I like my tattoo artist and I think he likes me back, but I accidentally found out he has a girlfriend, now I don't know what to do. Any advice?

[Anonymous]

We haven't truly got to know eachother until I came to him for a consultation for a tattoo but we've been friends on social media a really long time.

When I went to him for a consultation we ended up finding out we had a lot in common, the conversation (at least to me) felt so natural and fun, we ended up spending the whole day together talking while he was sketching the tattoo and it was a lot of fun, towards the end we just sat for a while and I showed him a couple of videos on my phone and we sort of naturally got close and I felt him touching my legs, he asked if it was ok and i said yes and honestly it was nice.

When we met for the tattoo again we had a full day together and we non stop talked about personal things and things we like, I shared that I'm insecure about my stomach and should him my stratch marks, he asked if he could touch them and I didn't mind, he told me stretch mark are beautiful. When the tattoo was done we found ourselves kind of close again and he touched my legs a bit.

It happned again when I went for a check up and touch ups for the tattoo.

Today I found out he has a girlfriend and I feel stupid and it hurts a little but also I can't help but wonder if I'm reading too much into it (I have ocd that can probably make me think too much), if I'm not then he is an ass and that sucks because I like the guy and honestly he doesn't seem like a bad guy but it's probably just me having a crush talking.

I was planning on getting another tattoo but I don't know if going back there would be smart, any advice?

Updates

11 mo

Update: Just found out he blocked me from seeing his stories on Instagram, not sure exactly what that means but I have a feeling it's because he knows he is doing something wrong but doesn't want to stop so he tried to make sure I didn't know he had a girlfriend, it's weird to me because something like this never happened to me before.

[Anonymous]

It’s like a 50-50 like the guy I’m crushing hard on. I don't know if he has a girlfriend. I don’t see anything on social media. He has been flirting with me and it seemed like one time he was hinting to me to come up flying with him, but he never said it. I do have his number but we haven’t texted each other for almost 3 weeks. I think my guy is trying to keep it professional as I’m technically his student. But hey that is a little weird. Some guys technically don’t bring up girlfriends and want business, so maybe that’s what both of our guys are doing to us. Who knows. But my friend did tell me to shoot your shot and the worst he can say is no. But don’t let your guy get to you so much! Just be happy with the tattoo and move on. Find someone better. You found out he has a girlfriend, no need to pursue that one anymore. Best of luck to you though girly!

[Rei13]

You did nothing wrong because you didn’t know and you weren’t stupid so get that out of your head. That said it’s ok that you like (d) him. Going forward I would get a new tattoo artist who is able to do what you want them to. This guy isn’t worth the energy if he is willing to cheat on his girlfriend and I would just take him as a lesson.

[SnowedIn]

Do nothing. He has a girl.

How would you feel if a guy who had a girl showed interest in you?

Or, if he does show interest in you do you want that? He's not willing to honor his commitment... is that what you want.

[Asker]

I hate the situation, the second I found out he had a girlfriend I felt horrible and sick to my stomach but at the same time I have stupid feeling but you are right I won't talk to him again, anyways he will never be able to commit to me if he can't truly commit to his current girlfriend

[SnowedIn]

That really sucks; I'm sorry you're in this position.

[boggboss]

Understand even if he likes u it's pointless pursuing anything because that shows he is not above cheating so if u want another tat go for it just don't go expecting things to happen or if they do don't let it happen

[Asker]

You are right, I think I'll just look for another artist I dont think i want to go to him again. I hate having stupid feeling but they'll go away.

[boggboss]

👍🏽

[dolllface]

girl the fact that he hid u from his stories shows he knows what he's doing, he likes u and he doesn't want u to know he has a girlfriend, he's lame u dont wanna be associated with a guy like that. move on and date someone else.

[whorable]

you don’t want to be the other women.. bc even if he does leave his girl for you.. once a cheater always a cheater.

[kylee2437]

Ditch him as an artist. He most likely is trying to get in your pants and that’s not an uncommon deal with tattoo artists. Tattoo artists are known whores

[pethouse]

BIG FACTS☝🏻☝🏻☝🏻

[Asker]

It's so sad, he doesn't seem like that type of guy but people can be deceiving. I won't go to him anymore, there are many other talented artists out there I can go to

[spartan55]

@kylee2437
Are they on par with l personal trainers, bartenders and firefighters?

[kylee2437]

@spartan55 yup. I’ve dated 2 personal trainers and both were whores

[spartan55]

@kylee2437
My roommate in college was a bartender. He was quite prolific.

[kylee2437]

@spartan55 I was probably most promiscuous when I was a bartender. Then again it was at the strip club so I kind of had to act too flirty

[spartan55]

@kylee2437
It would be difficult to not be promiscuous in that environment.

[Anonymous]

sadly it sounds like this guy is scum. i'd definitely go find a different tattoo artist. obviously something is wrong since he blocked you. just bad news...

[Justmeagain1]

Leave him be- this is not morally right for you to pursue this at all

[OldWomanBySoul]

Rule of thumb: if he cheats with you, he will cheat on you

[Jazzy54]

I’d say find another tattoo artist. He’s in a relationship. Plus, if I found out that my boyfriend was touching another woman’s legs, I’d be pretty upset. I wouldn’t proceed any further with him.

[Asker]

I felt so horrible when I found out about his girlfriend but also I felt stupid emotions and was not sure what to do but it will be best to never see him again he is not worth it.

[LiamJHayden]

Avoid getting into a situation with someone who is taken. If he'll dump her for you, he'll dump you for the next girl.

[Christoff92]

You're having a personal traits that he likes. Because of it he wishes his girlfriend was like that 🙂

[Luopio27]

Move on. Thats what you would want if you were in a reöationship.

[TacosRAwesome]

It's his job to make you feel comfortable and not awkward so you're not stressed.

[Massageman]

Don't mix business and pleasure. He might mis-spell a tat.

[boobliker]

give him your number and no more he will know you are interested say no more.

[Blueeyes81]

You found yourself a player.

[dragoblack]

Accept that he's in a relationship and move on

[In_Trance]

move on. find someone else

[Jltakk]

You'll find someone better I'm sure.

[slatyb]

Date someone else

[brandon1122]

Move on

[Luckycharms12]

Do nothing