

[Asker]

Tbh I would’ ve give up on it. It wasn’t that something that was very important to me

[boggboss]

If it wasn't vary important u wouldn't have needed to bring it up people dont just say things for the sake of it especially if it's somthing your partner don't want out of life

[boggboss]

Either way hoping hebtegretsvhis choice and comes back will just show him u are willing to let him leave and always be avaliable to him

[Asker]

He should really aplogize

[Asker]

If he want another chance

[boggboss]

Lol so u want hi. To come back but then think he should beg lol

[boggboss]

I think you are day dreaming mate

[YourExLover69]

That's a lame excuse if he did that 😔
But Move on.

[Asker]

Why do you think it was lame excuse?

[Asker]

I told him I want to move abroad in 10 years…

[Asker]

I also told him I want to maybe studie more and get better job. He on the other hand seemed like he wants children soon and big family.

[YourExLover69]

He broke up with you when you told him that you want to move abroad. That's lame on his side

[Asker]

I wanted as to move abroad together and said like after 10 years not now

[YourExLover69]

Where you both from 🤔

[Asker]

Why are you asking lol?

[YourExLover69]

Wondering and getting some idea. Lol

[Asker]

We’re pakistanis that live in uk

[YourExLover69]

Acha 😏 to aap wapis Pakistan Jana Chahtay ho ya USA. 🤔

[poetic_pisces]

Dont even think about getting him back

think about yourself

[es20490446e]

I never date anyone who doesn't see it continuing.

[Asker]

Well obviously in those instances it doesn’t continue so it’s hard to date that person

[es20490446e]

They could still want to hang out for other reasons, but show no romantic interest with their actions.

[Asker]

I told him I want to move abroad in 10 years… (I was hoping we could move together abroad one day)
I also told him I want to maybe studie more and get better job. He on the other hand seemed like he wants children soon and big family.
Do you think our goals really clashed? He didn’t even ask if I’m willing to compromise

[es20490446e]

What would be a good age for you to have children?

[Asker]

I’m 28. I would want to have soon.

[es20490446e]

So don't they match?

[Asker]

Match in what way?

[es20490446e]

Goals.

[Asker]

Yeah that’s what he said

[es20490446e]

Don't try to keep who doesn't want to keep you.

[zagor]

I wouldn't sit around waiting for that.

[Asker]

I told him I want to move abroad in 10 years… (I was hoping we could move together abroad one day)
I also told him I want to maybe studie more and get better job. He on the other hand seemed like he wants children soon and big family.

[zagor]

Where do you live?

[Asker]

Currently in the uk. We’re both originally from pakistan. I told him that I want to one day maybe in 10 years move back to our home country or in the middle east

[zagor]

He may not want to move back there if he is used to the West. It seems it would be rather crowded there. Though a guy I met who has climbed 5 of the 8000 meter peaks said he considered the mountains of Pakistan to be the most beautiful in the world. Probably not many people in that region though.

[Asker]

Tbh I would’ ve give up on it. It wasn’t that something that was very important to me.. but he didn’t want to talk about it and rejected me..

[zagor]

That may just be a convenient excuse for him to move on. I would recommend you moving on to someone else.

[Asker]

I did thought that maybe it was just a excuse but I hope he misses me and regrets his decision

[Anonymous]

Let him go. It's unlikely he will come back